Sorry to bump such an old thread... I stumbled upon it yesterday in the middle of my overwhelming need to find some comfort in solace from women who have been in the same position I'm finding myself in now.
My boyfriend has become emotionally distant... When we started dating, things were beyond perfect and amazing... He was affectionate, compassionate, full of passion, free-flowing with his words. Things changed for us when he got a promotion at his job and I started going back to school on top of working full-time; he works in the restaurant industry so our time together has lessened dramatically because now he's in management.
Anyway, I have been feeling very alone in this relationship. We would be in the same room together and I would feel this overwhelming feeling of loneliness and sadness. I tried talking to him about it before a few times, with which he would understand where I'm coming from but never make any real progress. I attempted to break up with him and he begged me not to and assured me that he recognizes that I'm hurting and he will work on changing and becoming more emotionally available as he once was.
I tried to be more patient, because I know that for me, I tend to want to be in control about everything. We had a big fight on Sunday though after I planned what was supposed to be a nice weekend for us, and at that point I had had it. I reasoned in my heart that maybe he just didn't love me anymore and it wasn't worth it for me to stick around.
I prayed [really heavily, honestly] for some guidance on the matter. Because I do love him and because I do want things to work, but I also know that I had done everything possible and that I needed some insight as to which road was the one to take.
Well last night he texts me letting me know that he wants to talk to me about something and that it has to do with us. He calls me later on and I'm expecting for us to be over, but instead he starts off with an apology. (Which took me by complete surprise because he is NOT someone who apologizes).
Apparently, he had been thinking a lot ever since Sunday about his behavior towards me and his overall demeanor for the last couple of weeks and he's realized (albeit, a little late) that he has been a real jerk towards me unfairly. He went on to say how sorry he was for being a bad boyfriend, and that his frustrations and stresses with work and life have him feeling very overwhelmed and angry at times, but that that's no excuse to take it out on me. He reaffirmed how much he loves me, and how he knows that I've been being a great and loving girlfriend and that he's ultimately just so sorry for the distance he's caused and that he wants to work on things.
I believe that there is power in prayer, but I also just want to say how much I loved this thread because I identified with so many of the examples listed here and it felt so comforting to find comfort in you guys. :hugs: