Spinoff: So, What's the Purpose of Marriage/What Do You Expect From Marriage?

[cocoberry10]

This is a spinoff to the longterm marriage/cheating and the inevitable cheating threads.

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=352541

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=352783

QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU SEE AS THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE?

QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU EXPECT FROM MARRIAGE?

QUESTION: WHAT SACRIFICES DO YOU PLAN TO MAKE (OR WHAT TYPES WILL YOU MAKE, IF YOU DON'T MIND SHARING)?

For example, do you see marriage as two people in love, committed to each other?

Is it two people of like background who can merge wealth?

It is two soul-mates?

Is it about having superior children?

What do you see as the purpose of marriage? What are your expectations? What are the benefits? What sacrifices are you willing to make (good and bad)?

I hope this thread makes sense.

 

[LBoogie]

This is a spinoff to the longterm marriage/cheating and the inevitable cheating threads.

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=352541

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=352783

QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU SEE AS THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE? In house hoo-hoo

QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU EXPECT FROM MARRIAGE? Everything

QUESTION: WHAT SACRIFICES DO YOU PLAN TO MAKE (OR WHAT TYPES WILL YOU MAKE, IF YOU DON'T MIND SHARING)? Whatever it takes.

For example, do you see marriage as two people in love, committed to each other? yes

Is it two people of like background who can merge wealth? yes

It is two soul-mates?yes

Is it about having superior children? Sure!

What do you see as the purpose of marriage? What are your expectations? What are the benefits? What sacrifices are you willing to make (good and bad)?

I hope this thread makes sense.

 

[cocoberry10]

This is a spinoff to the longterm marriage/cheating and the inevitable cheating threads.

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=352541

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=352783

QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU SEE AS THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE? In house hoo-hoo

QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU EXPECT FROM MARRIAGE? Everything

QUESTION: WHAT SACRIFICES DO YOU PLAN TO MAKE (OR WHAT TYPES WILL YOU MAKE, IF YOU DON'T MIND SHARING)? Whatever it takes.

For example, do you see marriage as two people in love, committed to each other? yes

Is it two people of like background who can merge wealth? yes

It is two soul-mates?yes

Is it about having superior children? Sure!

What do you see as the purpose of marriage? What are your expectations? What are the benefits? What sacrifices are you willing to make (good and bad)?

I hope this thread makes sense.

Thanks for your response.

 

[treybaby2005]

This is a spinoff to the longterm marriage/cheating and the inevitable cheating threads.

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=352541

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=352783

QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU SEE AS THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE? The total commitment.

QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU EXPECT FROM MARRIAGE?
love respect communication friendship goodtimes bad times etc.......
QUESTION: WHAT SACRIFICES DO YOU PLAN TO MAKE (OR WHAT TYPES WILL YOU MAKE, IF YOU DON'T MIND SHARING)? the sacrifices I am willing to make are not running at our first,second, third obstacle whatever it is and handling it.If we together for life I have to expect some obstacles.Cheating could pehaps be one of them,I would personally pick something else to overcome if I had the choice.

For example, do you see marriage as two people in love, committed to each other? yes

Is it two people of like background who can merge wealth? yes

It is two soul-mates? yes

Is it about having superior children? yes and no. my child came first but its never to late to make it right.he is superior regardless

What do you see as the purpose of marriage? What are your expectations? What are the benefits? What sacrifices are you willing to make (good and bad)?
I don't expect more than what we have already been doing but it is such a great feeling to know that it will be harder to run (both parties) with that piece of paper there.
I hope this thread makes sense.

I'm getting married in May and I can't wait to say I am my fh wife!

 

[SvelteVelvet]

This is a spinoff to the longterm marriage/cheating and the inevitable cheating threads.

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=352541

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=352783

QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU SEE AS THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE? For me it's the ideal foundation that should be established before building a family which is something I want. It takes a man and woman to make a child, just like any business agreement that involves two individuals will require a contract, for me, bringing children in this world will require the same. Also, I have close female friends, but I want a male best friend/lover to experience life with for the rest of my adulthood.

QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU EXPECT FROM MARRIAGE? Security (emotional, physical, and financial <--and I'm working on myself to be able to contribute to that as well, not looking for anyone to 'take care' of me but someone who could if he needed to and more importantly someone who wouldn't mind doing so.) Stability, Reciprocity, Unconditional Love & Support.

QUESTION: WHAT SACRIFICES DO YOU PLAN TO MAKE (OR WHAT TYPES WILL YOU MAKE, IF YOU DON'T MIND SHARING)? I just realized I missed this question. I will sacrifice dating other men. That's it. Lol, no it will depend on who the Mr. is. I'm a free spirit, I get wanderlust alot so I like to travel and go it alone, or have weekend excursions with out of town friends. I'd imagine when I'm married I'd be expected to sacrifice acting on this tendency or drag him along.
For example, do you see marriage as two people in love, committed to each other? Yes

Is it two people of like background who can merge wealth? Ideal but not necessary

It is two soul-mates? More like timing and other important areas falling into place with two people have a soulmate-like connection (which i believe you can have numerous over the course of your life)

Is it about having superior children? Superior? No. Balanced, stable, secure children with a strong female AND male figure in their lives to help guide them through life? ABSOLUTELY!

What do you see as the purpose of marriage? What are your expectations? What are the benefits? What sacrifices are you willing to make (good and bad)?

I hope this thread makes sense.

 

[Ms Red]

Cool thread.

QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU SEE AS THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE? A contract witnessed before God.

QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU EXPECT FROM MARRIAGE? I expect everything... the good 'married sex' , him getting on my nerves, me getting on his nerves, the love that grows between two people over the years, being domestic and cooking and cleaning, having a 'partner in crime' who has my back and vice-versa. I don't expect to be blissfully happy every day but I would like to think that at the end of the day, I wouldn't want to go thru this thing called life without 'him.'

QUESTION: WHAT SACRIFICES DO YOU PLAN TO MAKE (OR WHAT TYPES WILL YOU MAKE, IF YOU DON'T MIND SHARING)? Sacrifices? Ummm... Compromising. Like for real compromising-- fulfilling his needs when I don't really feel like it... , cooking/cleaning/taking care of him when he's sick, perhaps amending my job and tweaking it to fit our lifestyle... whatever within reason. And he damn sure better be ready to compromise and sacrifice with me

For example, do you see marriage as two people in love, committed to each other? Yep

Is it two people of like background who can merge wealth? Yep

It is two soul-mates? Yep

Is it about having superior children? Perhaps.

What do you see as the purpose of marriage? What are your expectations? What are the benefits? What sacrifices are you willing to make (good and bad)?

I hope this thread makes sense.

 

[cocoberry10]

Bumping!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[cocoberry10]

From http://purposeofmarriage.org/

Marriage Contract: A marriage contract is a bi-lateral legal agreement between two people. It is a performance-based agreement. It is binding only as long as each spouse performs according to the contract. If one spouse fails to adequately uphold the contract, the other spouse can choose to no longer be bound by the contract

Marriage Covenant: Marriage is a covenantal relationship between husband, wife and the Creator. It is a commitment that is irrevocable and does not depend on the performance of either spouse. Therefore, if the relationship between husband and wife becomes weak...then the spouses' relationships with God can stabilize the marriage until the husband and wife are reconciled. Covenantal marriage spiritually, emotionally and physically unites a man and women together as husband and wife. When the spouses' spiritual, emotional and physical relationships with each other are all strong, and each spouse's relationship with God is strong, the marriage is strong and balanced.

 

[Highly Favored8]

QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU SEE AS THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE?
Helpmate , companion, best friend.


QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU EXPECT FROM MARRIAGE?
A very long life. Very long marriage.

QUESTION: WHAT SACRIFICES DO YOU PLAN TO MAKE (OR WHAT TYPES WILL YOU MAKE, IF YOU DON'T MIND SHARING)?
That he is not perfect, try not to push so hard.

For example, do you see marriage as two people in love, committed to each other? Yes

Is it two people of like background who can merge wealth? Yes, if you can trust the other person.

It is two soul-mates? No, not for me. For me I look at it JHMO when God Created Adam and God sent him Eve. Eve was Adams missing Rib. So, I feel the man I marry I know I am going to be his missing rib joined together as one.

Is it about having superior children? No, just living by example as parents we are our childerns teachers.

I hope this thread makes sense. Yes, it does.

 

[MrsWatson]

This is a spinoff to the longterm marriage/cheating and the inevitable cheating threads.

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=352541

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=352783

QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU SEE AS THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE? To totally and completely commit yourself to another person. Not just any person, but a person who you truly believe will always have your best interest at heart. Someone to confide in, to take care of you (and vice versa) when times get tough and to support one another through it all.

QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU EXPECT FROM MARRIAGE? Honesty, commitment, free and open communication, combining of resources to build a better life for the both of you (and any children involved)....

QUESTION: WHAT SACRIFICES DO YOU PLAN TO MAKE (OR WHAT TYPES WILL YOU MAKE, IF YOU DON'T MIND SHARING)? Whatever it takes (short of sharing him with another woman and being abused in any form)

For example, do you see marriage as two people in love, committed to each other? Yes.

Is it two people of like background who can merge wealth? Ideally.

It is two soul-mates? Sometimes. I think my fiance is my soul mate, but I know the same is not true for other married couples I know.

Is it about having superior children? Superior? No.

What do you see as the purpose of marriage? What are your expectations? What are the benefits? What sacrifices are you willing to make (good and bad)?

I hope this thread makes sense.

Answers in red...

 

[cocoberry10]

Thanks for your responses ladies!

 

[BeautifulFlower]

This is a spinoff to the longterm marriage/cheating and the inevitable cheating threads.

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=352541

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=352783

QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU SEE AS THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE? A marriage convenant between a heterosexual male and female. It is to be the most intimate relationship on earth, exemplifying the relationship between Christ and the church.

QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU EXPECT FROM MARRIAGE? I expect to be a helpmate to my husband. I am to submit to his authority as the spiritual head and provider. I am to give my body to him and vice versa. I expect him to be a provider, priest, pursuer, and protector. I expect complete faithfulness to me physically and emotionally. We will live in love and glorify God with our marriage. We should be an example of the love Christ has for the church as much as possible.

QUESTION: WHAT SACRIFICES DO YOU PLAN TO MAKE (OR WHAT TYPES WILL YOU MAKE, IF YOU DON'T MIND SHARING)? All things that do not contradict the Word of God. Expect for disrepect or porn, everything else is up for DISCUSSION in the bedroom. If you want me to be a stay at home, we can talk about it. But at the end of the day, he is the head and it is the order of things that if we reach an impass...I yield.

For example, do you see marriage as two people in love, committed to each other? Yes!

Is it two people of like background who can merge wealth? No! but it can be...

It is two soul-mates? This too!

Is it about having superior children? It is about producing godly children but never about superiority.

I hope this thread makes sense.

Answers above....

 

[Ganjababy]

For me marriage is about being loved and giving love. It is about companionship, friendship and financial security. It is about creating your own little family (with or without kids). It is knowing that someone has your back, no matter what. It is both of you against the world. My husband is my best friend and he always tells me that I am his. It is about growing together, It is so important to grow together because if one person grows and the other does not, one day you wake up and you have nothing in common. My DH is not perfect, but neither am I. We do have problems, but like everything else, we work on our relationship. We have been to counselling twice and we will probably go again. We complement each other. I waste money and he is tight/carefull with money. He believes in marriage for life and after nearly 10 years of marriage I am just coming to terms with that idea. The most imprtant thing that made it work for us is being honest with each other.

 

[firecracker]

Free housing and prevention from burning in hell from lust. Yep thats right those are the only benefits I really see in it for me.

 

[SelahOco]

For me it's about having a companion who I respect, enjoy and love in every possible way He's the one person that I can be completely "naked" with and know that he won't judge me. He loves me, he sees me, he wants the best for me. I love him, I see him, I want the best for him.

And since we're so fond of each other, we might as well buy a house, have some kids and retire together. He's my best friend, my protector, my roll dog for life!

 

[Radianthealth]

This is a spinoff to the longterm marriage/cheating and the inevitable cheating threads.

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=352541

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=352783

QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU SEE AS THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE? I think the purpose of marriage is to commit to the person that you love and want to spend the rest of your life with.

QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU EXPECT FROM MARRIAGE? In my marriage I expect love, support (emotional & financial) , laughter, fun, and romance. I have gotten all of those things

QUESTION: WHAT SACRIFICES DO YOU PLAN TO MAKE (OR WHAT TYPES WILL YOU MAKE, IF YOU DON'T MIND SHARING)? I think becoming a mother was/is a sacrifice. I didn't want any children but I have agreed to have two because it is important to DH. I am pregnant now and I am happy that I made this sacrifice. I couldn't imagine growing old without having any children.

For example, do you see marriage as two people in love, committed to each other? Yes I think marriage is about committment and love.

Is it two people of like background who can merge wealth? I didn't see it so much as a wealth thing. But DH and I are doing well.

It is two soul-mates? Soul-mate sounds so cheesy, but I guess DH is my soul-mate.

Is it about having superior children? I don't think our children will be superior. But I know that they will have a great headstart in life growing up in a household with me and DH as their parents.

What do you see as the purpose of marriage? What are your expectations? What are the benefits? What sacrifices are you willing to make (good and bad)? So far marriage has been a really good experience for me. I wouldn't trade it for anything. I thought I didn't want to get married but I was wrong

I hope this thread makes sense.

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