I can feel him on the polyamory article and the sex article.....
Me personally for myself I had a major choice to make when I was 21 that involved choosing a path of marriage and family and in my heart I knew of unhappiness because the whole energy I was in, the man, the circumstances everything was all WRONG....I cried and cried for days on end because I knew the choice I ultimately decided would change my life and path in one way or the other....one choice would go down the "socially correct" path that I knew in my heart was not the right one for me specifically, but would be "great" and "picture perfect" for society on the outside looking in.....and I even tried to argue what my what my heart was telling me.....but it would of been stifling, restrictive, confining and trapped for me and if im not free, allowing, flowing and loving neither will anybody around me or involved with me be.....I chose in the end to follow my heart and do what I knew was best for me.......
the ways and the speed I have grown in the past 11 years after making that decision and other major decisions that were a toss up of live for societal approval or live for yourself circumstances....the relationships I have engaged in with men and women (not on sexual levels with women and not even on sexual levels with alot of men, but connections with them and learning about myself thru them that have helped me out tremendously by just being more open to experiencing what most people are afraid to do)
I have had to deal with causing alot of hurt and pain to others, esp men that have made me feel bad in the past because who I was mesmerized them and at the same time scared them to death that they felt they had to "lock me down", throwing engagement rings at me and I knew they were doing it out of fear and not love....., and the best relationships I have with the men close to me in my life are the ones who love me and allow me to be me, and me likes to experience, associate and be intimately involved on different levels with different people.....I think now where Im at Im more open to monogomy because I feel Im at a point now where I could be with somebody and enjoy them and feel like a soulmate to them vs a cellmate...with the right person of course...and even still be with them as long as our love lasts and we both consciously choose to be with each other and feel we are both growing and thriving..not feeling stifled and stuck...and thats because I did choose to experience different people,relationships sexual and non sexual to really get to know myself, embrace myself, open up myself, be myself, love myself, ...where Im at today has alot to do with how and who I have experienced over the years in my life, and I know going any other route I would nowhere near be the woman I am today
I do feel where he is coming from and it takes alot of courage to be open about true feelings and desires and be able to take the backlash...believe me i know firsthand, its not fun, its not easy, it doesn't feel good and its way easier to succumb to fear and dillude yourself than to have the courage to be free, be yourself, and be honest