NYLegalNewbie
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Just found out today. We hadn't spoken in months. And then, out of the blue, he emails me at my work email address. I was excited to hear from him. And then, in his 4th or 5th email, he announces that he got engaged on Christmas Eve, to a woman he hasn't even dated for an entire year...
I accept responsibility for the relationship just not happening. When we first met and started to date, my mind was just in another place. I don't think I would have been suitable to be in a relationship with anyone. I didn't even know if I wanted to be a in relationship. And I avoided anything serious with him for fear of hurting him because I just didn't know where I was at in my mind and heart. But he was always crazy about me. And while I knew he liked me very much, I didn't realize he felt so strongly about me. Not until it was too late, not until he was all the way on the other side of the country. I was upset when he announced he was moving, but I didn't say how much it upset me. I wasn't sure if saying anything would do any good. He missed CA and wanted to be closer to his family. So I figured, "What's the use of saying anything?" It didn't help to hear I was the one thing he missed about NYC and the one thing that would've kept him here
It's just the classic, sad story of the right people at the wrong time.
It's a blow in a week of news about others moving forward with their relationships. Two people engaged. One with a beautiful newborn. One who is positively ecstatic that her boyfriend of a year is finally in the same city with her.
I don't begrude anyone their happiness. Not at all, and especially not the guy in question. He has a gentle heart and a kind spirit, and I hope the woman who marries him really takes good care of him. He deserves it.
But even as I am happy for others, I can't help but sit here with a broken heart. Sad and frustrated because even after all the self refection, all the commitment to myself to make myself a better person, I haven't had a relationship in 4 years that's lasted more than a couple of months. I sit here and think, my heart and mind are both open now, so, where's my opportunity to share in the love too?
I accept responsibility for the relationship just not happening. When we first met and started to date, my mind was just in another place. I don't think I would have been suitable to be in a relationship with anyone. I didn't even know if I wanted to be a in relationship. And I avoided anything serious with him for fear of hurting him because I just didn't know where I was at in my mind and heart. But he was always crazy about me. And while I knew he liked me very much, I didn't realize he felt so strongly about me. Not until it was too late, not until he was all the way on the other side of the country. I was upset when he announced he was moving, but I didn't say how much it upset me. I wasn't sure if saying anything would do any good. He missed CA and wanted to be closer to his family. So I figured, "What's the use of saying anything?" It didn't help to hear I was the one thing he missed about NYC and the one thing that would've kept him here
It's just the classic, sad story of the right people at the wrong time.
It's a blow in a week of news about others moving forward with their relationships. Two people engaged. One with a beautiful newborn. One who is positively ecstatic that her boyfriend of a year is finally in the same city with her.
I don't begrude anyone their happiness. Not at all, and especially not the guy in question. He has a gentle heart and a kind spirit, and I hope the woman who marries him really takes good care of him. He deserves it.
But even as I am happy for others, I can't help but sit here with a broken heart. Sad and frustrated because even after all the self refection, all the commitment to myself to make myself a better person, I haven't had a relationship in 4 years that's lasted more than a couple of months. I sit here and think, my heart and mind are both open now, so, where's my opportunity to share in the love too?
You can't help that you weren't ready when he was ready. Such is life. If that guy could fall for you hard so can another one.
not to be imposing bad luck on his behalf but a lot of things happen right before you head down the alter. I personally know of 3 canceled weddings over the past 2 years.
