If the top of my head is 4b and 4b has the characteristics of being straight at times or what not (from that thread) then how do I start to fix this because I remember it used to be some texture coming in but it was looking straight for the longest. Even if I stop my puffs for awhile and just wear half wigs my hair will still be brushed back and smushed into a wig cap.
Start braiding all of your hair. You know the style you did like mine? The part you have in a puff, braid it in single plaits and hide it under a phony puff. In other words, wear all your hair the same. And then when you undo it...it'll have the same stretch all round.
I wear puffs, but when I plait all my hair and then not use a wet moisturizer...I can change my puff from looking like this:
...to looking like this:
The thing with 4B hair is when it is stretched, unless fully banded, it will not look like a 1 or a 2 or a 3...but just have its own cloud-like look, and if that's not what you're after, then I suggest wearing twists then a twist-out or braids, then a braid-out to get a wavy looking mane.
You can do this in the evening on damp hair or do it on dry hair than CW the braids and let them airdry. Then in the AM, undo and shake and have your stretched uniform pattern all through the hair. In other words...for 4B hair to behave the same all over, it all has to get the same treatment.
Cool thing about 4B hair is when you're tired with a style, you can wash and do another. But you have to learn the most basic lesson about 4B hair: unless you keep it in styles that stretch it (twists, braids,banded) you will have it tangling and knotting and may find it shrinking into a compact mass that seems to think its in charge. Also it really isn't that difficult once you learn how to get it to look how you want it to look.
I know what we say is not the final law, but if relaxing your hair would make you happy, we will support your decision....but don't do it!
