SPINOFF of Miss Divine's thread... My MIXED sista's....Black and whatever else

[thefineprint]

i think the point of this thread was for the OP to talk to others who relate with her and their mixed heritage. some of ya'll seem like you are slightly on your way of sabotaging it...erplexed

if a '100% black' thread is ok then so is this one, right?

anyway, no i'm not mixed - i was just curious about the thread

 

[divya]

Hmm... ok.
Soo all the threads about "100% black", "4b only". They're ok.

Then anything about being mixed, or having... shock horror... type 3 hair. Not welcome.

*sigh*

OMG, I just realized that the "100% black" thread was made before this one...just reading the difference in reactions....

 

[cheeks87]

Me either LMAO!!!!!!!!!!

Me either!

*sulks away*

J/k. I don't mind. This is a nice thread.

 

[aloof one]

I don't think it's that serious. Do you consider yourself to be of two or more heritages? Meaning that you identify with these in everyday life...

If so, then you should probably answer...regardless of what type of hair you have.

Heritage? I thought she was talking about color. Because they are two different things.

People are just ignorant on the issue and I was pointing it out. I think both threads are wrong, honestly.

 

[Cichelle]

I was going to answer, but I can see where this is headed.

Maybe...just maybe...I've finally learned my lesson. (Maybe.)

 

[aloof one]

Well, if this is the case, who in this world isn't mixed?

Nobody, really.

 

[Neith]

Hmm... ok.
Soo all the threads about "100% black", "4b only". They're ok.

Then anything about being mixed, or having... shock horror... type 3 hair. Not welcome.

*sigh*

They're both STUPID.

There have been tons of threads about how to deal with different types of hair. C'mon, do not tell me you've never seen a type 3 help thread.

The fact that makes these two threads dumb is that they were written out of sheer ignorance. Especially the first one, but this one too... it was written in response to that drivel. Someone has got to be the smart one.

Most black people are "mixed". You don't have to be "mixed" to have type 3 hair. If you are "mixed", you can still have type 4 hair. And for the love of God, having type 4 hair isn't a curse or something.

I repeat, there is a WEALTH of knowledge here, but people still choose to feed into steretypes. It's sad.

 

[Bint Yusef]

Hmm... ok.
Soo all the threads about "100% black", "4b only". They're ok.

Then anything about being mixed, or having... shock horror... type 3 hair. Not welcome.

*sigh*

It's kind of sad how everyone thinks 'we' had no hair issues because we're mixed. Well, I did.
And also, probably more than the '100% black' ladies, I had issues about 'who I was'. I didn't seem to fit in with either side of my ethnicity. Now it's ok because I've realised skin colour doesn't really matter, but I haven't always been this way.

I dont think anyone has a problem with type 3 hair, at least I hope not. Actually if a thread calling type 3s were made that would have worked out much better. Why? Because it has more to do with a similar hair type versus a racial makeup. As you can see people can respond to being mixed and yet they do not have type 3 hair. So what real dialouge comes of that? Same as the 100% black thread. There are women here who claim they are left out and have similar hair types to the ladies who answered both questions. I just dont understand what race has to do with gathering folks of similar hair types to discuss. A mixed type 3 and an all black type 3 have more in common regarding hair than an all black type 3 and a mixed type 4.
eta: If you want to have a talk about biracial identity why dont you come to Off Topic and make a post. I will be more than willing to have that convo with you, and I am sure others will as well.

 

[SerenavanderWoodsen]

I think this thread is going nowhere good,, someone pleaseadlock2:

 

[Evazhair]

Well, if this is the case, who in this world isn't mixed?

My thoughts exactly, especially for those of us who are descendants of slaves.We don't always know how many times "Massa", native americans or whomever dipped into our gene pool. Native American women are hard to trace up until a certain time because they were not counted on the census until they married! They were considered not to even exist!I also agree with those who said a genetics class would be beneficial. I think that everyone should have to take at least two semesters of college level biology to graduate high school. This would eliminate a lot of the mess that is common thinking goes on. It is just not that cut and dry. We are a hybrid of all of our possible random genetic combinations, the ones that "survived" throughout our lineage and it's impossible to put people in a box and be taken seriously.

 

[kblc06]

They're both STUPID.

There have been tons of threads about how to deal with different types of hair. C'mon, do no tell me you've never seen a type 3 help thread.

The fact that makes these two threads dumb is that they were written out of sheer ignorance. Especially the first one, but this one too... it was written in response to that drivel. Someonw has got to be the smart one.

Most black people are "mixed". You don't have to be "mixed" to have type 3 hair. If you are "mixed", you can still have type 4 hair. And for the love of God, having type 4 hair isn't a curse or something.

I repeat, there is a WEALTH of knowledge here, but people still choose to feed into steretypes. It's sad.

Actually I enjoy BOTH perspectives in these threads because (a) They are not written out of ignorance but from people's PERSONAL EXPERIENCE. (b) There are dissimilarities in the way that people even approach black and multiracial hair and that shouldn't be discounted.

Please continue.......

 

[♦K.O♦]

Two wrongs dont make a right, but it is pretty interesting to see which "wrong" will be welcomed with opened arms.

I'd respond to this thread, but it will probably get locked up anyway...

I can sense it.

 

[Evazhair]

I was going to answer, but I can see where this is headed.

Maybe...just maybe...I've finally learned my lesson. (Maybe.)

I did too. It's basically pointless. Oh well.

 

[Iansan]

I was going to answer, but I can see where this is headed.

Maybe...just maybe...I've finally learned my lesson. (Maybe.)

Yup, but forget it now...

 

[sareca]

Great thread... I was kinda feelin' left out of the other one.


What is your flavor? (what are you mixed with) Dunno, just know I'm not 100% black

Were you natural or relaxed as a child? what are you now? Natural until I was 17, I'm texturized now.

What length were you at the time? APL

What was your hardest hurdle with your hair? (can be emotional, physical or mental) Combating the dryness. It took LHCF to get the through that one.

What is your hair "type" (you DONT have to catergorize, you can describe it)
4a, I don't have "mixed" hair. But it's mine and now that it's healthy and growing I love it to death.


Great thread! I feel at home. *sigh*

 

[shocol]

Two wrongs dont make a right, but it is pretty interesting to see which "wrong" will be welcomed with opened arms.

I'd respond to this thread, but it will probably get locked up anyway...

I can sense it.

The way this is going it looks like the 100 percent black thread is winning.

BTW... I fit into the neither box. I guess I should start a 'NOT 100 percent black, BUT too far back to claim mixed heritage' thread. Somehow I think that will encompass the most ladies here.

 

[RainbowCurls]

C'mon, do not tell me you've never seen a type 3 help thread.

Oh, I've seen them.

Tell me you've never seen one that hasn't started off with it's first star rating as one-star.

 

[Neith]

If type 3s or mixed people feel so unwelcome here, then why are you paying customers?

I saw the type 4 thread and thought it was idiotic, but then to turn around and see another one made me come out and say something.

And if anyone thinks I personally am picking on the mixed people, my mother is half French and I have type 3c/4a hair. I get the what are you mixed with because my hair doesn't do that and all the BS to.

Stupid is stupuid... I'm not making attacks based on racial make up and hair type.

I come here and expect not to have to deal with this type of BS.

 

[DeepBluSea]

Actually I enjoy BOTH perspectives in these threads because (a) They are not written out of ignorance but from people's PERSONAL EXPERIENCE. (b) There are dissimilarities in the way that people even approach black and multiracial hair and that shouldn't be discounted.

Please continue.......

ITA. I have read both threads and most of the people who responded did not sound ignorant. They just expressed their point of view. This thread didn't have to turn out like this. The OP didn't say nothing about good hair or bad hair. She didn't even mention hair type or say that biracial folks have to have a certain type of hair.

 

[SignatureBeauty]

What Has Happened To LHCF? We never had this issue before, we were all with the hair typing system, whats with the 100% Black Chicks & Mixed Chicks etc.? I just don't get it! We are all here for the same goal, No matter our hair type nor our blended race. Why would someone go and start a Thread based on Race Anyway?

I understand that we all have our hair struggles and that is why we have catagories 2a,2b.3a,3b.3c,4a,4b.4c etc.. Why can't we just go with that? I Love everyone on this board but why are we becoming so divided by Non Sense? We have enough to deal with in the real world and then to come here and deal with this! (Well we don't have to) But I have been a Member since 2003 on LHCF and you can go back to the original board and see we never had this problem, that I know of!!!

I am sorry Ladies

 

[Irresistible]

IMO both of the threads should have been by hair type not by heritage

because one doesnt define the other across the board

 

[Irresistible]

Feels like total regression

What Has Happened To LHCF? We never had this issue before, we were all with the hair typing system, whats with the 100% Black Chicks & Mixed Chicks etc.? I just don't get it! We are all here for the same goal, No matter our hair type nor our blended race. Why would someone go and start a Thread based on Race Anyway?

I understand that we all have our hair struggles and that is why we have catagories 2a,2b.3a,3b.3c,4a,4b.4c etc.. Why can't we just go with that? I Love everyone on this board but why are we becoming so divided by Non Sense? We have enough to deal with in the real world and then to come here and deal with this! (Well we don't have to) But I have been a Member since 2003 on LHCF and you can go back to the original board and see we never had this problem, that I know of!!!

I am sorry Ladies

 

[*Muffin*]

Man I don't fit in either thread!

Me neither! I was too mixed for the other thread and not mixed enough for this one. Oh well .

 

[ChocolateSoda]

Well I don't fit either post and that's fine.

Just to add something: My co-worker is 100% white, Scandinavian, fine blond hair and she says her hair won't grow past neck length. It's cool that we share hair & skin care ideas all the time. Everyone has a hair shortcoming.

I have learned something from every hair type on this board!

 

[bravenewgirl87]

Yay! Someone with sense!

I can't believe that this backwards way of thinking survives and makes is HERE. There is a wealth of information here and yet we still believe in complete BS about our hair. How in the world can you be an active member HERE and still have doubts that 100% black people have a harder time growing their hair than everyone else? As if black people hair just doesn't grow? Someone with a white grandpa wll surely have that good hair :rollseyes: How can ingnorance thrive in a place like this?

No offense to anyone, but good lord. It's like black people can't escape from... getting put down. Even within our own community of knowledgable, smart women. Even here, being 10% anything else sets us apart. For shame.

Baffles the puck out of me. I just keep thinking: if you think your hair won't grow and we are all full of it (indian, chinese, white or just plain bullshnit), then whatcha keep paying the $5 for? Just to antagonize your own scalp? Get your hair follicles hope's up?

 

[bravenewgirl87]

Hmm... ok.
Soo all the threads about "100% black", "4b only". They're ok.

Then anything about being mixed, or having... shock horror... type 3 hair. Not welcome.

*sigh*

It's kind of sad how everyone thinks 'we' had no hair issues because we're mixed. Well, I did.
And also, probably more than the '100% black' ladies, I had issues about 'who I was'. I didn't seem to fit in with either side of my ethnicity. Now it's ok because I've realised skin colour doesn't really matter, but I haven't always been this way.

Don't you know that you are perfect in everyway, but still a complete demon child because of your heritage? Racial mixture is a double-edged sword....Hated on both ends.

 

[Evazhair]

What Has Happened To LHCF? We never had this issue before, we were all with the hair typing system, whats with the 100% Black Chicks & Mixed Chicks etc.? I just don't get it! We are all here for the same goal, No matter our hair type nor our blended race. Why would someone go and start a Thread based on Race Anyway?

I understand that we all have our hair struggles and that is why we have catagories 2a,2b.3a,3b.3c,4a,4b.4c etc.. Why can't we just go with that? I Love everyone on this board but why are we becoming so divided by Non Sense? We have enough to deal with in the real world and then to come here and deal with this! (Well we don't have to) But I have been a Member since 2003 on LHCF and you can go back to the original board and see we never had this problem, that I know of!!!

I am sorry Ladies

That makes me feel better. In my lurking I never saw any evidence of these kinds of mentalities. I probably would have continued to lurk. I like knowing that the core of LHCF is not about a lot of the ugliness that I have witnessed in this forum & on the different boards.

ish's disgusting B.

 

[bravenewgirl87]

What Has Happened To LHCF? We never had this issue before, we were all with the hair typing system, whats with the 100% Black Chicks & Mixed Chicks etc.? I just don't get it! We are all here for the same goal, No matter our hair type nor our blended race. Why would someone go and start a Thread based on Race Anyway?

I understand that we all have our hair struggles and that is why we have catagories 2a,2b.3a,3b.3c,4a,4b.4c etc.. Why can't we just go with that? I Love everyone on this board but why are we becoming so divided by Non Sense? We have enough to deal with in the real world and then to come here and deal with this! (Well we don't have to) But I have been a Member since 2003 on LHCF and you can go back to the original board and see we never had this problem, that I know of!!!

I am sorry Ladies

A lack of common sense, self-loathing and straight up disbelief. Between the xenophobia in OT forum and the mistrust of racial imbiguity in the hair forum, people's true colors are starting to come out. Also, new members are bringing out feelings that older members who never post have been harbouring for a long time. People are just expressing what they've been dying to say from thr very beginning, and it ain't nice. Looking at old threads and such, alot of things were kept very hush hush, but since those people have left... everyone is saying how they feel.

 

[StLucianSweetie]

I dont think anyone has a problem with type 3 hair, at least I hope not. Actually if a thread calling type 3s were made that would have worked out much better. Why? Because it has more to do with a similar hair type versus a racial makeup. As you can see people can respond to being mixed and yet they do not have type 3 hair. So what real dialouge comes of that? Same as the 100% black thread. There are women here who claim they are left out and have similar hair types to the ladies who answered both questions. I just dont understand what race has to do with gathering folks of similar hair types to discuss. A mixed type 3 and an all black type 3 have more in common regarding hair than an all black type 3 and a mixed type 4.
eta: If you want to have a talk about biracial identity why dont you come to Off Topic and make a post. I will be more than willing to have that convo with you, and I am sure others will as well.

And thats the bottom line.

 

[JustKiya]

Wow.

I have an entirely DIFFERENT view of both threads.

I THOUGHT the whole point was to POINT OUT just how varied the hair of those who can SHOW that they are 'mixed' or '100% black' is. To quite simply, BREAK DOWN those sterotype of 'all african hair is like this' and 'all mixed girls hair is like this'

Good heavens, these threads SOOOO could have shown us all just how SIMILAR we are - no matter what we might 'classify' ourselves as.

*sigh*

Danngone shame it had to fall into people bringing their OWN issues around hair and color into things.