BeatriceFly
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Ughhhhh
Okay so here it is
I get these periods of feeling amazing like I dont NEED a man
I meet them here and there but they are usually people i dont like so i dont get attached
But once again, I've gotten attached, TOO FAST, and now there are clear problems but I cant break away and I need some second opinions
I will try to make this short
There is a guy at my job who I've come to like
He's three years younger than me and has a 4 month old child with a woman he has known for 8 years and has been with for 4
Now those are the main problems
Other than that hes a great looking guy, very intelligent, owns a house and a car, and is doing big things
Right away I slept with him, just because I didnt think it was gonna get serious and I just wanted to do it, end of story
Right away he started going hard
Doing nice things for me everyday, bringing coffee to work, bringing me breakfast, rubbing my feet, counting down minutes until when I'll see him at work
In the last week, mind you its only been a month, he hasnt tried to see me
He hasnt made plans or tried to set anything up
Being the person I am, I cant front and play games I'll just tell a ***** like listen Im not comfortable with this and if it continues then we wont work
So he said he is very busy with school, work, and the baby and doesnt wanna make plans he would break
Then something else came up
He tells me his BM checked his email and asked who I was and he told her he was dating me
That bothered me already because why does she care if its over and why does she have access
Then he had a picture up on facebook of them two asleep and thought it was funny because it was when his son first came home
I explained that doesnt look good if him and i are trying to build, he took it down
Then puts another supposed funny pic up of her kissing the baby and the baby tryna get away
I didnt say anything
Then she starts posting things on his facebook
The first thing was "Kiss Kiss" then "I cant wait till you get home I miss you"
This where I ended it btw him and I
I told him leave me alone and good luck
He tried to convince me that shes doing it because she knows about us and this that and the third and hes not entertaining her and that i will have to learn to trust him because shes gonna be around blah blah blah
now me and him just started talking so i dont expect him to go off on her
He has known her his whole teenage life
But I dont know i felt disrespected and jealous and pissed
And everytime I go on his page I have to see the message
But I agreed to sticc with him
And he just acts like he doesnt see why all of this bothers me and this is all added on to the fact that from my view he has some free time even if its an hour but he hasnt been trying to spend it with me
His rationale is that we speak all day everyday and he doesnt wanna rush things
Am I wrong here?
Now we're at the point where everyday its a new issue and we're arguing
I feel like hes not making me feel confident in that its over with them
And he feels i overanalyze and nag and hes frustrated with it but claims he will accept me "flaws and all"
Okay so here it is
I get these periods of feeling amazing like I dont NEED a man
I meet them here and there but they are usually people i dont like so i dont get attached
But once again, I've gotten attached, TOO FAST, and now there are clear problems but I cant break away and I need some second opinions
I will try to make this short
There is a guy at my job who I've come to like
He's three years younger than me and has a 4 month old child with a woman he has known for 8 years and has been with for 4
Now those are the main problems
Other than that hes a great looking guy, very intelligent, owns a house and a car, and is doing big things
Right away I slept with him, just because I didnt think it was gonna get serious and I just wanted to do it, end of story
Right away he started going hard
Doing nice things for me everyday, bringing coffee to work, bringing me breakfast, rubbing my feet, counting down minutes until when I'll see him at work
In the last week, mind you its only been a month, he hasnt tried to see me
He hasnt made plans or tried to set anything up
Being the person I am, I cant front and play games I'll just tell a ***** like listen Im not comfortable with this and if it continues then we wont work
So he said he is very busy with school, work, and the baby and doesnt wanna make plans he would break
Then something else came up
He tells me his BM checked his email and asked who I was and he told her he was dating me
That bothered me already because why does she care if its over and why does she have access
Then he had a picture up on facebook of them two asleep and thought it was funny because it was when his son first came home
I explained that doesnt look good if him and i are trying to build, he took it down
Then puts another supposed funny pic up of her kissing the baby and the baby tryna get away
I didnt say anything
Then she starts posting things on his facebook
The first thing was "Kiss Kiss" then "I cant wait till you get home I miss you"
This where I ended it btw him and I
I told him leave me alone and good luck
He tried to convince me that shes doing it because she knows about us and this that and the third and hes not entertaining her and that i will have to learn to trust him because shes gonna be around blah blah blah
now me and him just started talking so i dont expect him to go off on her
He has known her his whole teenage life
But I dont know i felt disrespected and jealous and pissed
And everytime I go on his page I have to see the message
But I agreed to sticc with him
And he just acts like he doesnt see why all of this bothers me and this is all added on to the fact that from my view he has some free time even if its an hour but he hasnt been trying to spend it with me
His rationale is that we speak all day everyday and he doesnt wanna rush things
Am I wrong here?
Now we're at the point where everyday its a new issue and we're arguing
I feel like hes not making me feel confident in that its over with them
And he feels i overanalyze and nag and hes frustrated with it but claims he will accept me "flaws and all"