Spinoff, would you put your phone# into a guy's cell?
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deltadreamland
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NO. If he wants my number in his cell, he'd put it in there himself.
MrsAriannaAmbers
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No. It makes you look a little psychotic. End of story.
People's cell phone is like their livelihood if not their life...they feel like your violating them if you do such a thing without their permission.
Let me give the ABC
A. We are married and your paying all the bills (but most married folk I know don't even do this)
B. Your under 18, living in my house and I'm the mama
C. I was gonna burst into flames and the only way to keep me from doing so is to unlock my phone.
People's cell phone is like their livelihood if not their life...they feel like your violating them if you do such a thing without their permission.
Let me give the ABC
A. We are married and your paying all the bills (but most married folk I know don't even do this)
B. Your under 18, living in my house and I'm the mama
C. I was gonna burst into flames and the only way to keep me from doing so is to unlock my phone.
VelvetRain
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No because I have never had a reason to want to. Men that have wanted to contact me straight asked me for my contact information. Not only is it bold but extremely brave.
Bene
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If we're exchanging numbers, I just call my cell from his cell, then go back and save contact on his phone. It's a lot easier for me to do this than repeating the number how ever many times, then spelling my name and waiting for him to figure out his own cell phone.
I happen to be some sort of technological idiot savant. I can always figure out someone's cell.
I happen to be some sort of technological idiot savant. I can always figure out someone's cell.
I might if I was feeling in that mood. I know it is ideal for the man to approach the woman but have NONE of you ever approached a guy before? Ever ever?
It's not the worst thing in the world! You (plural) tell the girl to put herself out there and when she does you tell her "no, but not like that".
It's not the worst thing in the world! You (plural) tell the girl to put herself out there and when she does you tell her "no, but not like that".
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Curlybeauty
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Have done it before and will do it again 
I'm an aggressive type, and although chivalry isn't dead...I don't see the harm in getting things moving in the desired direction....I'm just saying
Feelings are always mutual so I don't and wouldn't view this as a creepy, or psychotic motion
I think guys like to see women taking that first initial step. No one said you had to stalk the guy..just put in a position of oppertunity......
I'm an aggressive type, and although chivalry isn't dead...I don't see the harm in getting things moving in the desired direction....I'm just saying
Feelings are always mutual so I don't and wouldn't view this as a creepy, or psychotic motion
I think guys like to see women taking that first initial step. No one said you had to stalk the guy..just put in a position of oppertunity......
vevster
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I approached a guy :shiver: I did not know that his gf was there.
Ha, my sister met her now DH that night...
:sigh:
going back to my 'taking myself out the game thread'.
Dang, y'all!
Nope, I can't say that I have. Its just not my thing. But I don't knock people who do.
Bunny77
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I did. Frequently. Back in the day, I had the exact mindset that you've written here.
Guess what? It never worked. For me at least... I can't speak for anyone else.
So I stopped. The results improved dramatically... so if it ain't broke, ain't no need to change things.
I expect men to ask me out and pursue me, and nothing less. And it works for me.
YankeeCandle
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I am sure the women in this thread who have done this were always delightful, surprising, adorable, and charming when they reached for that laddie's phone. I would expect nothing less from LHCF. 
Having said that, I find it deeply obnoxious to see either women or men do this to people's phones. There were no cell phones when I was in middle school, but I observe tweens today, and this strikes me as something very middle-schoolish. There is something childish in the pretend coyness of it, the tittering, the flashing of cheeky grins as though to say "this is my way of flirting with you, and aren't I so cute you can't get mad at me?"
Uh, yes, I sure can get mad at you for grabbing what's not yours and using it as an excuse to check my business and insinuate yourself in my life before i've granted you that opportunity.
I hate it when both men and women have done this to me, both with platonic and romantic ends in mind. I didn't feel flattered, I felt irritated that they had the temerity to grab my phone, scroll through my address book, possibly check my text messages, and programme themselves into my life without me inviting them in.
Having said that, I find it deeply obnoxious to see either women or men do this to people's phones. There were no cell phones when I was in middle school, but I observe tweens today, and this strikes me as something very middle-schoolish. There is something childish in the pretend coyness of it, the tittering, the flashing of cheeky grins as though to say "this is my way of flirting with you, and aren't I so cute you can't get mad at me?"
Uh, yes, I sure can get mad at you for grabbing what's not yours and using it as an excuse to check my business and insinuate yourself in my life before i've granted you that opportunity.
I hate it when both men and women have done this to me, both with platonic and romantic ends in mind. I didn't feel flattered, I felt irritated that they had the temerity to grab my phone, scroll through my address book, possibly check my text messages, and programme themselves into my life without me inviting them in.
YankeeCandle
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Oh, and that was absolutely not an indictment of GlibGurl's actions from another thread. She seems to indeed be a genuinely delightful person who could be forgiven for her cheekiness.
MarcustheWu
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I have no problems with women approaching men. I have a problem with people doing uninvited this with other people's property. I am assuming the OP meant uninvited. If not, than of course I find nothing wrong with it
Sunshine77
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No I wouldn't do it. I had a coworker do that to me once. He said he wanted to check out my phone to see if he liked it. He saved his # in my phone and called his phone so he would have mine. Then one day he came to my apartment unannounced and was knocking on my door (I didn't buzz him in). It scared me. Another coworker said he liked me but the man has a wife and kids. He backed off after a while.
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CandiceC
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No.
I gave out hints when I was in high school, but other than that hunting never appealed to me.
When I entered adulthood it's like if the guy wasn't pursuing or expressing interest he was irrelevant.
I have had guys become attractive to me after they expressed interest in me. Before that they were just a cute guy.To answer the OP question, no. I would not put my number in a guy's phone (unless he handed it to me). It's very intrusive and could scare him into thinking you'd get all up in his stuff/space if something were to progress.
Nope, never ever.
I really don't know what to say, I'm old fashion. If you really want to approach a guy you should.
My friend is getting married and she hunted his guy down. Sooooooo.........IDK.
yup in my heyday--have done it b4----put my name & email in his bb---obivously after there was a direct indication that he wanted to be on perfect28's team and i wanted him to have at minimum my email--so we could continue dancing and sipping...getting further accquainted....
Ediese
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Absolutely NOT! I've seen some men get ready to fight over women trying to touch their phones, so NO WAY! Even some men in relationships don't want their SO touching their phone. I would hate for someone to try to do that to me. It's my phone, and I would see it as an invasion of my privacy.
Oh yea, if he didnt' ask for my number what possible reason do I have for programming my number in his phone?
Oh yea, if he didnt' ask for my number what possible reason do I have for programming my number in his phone?
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