Spin off~ Sex before marriage.......

[Qualitee]

My question for those who waiting/waited(virgins)............. wouldnt you want to have sex the first time when its not during your honeymoon? I think the pain would spoil the night.

 

[Lovelylife]

I think about this sometimes.
I don't know how I am going to alleviate that situation.


because I'm ready to get it on.

 

[Nadege]

I am now 30 and still want to wait until my wedding night which is no where in the horizon. At 40 all bet are off

 

[1Aleeesha]

It didn't ruin my night - or his

Of course it hurts a little but the best thing to do is NOT tense up...That makes it worse.

Instead relax and your DH should be able to help you do that. It sometimes hurts a little after the first time and I'm 7.5 years down the line and have birthed children, its the same type of party but not as scary because after a time or two you sort of know what to expect.

 

[caligirl]

It shouldn't hurt. If you're into it, your body prepares for sex (e.g. lengthening/widening of the v*****/lubrication).

 

[lonelysky]

I was concerned about the pain, but if you use plenty of lubrication, its not that bad. It didn't spoil the night at all. It took us a couple of times to really get things going (we both had no idea what we were doing), but once we did it was good. There were some times when there was pain but you get through it. Its not excruciating, merely uncomfortable.

I'm VERY sensitive to pain town there, so for me to say that it wasn't that bad means that it prolly wasn't that bad.

I would recomend going to the gynecologist before your wedding night (not like the day before but somtime close to time). If you can make it through that you can make it through anything. *shudders*

 

[Farida]

I read a book once that said an ob/gyn can show you some exercises to loosen up a little down there, and sex positions that will make it less painful, at least at first.

Some can even stretch the hymen for you...but I don't know anyone who want's to do that...

 

[Helpmeblongagain]

Dont lose it to a man that's hung...because I remember that pain being excruciating...and I dont remember it being pleasurable until months later, but thats just me. I also lost my virginity really young and my body probably wasn't ready.

 

[aribell]

I think that if someone is waiting until marriage for religious/philosophical/value-based reasons, some pain/discomfort on the wedding night isn't going to change that. It doesn't seem like that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things.