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FoxxyLocs I don't have much advice. . I conqured SSK's and splits with lots of moisture and sealing. I believe alot of people have success with oil rinses. Baggy method, and oils and butters for Deep condition and pre poo's are alot of the method' s I have used. 1ballarina mentions using shea butter that reduced her ssk's. Terri Laflesh of tighly curly, I think also conquered them with her method.
Heat will only make them occur more (My observance and experiance) Trimmining will cause splits(My observance and experiance) Wearing hair out and letting it dry out is most likely something one with hair more than APL can not do. 1ballareina wears her hair loose and has been able to acheive a balance. I might could but with TBL hair and my life it would not work. A balance of hair style and regimine will have to be achieved that suits your hair but may not be exactly what you want. I quess that is the choice to be made for extra longer lengths.
None the less you have a nice head of hair and hope you will find the balance you need.