Guitarhero
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I'm tired of people assuming things about me just because I'm divorced:
1) I'm dead and devastated.
No, I'm not. If others wallow in their misery, well, that's them. I'm very much alive and well and am moving on. Sure, I get mad but the divorced behaviors began long before the paperwork. If anything, I'm angry about that awful behavior. That's when the real separation began. Sure, I have struggles but life is what you make of it. It's how you perceive it.
2) They feel sorry for me I was dumped.
Well, I wasn't dumped. I took action and moved on. Thanks for feeling sympathetic but if you've never been there, even if you have, your situation is different from mine because we're two different individuals. Respect is key. In a word, don't feel sorry for me...that's patronizing!
3) She must have committed adultery.
Usually, people try and guess if adultery was the reason for a breakup. Don't try and guess, people can read it in your actions, in your face. It's like telepathy but you don't realize you're sending off the signal we can read. See me as an individual and get over your curiosity. Unless I tell you the reasons for the divorce - get this - IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!! Have some respect, for Pete's sake. And stop asking my kids personal questions when they go over to play with your kids!
4) She moved because she's marrying somebody else.
Um, refer to #3 because again, IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!!! How do people allow their minds to wander in this negative way? Then they wonder why you don't want to have much else to do with them. It's as though you don't truly exist as a whole person to them anymore. They are always trying to size you up to either find a reason to be angry with you or to feel sorry. Don't. Next!
5) Is she dating now?
Sigh, until you get a wedding invitation, don't worry about it. Honestly, people try and give you all kinds of advice like, "don't bring any man around your kids" or "so many are looking to molest your kids or use you for money." The worst? "Honey, how do you bring your man overnight when the kids are there?" I'm a devout CATHOLIC. You go figure it out, stoopid!
Gee, thanks for the advice. I'm no fool, I'm just divorced.
6) If you look tired or less-than-stellar, you must be depressed.
No, I'm either tired, have been doing yard work and popped out to run an errand without changing into Chanel & Laboutins or...xyz! I hate it when somebody goes on and on about how you must be depressed and should try dating...as though dating is a therapy for depression. If anything, all you divorced people...STOP DATING UNTIL U GET OVER YOUR DEPRESSIONS. IT'S CATCHING! You know, some of us have balance???
7) And this is the kicker....SHE'S SUCH A SINNER CUZ SHE DIVORCED!
Sighhhhhhhh. Please stop it. My divorce is between me and G-d, not you, your interpretation of scripture and me and my ex. My church has got me covered! And no, when I remarry, I will NOT be committing adultery. Again, you don't know all this because....you ain't in it, never were and never will be. Worry about your own soul, PLEASE!
You can add to my rantings...it's cathartic...now, where's my sweet tea? Ahhhhhh.
1) I'm dead and devastated.
No, I'm not. If others wallow in their misery, well, that's them. I'm very much alive and well and am moving on. Sure, I get mad but the divorced behaviors began long before the paperwork. If anything, I'm angry about that awful behavior. That's when the real separation began. Sure, I have struggles but life is what you make of it. It's how you perceive it.
2) They feel sorry for me I was dumped.
Well, I wasn't dumped. I took action and moved on. Thanks for feeling sympathetic but if you've never been there, even if you have, your situation is different from mine because we're two different individuals. Respect is key. In a word, don't feel sorry for me...that's patronizing!
3) She must have committed adultery.
Usually, people try and guess if adultery was the reason for a breakup. Don't try and guess, people can read it in your actions, in your face. It's like telepathy but you don't realize you're sending off the signal we can read. See me as an individual and get over your curiosity. Unless I tell you the reasons for the divorce - get this - IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!! Have some respect, for Pete's sake. And stop asking my kids personal questions when they go over to play with your kids!
4) She moved because she's marrying somebody else.
Um, refer to #3 because again, IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!!! How do people allow their minds to wander in this negative way? Then they wonder why you don't want to have much else to do with them. It's as though you don't truly exist as a whole person to them anymore. They are always trying to size you up to either find a reason to be angry with you or to feel sorry. Don't. Next!
5) Is she dating now?
Sigh, until you get a wedding invitation, don't worry about it. Honestly, people try and give you all kinds of advice like, "don't bring any man around your kids" or "so many are looking to molest your kids or use you for money." The worst? "Honey, how do you bring your man overnight when the kids are there?" I'm a devout CATHOLIC. You go figure it out, stoopid!
Gee, thanks for the advice. I'm no fool, I'm just divorced. 6) If you look tired or less-than-stellar, you must be depressed.
No, I'm either tired, have been doing yard work and popped out to run an errand without changing into Chanel & Laboutins or...xyz! I hate it when somebody goes on and on about how you must be depressed and should try dating...as though dating is a therapy for depression. If anything, all you divorced people...STOP DATING UNTIL U GET OVER YOUR DEPRESSIONS. IT'S CATCHING! You know, some of us have balance???7) And this is the kicker....SHE'S SUCH A SINNER CUZ SHE DIVORCED!
Sighhhhhhhh. Please stop it. My divorce is between me and G-d, not you, your interpretation of scripture and me and my ex. My church has got me covered!
And no, when I remarry, I will NOT be committing adultery. Again, you don't know all this because....you ain't in it, never were and never will be. Worry about your own soul, PLEASE!You can add to my rantings...it's cathartic...now, where's my sweet tea? Ahhhhhh.
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yes, I'm fine. It's okay, really.
