They after me for my money

[CurleeDST]

I have several well accomplished friends who have very high-profile jobs with the $$$ to match. They travel the world, live in beautiful homes and meet interesting people day in and day out. They are very attractive, fit and great conversationalists as they are highly intelligent. As you can see I view my friends very highly!

I met up with some of them for a girl's lunch/brunch on Friday and we were talking about guys we dated, blah blah blah. Two of the 3 of us are now married so that leaves one unmarried. She was speaking of her last 3 engagements and why they did not result in marriage. It came down to her feeling as if two of the 3 wanted to be with her for her money and the stature she brings to the relationship vs. wanting to be with her for just her.

One of the guys is a former NBA player for the Cleveland Cavaliers and was flying her here and there, paying for spa treatments etc. and she was offended because she felt he wanted a trophy and arm piece and did not care about her input or opinions.

Then we spoke of one of my husband's friends who married a doctor. They live in a gorgeous 4,000 sq. ft. home with a pool with waterfall, home theater, etc. etc. The husband CONSTANTLY talks about his wife being a doctor and if you comment on something nice they have in the home he is quick to let you know how much it cost.

When I introduced that my friend (who is a highly sought-after physician) said she feels that guys want to be with her because she is a doctor and so they can say they are with a doctor and not being with her just for her. They come to her with money-making schemes such as opening an organic farm and asking her to fund it while they are in their relationship.

My other girflriend then chimed in and said that guys want to date doctors and lawyers. What do you ladies think?

 

[DayStar]

i think some of those chicks are paranoid

 

[ElizaBlue]

Um...yeah...men can be gold-diggers too. Women don't have the market cornered on that.

But often these women present themselves as, "if you put a ring on my finger then, yes all this can be yours" I have many many friends like that.

Men who are of their same stations in life, don't care about her money. They are typically wanting a woman that other men will be envious of him for. That's when you see them marry the "other" chicks. Those other chicks will have the long silky hair, implants, no job, no skills, no aspirations other then how they look.

This is what a lot of men were introduced to back when they were 13 and 14 and just coming of age, and going through puberty, passing around Playboy magazines with the pages stuck together.

So it is still their image of what all little boys want. They were not looking at women that resembled their mother's and aunts, thinking now that's what I want to marry when I grow up. It was these plastic dolls in the pin up mags.

Once they get the money, fame and fortune they go get them a Hugh Hefner second hand bimbo. So for those men,I say good luck and thank you Jesus for removing them from the selection rack.

Now for the brother's out there who honestly want a good-girl. Someone who while she eats right and exercises, may still be a big girl. Someone with a education and some accomplishments. You know maybe she has a few initials behind her name. She has already acquired some things. These brothers may not always be where she is. They maybe trying to get there and would be the best husband in the world. The best father in the world to her future children, as well.

But sadly these sister's may not even give that brother a second chance. There are those like that. My maybe wanna be new sister in law is that way. He best have his most recent 401K statement, still in the envelope un-opened when he picks her up in that shiny new "leased through the nose" Benzo. But hey he represents to her what a real man looks like.

And then of course let's now leave out the scam artist. These are the ones who know you are desparate. You've acquired all those worldly possessions and now your maternal clock be ticking like a time bomb. He will tell you everything you want to hear. But you are not listening to what he's really saying. Which is "with your money and my looks I can go get me a real pin-up magazine trophy wife" and that while I am willing to get married, it'll just be until I find what I'm really looking for.

 

[Crackers Phinn]

I think that if your intuition is telling you something ain't right about the man you are with that you should pay attention to it.

That's not paranoia it's survival.

 

[drasgrl]

I guess the feminist movement has succeeded. What's good for the goose is good for the gander. Isn't that what women do? Don't get mad at the men for wanting the same. I guess she needs to set her sights on someone a lot higher than her then she won't feel he's only after her for status or money because he already has it.