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SPINOFF of Miss Divine's thread... My MIXED sista's....Black and whatever else

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PanamasOwn

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That's right I did it....

Miss Divine's thread help raise alot of questions and answer ones that for quite some time considered to be "taboo"...I created this thread because I want to know how it was/is for girls that grew up like me... I would like this thread to be more geared towards girls that are mixed... with black
You can have asian, hispanic, white..IDC (I dont care)..BUT you must be mixed with black..and something else... I think this will be educational for other girls that are mixed and have had/ or have some of the same issues with thier hair or just have questions that havent been answered for "various" reasons...and educational for me too

What is your flavor? (what are you mixed with)
Were you natural or relaxed as a child? what are you now?
What length were you at the time?
What was your hardest hurdle with your hair? (can be emotional, physical or mental)
What is your hair "type" (you DONT have to catergorize, you can describe it)

**DISCLAIMER** DO NOT use my thread to down ANYONE'S feelings, ideas or ideals... Others can post postively if they wish...but none of that other stuff (yall know what I mean)
 
*nod*

This should be interesting, and hopefully in a good way....

Can you kick it off Panama, and answer the questions you posted?

I'm curious, personally - we all know the 'drama/slurs/issues', etc the '100% black' sistas have to go through - but because 'mixed' hair has been considered 'better' since the Diaspora kicked in, you usually don't hear about the NEGATIVE reactions/statements/issues the mixed sistas have....and if they try to complain, it's usually shut down with some version of 'Gurl, hush up wit dat good hurr on yo haid!!!' :lachen::ohwell:
 
nappywomyn said:
*nod*

This should be interesting, and hopefully in a good way....

Can you kick it off Panama, and answer the questions you posted?

I'm curious, personally - we all know the 'drama/slurs/issues', etc the '100% black' sistas have to go through - but because 'mixed' hair has been considered 'better' since the Diaspora kicked in, you usually don't hear about the NEGATIVE reactions/statements/issues the mixed sistas have....and if they try to complain, it's usually shut down with some version of 'Gurl, hush up wit dat good hurr on yo haid!!!' :lachen::ohwell:
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Sure... and just so everyone knows...I didnt do this to be controversial...I really want to know...

What is your flavor? (what are you mixed with): black and hispanic (Panamaian)

Were you natural or relaxed as a child? Natural until I was 7...(I still remember what it was like to comb my head) then relaxed all the way up until now...

what are you now?: Natural....

What length were you at the time? when I was natural (then) my hair was about MBL... after the relaxers it usually hoovered around BSL..until I started playing in it and listening to other people about how to or what to do to my hair

What was your hardest hurdle with your hair? (can be emotional, physical or mental) My hardest hurdle was the mental and emotional...dealing with having to LIVE up to my heritage "y la sangre de mi tierra" and not looking the typical part... Saying your hispanic and not looking like Maria with "chola" hair that sits behind you in class is hard.. so for a while I figured I was all black..and started doing what my friends did to their hair...NEVER saw that length again

What is your hair "type" (you DONT have to catergorize, you can describe it) I HATE typing my hair...I am convinced there is not one.. the best way to describe it is, think of skinny curly fries that are wrapped really tight.. some are much looser that and some are much tigther than that (this is what they look individually)..but when i pull back my hair, like when it is wet, it lookks like my moms, no serious waves, just slick..put those curly fries together, you get a bush of afro looking hair that feels like a curly pillow... (trust me, looks are deceiving)
 
PanamasOwn said:
What is your flavor? (what are you mixed with)
Were you natural or relaxed as a child? what are you now?
What length were you at the time?
What was your hardest hurdle with your hair? (can be emotional, physical or mental)
What is your hair "type" (you DONT have to catergorize, you can describe it)
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I'm half black, half white. My mom is Irish and Eastern European.

As a very young child my hair was natural, and it was MBL. Then I got cat scratch fever from a boy in kindergarten... some kind of scalp infection. Dr said they had to cut off my hair so my scalp could breathe and heal. I still remember them cutting it all off in front of the mirror. I sobbed and sobbed. It'll grow back, they said. :sad:

My mom gave me a relaxer at 7 or 8. :wallbash: Things went downhill from there. I'm natural now, for a little less than a year and a half. Now my longest layers are a little past collarbone. Shortest layers, on the top of my head, reach to the bottom of my ear. This is after a serious cut at my nappiversary. It was sposed to be a trim :wallbash: next time I'll flatiron, THEN trim.

Hardest hurdle for me was simply believing that my hair could grow long like it used to be. God, the other black girls used to harass me SO MUCH about my hair. It's very very thick. I thought that was bad till I came on here. The girls with paperthin hair always clowned me... now I know why. :rolleyes: I was taking advice from the wrong people... now I know what to do and my hair is in great condition.
 
well..my ansectors go back to the Inca Indians that were some of the orginal inhabitants of Panama. Then as many were coming from Europe to discover areas surrounding the new world, Spain was one of the larger influences of panama (hence why most of the country speaks spanish) so thats where the mix starts... they began bringing slaves from Africa over to work the lush land and mine for Gold...(Panama used to be very well known for its riches in gold) but as most conquerors do, they rape you for all they can get... so now you got a mix of Inca Indian, Spain (true spanish as they called themselves) and Africans... Both of my parents were born and raised there... My mother, the lighter version (features heavy on the Inca Indian and ligther features of the Spain) (casper, we call her) my father (features of the african descent, but richer features of the Spain descent)
 
PanamasOwn said:
I mean mixed... Like your mom/dad/grandmom/grandad, is mixed with something, or is another race altogether...but someone in that mix, needs to have some black somewhere...
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Ok well if thats the case im "in". However i wouldn't(and don't) call myself mixed. My Grandad is half indian (Carib - im certain)

What is your flavor? (what are you mixed with) Black...some indian.

Were you natural or relaxed as a child? what are you now? Natural as a child, natural now.

What length were you at the time? Short about neck/ear legnth

What was your hardest hurdle with your hair? (can be emotional, physical or mental) Dealing with heat damaged, broken, shedding, brittle, uneven (etc etc this list can go on) hair.

What is your hair "type" (you DONT have to catergorize, you can describe it) My hair type is 4a/b with minor 3c patches in the crown.
 
Its sad that a lot of black folks assume that if your hair isn't 4b you're mixed. This could probably come with the fact that more than 3/4 of us have relaxers and don't even know our own hair texture. Im sorry people always want to tell you otherwise ladylibra- you have gorgeous hair regardless:yep:
 
al00fone said:
Its sad that a lot of black folks assume that if your hair isn't 4b you're mixed. This could probably come with the fact that more than 3/4 of us have relaxers and don't even know our own hair texture. Im sorry people always want to tell you otherwise ladylibra- you have gorgeous hair regardless:yep:
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The entire thing is terribly silly on both sides.
 
-inserts popcorn icon

I' mixed with negro and black, can i join?:lachen:

j/k

I don't have a problem with this thread, in fact i think it might turn out to be an eye opener, so some can realise that not all 'mixed ' people have 3a tail bone hair.
 
Oh clawd, let this not turn into a debate on what is mixed/degree of mixedness/how much mixed u must be 2 join the mixed posse/ because we will be here all day.

I admit i don't really understand this thread. Good luck.
 
Ok, I'll bite...

What is your flavor? (what are you mixed with) Black & Asian (Vietnamese)

Were you natural or relaxed as a child? what are you now? I was natural as a child, got my first relaxer around 12. I'm relaxed now, but contemplating transitioning.

What length were you at the time? My hair was always BSL - MBL, maybe even hoovered around WSL when I was little. After I started middle school and did my own hair, that's when the drama started.

What was your hardest hurdle with your hair? (can be emotional, physical or mental) Never really had any hurdles with my hair, my father's mom (on the black side) taught my mom how to maintain my hair which she did an excellent job of. Once I went to high school, which was mostly white I started having issues about my hair. I had some funky layers cut into it (by a white stylist) and I didn't know how to maintain it...it was always a big poofy mess :ohwell: and Pink Oil didn't help my situation any. Once I got to college, sistas started teaching me how to use rollers and the dreaded Gold n Hot.

What is your hair "type" (you DONT have to catergorize, you can describe it) My hair is pretty much 3b/4a. I have a tight spiral (pencil sized) on the crown of my head and a looser wave pattern underneath. I even think I have a nice 4b patch in the middle right which is just a puff and doesn't curl on its own too much. Even relaxed bone straight, my hair still curls up when wet.
 
OnAHairQuest said:
Do folks really consider that mixed?

Ummm mkay.
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Yay! Someone with sense!

I can't believe that this backwards way of thinking survives and makes is HERE. There is a wealth of information here and yet we still believe in complete BS about our hair. How in the world can you be an active member HERE and still have doubts that 100% black people have a harder time growing their hair than everyone else? As if black people hair just doesn't grow? Someone with a white grandpa wll surely have that good hair :rollseyes: How can ingnorance thrive in a place like this?

No offense to anyone, but good lord. It's like black people can't escape from... getting put down. Even within our own community of knowledgable, smart women. Even here, being 10% anything else sets us apart. For shame.
 
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What is your flavor?African/East Indian/Carib (typical Trini)
Were you natural or relaxed as a child? Natural what are you now? Texturized/Texlaxed
What length were you at the time? Close to waist-length
What was your hardest hurdle with your hair? (can be emotional, physical or mental) I really don't know...haven't really had any.
What is your hair "type" (you DONT have to catergorize, you can describe it) 3c-ish, but it's really a type of it's own
 
OnAHairQuest said:
The entire thing is terribly silly on both sides.
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I think a lot of LHCF women (not most, but a great many) and black women in general need to take a genetics class... or simple biology in college or something. We assume nappy hair = 100% african and loose curls = mixed. That is why we're so silly, not believing we can grow our hair, and dwelling on whether people are of mixed race when the case is most African Americans have some caucasian in them. Not half, but some. So why worry about eachother in degrees? Are we going to start walking around with color charts and hair samples and DNA testing to identify ourselves now? Now that would cause some messed up siggys to spring up:nono:
 
al00fone said:
I think a lot of LHCF women (not most, but a great many) and black women in general need to take a genetics class... or simple biology in college or something. We assume nappy hair = 100% african and loose curls = mixed. That is why we're so silly, not believing we can grow our hair, and dwelling on whether people are of mixed race when the case is most African Americans have some caucasian in them. Not half, but some. So why worry about eachother in degrees? Are we going to start walking around with color charts and hair samples and DNA testing to identify ourselves now? Now that would cause some messed up siggys to spring up:nono:
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I don't think it's that serious. Do you consider yourself to be of two or more heritages? Meaning that you identify with these in everyday life...

If so, then you should probably answer...regardless of what type of hair you have.
 
Hmm... ok.
Soo all the threads about "100% black", "4b only". They're ok.

Then anything about being mixed, or having... shock horror... type 3 hair. Not welcome.

*sigh*

It's kind of sad how everyone thinks 'we' had no hair issues because we're mixed. Well, I did.
And also, probably more than the '100% black' ladies, I had issues about 'who I was'. I didn't seem to fit in with either side of my ethnicity. Now it's ok because I've realised skin colour doesn't really matter, but I haven't always been this way.
 
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sunnydaze said:
Man I don't fit in either thread!
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Me either LMAO!!!!!!!!!!

Wait I just read what she is considering...My grandmother is mixed. But I really don't have anything to add.


Great thread. I am interested in all the responses. :yep:
 
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