This HAS to be Child Abuse!

[blackbarbie]

I know how hot that "blow fryer" can be, so I was cringing just reading your story!

On the other hand, the last time i was at the dom. salon, there was this lady and her little girl there. The lady had gotten her hair done and her daughter was sitting in her lap and they were just blowing hers straight. The little girl was probably 3 or 4 and she had big curly golden locks of hair. When I first saw them going towards her head with that blowfryer, I was like :burning:....that thing is going to burn that baby's brains out!! (to myself of course)

But wouldn't you know that the little girl took it like a champ? Not once did her mom have to tell her to sit still at all. I guess she wanted her hair straight like mommy's. I watched from start to finish and when they were done, the little girl was acting like a mini-diva, swinging her hair Now that part was funny and I was wondering to myself that even though that mess probably really did hurt, that little girl didn't flinch one bit b/c she wanted her hair straight. The first thing she said when they were done is "now it's like your's mommy."

 

[Bubblingbrownshuga]

I wonder when beauticians will start turning clients away if they know they will cause potential damage to someone's head. They have no problem turning you away if they feel like your hair would be too much to handle
I bet the mom wouldn't have gotten her hair blown out if she had 'good hurr.'

 

[wannabelong]

I have a 6 year old daughter and I would never put her through something like that! That is just horrific. Poor baby!

 

[Yellowflowers]

That is why people think of us the way they do because of crap like that. That is completly barbaric. Poor baby.I would have said something. I worked several years as a Child Counselor. I say something to people all the time. I had a walmart incident where this woman in the store with all of her kids like 1am in the morning. The littlest one all of about 1 or 2 was crying. (obviously past bedtime). Well she kept yelling at him and telling him to shut up. He would get quiet and after a few minutes start again. She then told him to shut his mouth or she was going to put her fist in his mouth and knock his teeth out. I said from where I was about 5ft away. I wish you would hit him. I will call CPS on you so fast. He is just a little child and it is 1am and he is sleepy. That seemed to settle that, I saw them a little later in the store and all the kids were settled and just being kids. She was obviously getting her rocks off by hitting and threatening her kids. But wasnt doing it anymore after I confronted her. I dont mean to go on about it but I see women beating the crap out of their kids, I mean slapping them in the face at about 1years, and spaking the crap out of thier legs and back. That is not necessary for a baby, these children are like 1-3 years old. I havent had any negative feedback from it. Sometimes people need a adult check to see what it looks like to other people. She has obviously seen other people doing this to their kids and thinks that it is okay. In the long run defending a small child and also making the mother think twice about doing it again.

Wow! I greatly admire your courage. Sometimes a ray of courage to speak the truth is all that is needed in the face of abuse and ignorance. I won't ge started but I hate to see people mistreat chldren. It's sickening.

 

[Reinventing21]

That is why people think of us the way they do because of crap like that. That is completly barbaric. Poor baby.I would have said something. I worked several years as a Child Counselor. I say something to people all the time. I had a walmart incident where this woman in the store with all of her kids like 1am in the morning. The littlest one all of about 1 or 2 was crying. (obviously past bedtime). Well she kept yelling at him and telling him to shut up. He would get quiet and after a few minutes start again. She then told him to shut his mouth or she was going to put her fist in his mouth and knock his teeth out. I said from where I was about 5ft away. I wish you would hit him. I will call CPS on you so fast. He is just a little child and it is 1am and he is sleepy. That seemed to settle that, I saw them a little later in the store and all the kids were settled and just being kids. She was obviously getting her rocks off by hitting and threatening her kids. But wasnt doing it anymore after I confronted her. I dont mean to go on about it but I see women beating the crap out of their kids, I mean slapping them in the face at about 1years, and spaking the crap out of thier legs and back. That is not necessary for a baby, these children are like 1-3 years old. I havent had any negative feedback from it. Sometimes people need a adult check to see what it looks like to other people. She has obviously seen other people doing this to their kids and thinks that it is okay. In the long run defending a small child and also making the mother think twice about doing it again.

I applaud your courage as well. It makes me nauseated to see people swearing, and threatening kids with physical abuse. If I ever see it get completely out of hand (like following through on the threats) I would have to do something. Getting back to the topic, tho, that's why I think the revolution that we ladies are embarking on is all the more important, so that one day the incident the OP observed will be unheard of, and the self-esteem of little girls won't constantly be stomped on.

 

[Kimberly]

That's horrible. I'd probably have to say something...even if it was something to the hairdresser like "hey, you don't use the highest heat setting on the babies, do you?"

Sometimes, people think that kids are just faking it but that mess really be hurting them. Her mother should have been more sensitive, imo.

 

[Moroni]

I hear you....
Its hurts just to read about it. And people wonder why women of color have such poor self esteem. It starts early.........

If only it were JUST women of color! Sad to tell you, it happens to ALL the races, and it boils MY blood, too! I see both sexes and all races of children verbally abused, slapped, and mistreated in MANY public places. It saddens me, and I sit in my car and cry sometimes to see it.

We have to pray for forgiveness for those who, whether out of ignorance or evil, choose to "offend the little ones", while we, at the same time, pray for the little ones as well. You know, if children were only born to good parents, a lot of us wouldn't be here.

Happy New Year! We can do our parts to make it a better world, though!

 

[Dayjoy]

My DD turned five back in April and had been begging to go to the salon with me to get her hair straightened. Because I hadn't planned a party for her I decided to take her. I made the appointment with someone other than my stylist because mine doesn't do natural hair. When we got there the experience was great. Everyone in the salon fawned over her and she felt like a princess. After she was washed there was some confusion about her appointment and I decided to just take her home. She protested and said she wanted her hair special for her birthday. She had been looking forward to it for so long so we stayed. The stylist was borderline cruel. I wanted to slap her. My baby had the worst experience. She cried but would not get out of that chair until she had the hairstyle she wanted. She kept her hair straight for a whole week and she loved it, but I regret the experience and don't think I can feel good about taking her to a salon again. It was after that that I found LHCF after looking up straightening techniques. She has been asking me when she could go back but from now on I am the only one in her hair. I don't want her to associate her hair and being beautiful with pain.

 

[Lovelylocs]

What kind of hair did the mother have?

 

[Zenobia61]

See, somebody like this crazzy-azzzz Mom would make me want to put my foot up her azzz and leave some tangles in her hair!! As a village, we need to pray for this child!

 

[Andreainnis]

That's horrible. I'd probably have to say something...even if it was something to the hairdresser like "hey, you don't use the highest heat setting on the babies, do you?"

Sometimes, people think that kids are just faking it but that mess really be hurting them. Her mother should have been more sensitive, imo.

Yea, my heart broke reading that story and I think...no I know I would be stalking the salon waiting for that mother & daughter to return for the opportunity to set it on all parties involved in the abuse. Maybe I should but I can never hold my tongue when I see an injustice inflicted on a helpless victim. I'm just so upset, wish I could protect every little girl in the world.

 

[imstush]

WOW.

I always cringe when I see children under those Hot Ass dryers. What happened to the days of pretty ponytails and braids with beads.