Strategies for Thick Girls

Belle Du Jour

Belle Du Jour

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What are the best ways for thicker women to meet men? Being set up? Online dating? Out and about during your daily life? Do guys give you a chance more if they have a chance to see your personality first vs seeing your pic on a screen and passing you over because you're overweight?

Disclaimer: I personally believe that while being healthy is important, wherever you are on that journey towards health, love can still be a possibility. :yep:
 
Attend mostly black events. :look:














But on a more serious note, why would thick women need special strategies to meet men? I thought men liked thick women with curves. Just strut your stuff.


Or are you misusing the word 'thick'?
 
Don't over think it! Don't have the attitude of "I'm overweight therefore...". It will weight you down.


Put your best foot forward, go out there and face the world with confidence. Once guys get a whiff of that confident scent, they will come no matter where you are (bus, door step, supermarket) - trust me!

(All from experience,Luvvy)

Best of luck

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An old friend of mine was considered "overweight" yet she still had men that would hit on her on a daily basis. She was always smiling, making eye contact, and basically being herself. She was a very confident woman and I think that's the key.
 
whats thick? and why are you seperating yourself from other women based on your "thickness"? Arent you a woman? Got a c00ch and boobs too right?? My first advice is to get past that train of thought. Your just as feminine as any other woman, no matter what society and lhcf's shallowness tries to tell you.
 
Be confident. I am a plus sized diva and regardless of size, things happen, it isn't because you are fat or skinny, it just is. Us big girls don't need different strategies.
 
First thing I thought was "Why do you need a strategy to meet men because you're thick?"
-Be you
-Love being you
-Everything else is secondary.

Being thick is negligible, but make sure you dress well for your shape (that goes for everyone anyway). Everyone has a preference which you may or may not fit into, so be it. There is always someone attracted to the "type" that you are, and if you are what I believe thick is, you're spoiled for choice in that area!
 
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I'm thick, and in my experience, thick women have no trouble attracting men of any color.
I wear a size 8-10 just to clarify what I consider thick...
 
ThickHair said:
Be confident. I am a plus sized diva and regardless of size, things happen, it isn't because you are fat or skinny, it just is. Us big girls don't need different strategies.
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Exactly. There is no strategy. Just be the wonderful and positive person you are. Just recently starting dating a great guy who likes me just as I am. I am overweight and outright confided in him that I want and need to lose 75 pounds for me and to look better in my clothes. He keeps urging me not too because he likes my shape just as I am now. I am tall so my height hides it well but I still need to drop some pounds. The past few months I have gotten very confident about myself in general and it shows in my persona when I interact with men.
 
So wait a size 12 is thick? Im 5'5'' and a 16 I've lost a little weight so if I go shopping I may wear a 14 but my thighs and legs are to die for :lol: My best friend told be this yesterday but kept saying no homo. It was hilarious but she was serious. I'm only trying to lose this darn stomach of mine :-/

But to answer your question dont feel as if you need a strategy! I know that no man will be attracted to a woman who isnt confident. Not saying you are but singling out yourself and feeling as if you need a method isnt the way to go.
 
Thanks for the replies. Maybe "strategy" was the wrong word choice, but it seems bigger women get less attention from men in general (although that may not be the case for everyone). This isn't really a "woe is me" question. It's simply a request for advice on navigating the dating world with a body type that may not be considered the ideal. Hope that clarifies the question.
 
There is a difference between thick and fat. And proportions do make a difference. If a woman's proportions are off and she is what is considered to be fat she really will need a strategy IMO and I'm not sure what that strategy is. A thick or curvy woman with full hips, pretty legs, dresses nicely, and is confident, will be good though.
 
Okay so im 6 feet tall size 18 with a whole lotta curves, Proud of it. You can see my amazionian behind coming from a far. If guy hasn't decided by the time i walked up him and bypassed then i don't know what to say cause I look good, even on my most craptastic day.My strategy be myself if,cause i don't know how to be anybody else.

You don't need a special strategy, trust me. I'm never putting myself through hoops for nobody I don't have the time for that.

Confidence is all you need, I know it's easier said than done but that is the number one thing. If you walk around beating yourself up it will show, and nobody will be attracted. If you put out confidence people will be attracted to you. If the guy that i have my eye on wants a smaller girl that's ok that is his preference. What one man don't like another one will. I'm not waisting my time worrying about strategy.
 
when i was a size 14 (5"0), with long hair, i had no problem with the fellas. confidence is the key and dress for your size. i knew there were certain clothes that i had no business wearing when i was that size and i accepted that gracefully! :lachen:

oh and i had a really big, round behind too, so that might of helped some! :lachen:
 
I'm gonna be the bad guy in this thread and say ... CONFIDENCE? Really? That's all you need, huh? (lol) Come on, ladiesssssss. Let's be real.
 
I prefer to go OUT to meet gentleman. That way there is no question of whether or not he is interested. If he sees you and approaches you than he obvioulsy likes what he has seen. It takes the guess work out of it.

Im a thick girl myself at 5'5 size 12/14, and although Ive always attracted men, they were beating the door down after I lost roughly 15 pounds. It wasnt really alot of weight, but I think I just felt better about myself and my accomplishment which made me seem even MORE confident. Bottomline even if you dont lose a gang of weight, even a little weight will make a difference in your self esteem and confidence levels.

Not trying to lose any weight anytime soon? Make sure you are on your "A" game when you step out. Big or small, everything should be packaged nicely. Take full advantage of spanx, girdles, proper undergarments or whatever neccesary to smooth out those extra curves and bulges. Beat that hair into submission and your face should be on point with natural make up that flatters your skin tone. Dont forget your perfume, diva!! Find a good one and you'll grab his attention before he even sees you. Also, PLEASE DONT FORGET TO SMILE, make eye contact, and look approachable. Oh, and do wear heels, because they accentuate your legs and bring the look all together.
 
barbiesocialite said:
I wore a size 8 for most of my teenage years and early college and this is what I consider "thick" as well.
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I smell a spin-off :lol: Personally, I think "thin" is 0-10; 12-18 is "thick;" 20+ is "plus size." Of course, height makes a difference and proportions. But maybe we should wait for the OP to clarify what sizes she means as thick.
 
BEAUTYU2U said:
I smell a spin-off :lol: Personally, I think "thin" is 0-10; 12-18 is "thick;" 20+ is "plus size." Of course, height makes a difference and proportions. But maybe we should wait for the OP to clarify what sizes she means as thick.
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LOL I thought the same thing!

I'm 5'7, but during my size 8-10 years was when men would call me thick and curvy or "brickhouse" which is how I determined that as being the definition of thick. I'm not that fat anymore tho :look:
 
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i can't see an 18 being thick unless you're like 6'5

i consider thick to be 8-14 depending on proportions and height. anything bigger is plus sized...anything smaller is either slim or skinny.

but to answer OP question, thick women shouldnt have to do anything different
 
I think the biggest turn off is not dressing yourself according to your size.

Guys tend to play girls who wear clothes that are too small for them. Bering big doesnt mean mumu but it doesnt doesnt mean forcing yourself into a size 4 skirt or jeans thus making you look sloppy and unattractive.
 
Being confident is not in the size you are. It's how you carry yourself and what size you feel comfortable in. A skinny girl might not feel confident, but a "thick/fat" girl might so it depends and there are no special strategies.
 
Halle Berry types have trouble finding men and you are telling me thick girls don't need strategies??? Where is the "C'mon son" GIF when I need it?
 
Most people here don't believe Halle Berry types have trouble finding men. HB doesn't have trouble finding men. She has trouble attracting/keeping quality men.

Unless the op is obese and/or is looking to attract wm, black and hispanic men are known to prefer thicker women, so why would they need strategies in the dating world other than to go where these men are and present yourself well?
 
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