breezy
New Member
Since the topic of marriage has come up a lot lately and we all seem to know why ppl keep getting divorced at alarming rates, let's start a positive thread w/ advice for married women, and those who plan to get married in the future. What are the best lessons/ tips/ advice you have ever gotten concerning marriage? These could be lessons you learned, things your mother/pastor/father told you, or just things you have in your head.
I'll start: Don't ever say anything about your spouse behind his back that you wouldn't want getting back to him.
No matter how bad the fight seems, keep it in the house, by that I mean no running to your family, his family, etc. b/c months after your little tiff has blown over, they'll still hold grudges and be upset.
A little counseling never hurt anybody.
If you can't compromise, you won't be married for long, or you won't be happy for long.
Talk about how you want to raise your children before you start having them.
The same goes for finances, don't have two different spending styles prior to marriage and expect them to just mix...settle that before getting married.
I'll add more later, so everyone else please chime in.
I'll start: Don't ever say anything about your spouse behind his back that you wouldn't want getting back to him.
No matter how bad the fight seems, keep it in the house, by that I mean no running to your family, his family, etc. b/c months after your little tiff has blown over, they'll still hold grudges and be upset.
A little counseling never hurt anybody.
If you can't compromise, you won't be married for long, or you won't be happy for long.
Talk about how you want to raise your children before you start having them.
The same goes for finances, don't have two different spending styles prior to marriage and expect them to just mix...settle that before getting married.
I'll add more later, so everyone else please chime in.