So Exactly What Do You Do All Day?

[BrownBetty]

Ask a Taurus woman if she's a princess and see what answer you get (" Yeeeeeesssss. ") She was right to ask a third party cuz you woulda hurt her little feelings.

Girrrrrl you ain't never lied. I need to be adored and worshipped. Nothing less... lol

 

[BEAUTYU2U]

Slightly OT, during my one month online dating trial (never again), I had more than one (BM) bum ask who I lived with or if I lived alone. I'm sure you can guess their living situation.

-_______-

I think I've come to the simple conclusion that men place us in one of two categories. Women that should be taken care of and women who will take care of them until they lock down the woman that should be taken care of.

Them fools were swiftly blocked.

 

[PrissiSippi]

Slightly OT, during my one month online dating trial (never again), I had more than one (BM) bum ask who I lived with or if I lived alone. I'm sure you can guess their living situation.

-_______-

I think I've come to the simple conclusion that men place us in one of two categories. Women that should be taken care of and women who will take care of them until they lock down the woman that should be taken care of.

Them fools were swiftly blocked.

yup. They'll be down for the cause until the can level up and find a woman that didn't know him when he was such a "loser". It will be someone who saw him as the "hero" since day one

 

[BEAUTYU2U]

yup. They'll be down for the cause until the can level up and find a woman that didn't know him when he was such a "loser". It will be someone who saw him as the "hero" since day one

In your words, I recognize that's been stated a few times on this board. You're absolutely right, same concept.

 

[PrissiSippi]

In your words, I recognize that's been stated a few times on this board. You're absolutely right, same concept.

I think I first saw that here. At first I was like nahhh. But then I started seeing that perspective everywhere. Ive seen it happen time after time again in my personal life. I'm like ohhhhhh I get it now.

 

[PJaye]

Slightly OT, during my one month online dating trial (never again), I had more than one (BM) bum ask who I lived with or if I lived alone. I'm sure you can guess their living situation.

-_______-

I think I've come to the simple conclusion that men place us in one of two categories. Women that should be taken care of and women who will take care of them until they lock down the woman that should be taken care of.

Them fools were swiftly blocked.

What kind of foolishness...?

 

[BEAUTYU2U]

What kind of foolishness...?

Girl. I don't know when the tide turned where women needed to prove their ability to offer stability but um, it can go back.

I work and pay for my bills cause I'm single. Why would I sign up for wet arse, empty purse syndrome? Where they do that at?

 

[TwoSnapsUp]

Slightly OT, during my one month online dating trial (never again), I had more than one (BM) bum ask who I lived with or if I lived alone. I'm sure you can guess their living situation.

-_______-

I think I've come to the simple conclusion that men place us in one of two categories. Women that should be taken care of and women who will take care of them until they lock down the woman that should be taken care of.

Them fools were swiftly blocked.

I got asked that a lot, too. Once, I decided to say yes to see the response. He asked me "Aren't you scared?"

He was mid thirties and "lived with family"

 

[BEAUTYU2U]

I got asked that a lot, too. Once, I decided to say yes to see the response. He asked me "Aren't you scared?"

He was mid thirties and "lived with family"

I did that once too. His response was he lived with his mom but she was gone most weekends.

-______________________-

 

[PJaye]

^^^ My mouth is literally hanging open. I just cannot wrap my head around that BS. @BEAUTYU2U, that meant that the par-tay was on - it was OK to eat junk food for dinner, jump on the beds with your shoes on and stay up as late as you want.

 

[nyeredzi]

I wish you had said some of this stuff to him. I'd be interested in hearing what he had to say.

My first thought when I read OP is that he resents his own wife and that's coming out in his talk with you. I knew a (white) couple where the wife was SAH. They had no kids and the apt was always a mess. Don't remember whether she cooked or not. Anyway, they struggled financially, and it was clear to me that he resented her not working. I think she had a (low level) job when they met in a small family business, but she quit to move with him as he went to graduate school. He did not have the personality to say to OP what OP's acquaintance said to her, but if he did, I could see him saying it all the while thinking about his own wife.

 

[Femmefatal1981]

Ask a Taurus woman if she's a princess and see what answer you get (" Yeeeeeesssss. ") She was right to ask a third party cuz you woulda hurt her little feelings.

Exactly, my answer would have been "why yes, I am! How'd you guess?"

 

[Supervixen]

hey SAHM/W/GF:

Please enjoy a drank or mimosa for me...like FRFR: Say: for my homie naturalgyrl, then sling it back or take the sip.

Being pregnant at work is not the business. On the upper hand I am working the field I love. I have a bit of a calling here. So here I stay until life presents something else.
I am glad you made this thread OP.

Congratulations lovely!!! And yes, yes I will have a glass of wine for you!!!

Ask a Taurus woman if she's a princess and see what answer you get (" Yeeeeeesssss. ") She was right to ask a third party cuz you woulda hurt her little feelings.

Taurus woman here...

I've been telling people I was 'Queen of the Universe' since HS, so her saying I think I'm a princess is just incorrect.

My girls are princesses though.

 

[God_Favor]

You quit to have my dream job, lol! I was meant to be a housewife , I'm old as crap but it's coming!

 

[Silkycoils]

You quit to have my dream job, lol! I was meant to be a housewife , I'm old as crap but it's coming!

I "been" telling folks that I would make the perfect treasure wife (trophy's eventually get put on the shelf )! Body would be T-I-G-H-T (because I like looking good for myself too), house clean (Merry Maids anyone? ), good home-cooked (or delivered ) meals, and I'm already down to buss it wide open on the regla . I love my careers, but I HATE grinding!

 

[God_Favor]

I "been" telling folks that I would make the perfect treasure wife (trophy's eventually get put on the shelf )! Body would be T-I-G-H-T (because I like looking good for myself too), house clean (Merry Maids anyone? ), good home-cooked (or delivered ) meals, and I'm already down to buss it wide open on the regla . I love my careers, but I HATE grinding!

You sound like me! Girl, my husband would get his lunch packed everyday in a cute metal lunchbox. And I'm going to wear a cute apron when I cook too.

 

[Supervixen]

You sound like me! Girl, my husband would get his lunch packed everyday in a cute metal lunchbox. And I'm going to wear a cute apron when I cook too.

With real flatware rolled in a cloth napkin. *bam*

 

[God_Favor]

With real flatware rolled in a cloth napkin. *bam*

YASS!!! And I'm going to make sure I hand it off to him as he leaves with a kiss. Then I will curl up back in bed lol

 

[Supervixen]

YASS!!! And I'm going to make sure I hand it off to him as he leaves with a kiss. Then I will curl up back in bed lol

@Zaynab taught me to wake up before him and have his tea/breakfast ready for him. I even lay out his clothes the night before.

Sometimes I take his lunch to him in cute outfits and heels. I need his colleagues to see how good he has it. I've even baked cakes for the colleagues. I want all the ninjas to marvel at how good he has it and all the ninja women to know they don't have enough hours in their day to do what I do.

 

[God_Favor]

@Zaynab taught me to wake up before him and have his tea/breakfast ready for him. I even lay out his clothes the night before.

Sometimes I take his lunch to him in cute outfits and heels. I need his colleagues to see how good he has it. I've even baked cakes for the colleagues. I want all the ninjas to marvel at how good he has it and all the ninja women to know they don't have enough hours in their day to do what I do.

This will be me. I need a
Prayer circle.

 

[BEAUTYU2U]

^^^ My mouth is literally hanging open. I just cannot wrap my head around that BS. @BEAUTYU2U, that meant that the par-tay was on - it was OK to eat junk food for dinner, jump on the beds with your shoes on and stay up as late as you want.

I almost did this combo of a snort-guffaw @ "par-tay."

 

[Femmefatal1981]

@Zaynab taught me to wake up before him and have his tea/breakfast ready for him. I even lay out his clothes the night before.

Sometimes I take his lunch to him in cute outfits and heels. I need his colleagues to see how good he has it. I've even baked cakes for the colleagues. I want all the ninjas to marvel at how good he has it and all the ninja women to know they don't have enough hours in their day to do what I do.

Let the church say amen

 

[Dove56]

Folks don't like see a comfortable, happy Black woman, it doesn't fit their narrative or the stereotypical narrative. Folks want to hear Black women bellyaching and complaining. It doesn't matter if you work to pay bills, work and bury your check in the backyard, stay at home and chill all day or whatever, folks needs to mind THEIR business, stop hating and get a life.

 

[sgold04]

I "been" telling folks that I would make the perfect treasure wife (trophy's eventually get put on the shelf )! Body would be T-I-G-H-T (because I like looking good for myself too), house clean (Merry Maids anyone? ), good home-cooked (or delivered ) meals, and I'm already down to buss it wide open on the regla . I love my careers, but I HATE grinding!

This is me. People make a lot of assumptions about me because I have a phd and I'm successful in my career, but I'd be a SAHW/SAHM in a minute. I just have to meet a man I can tolerate who has the same vision.

 

[Saravana]

This is just a vent/rant

I quit my job as a teacher. Of course I love it so far. However I hate the comments.

My coworker called me up. Black male. Kind of a Debbie Downer to me so I blocked him on social media but we're cool. So he texts me every week or so asking if I'm okay and how is the family life. I think he assumes since I quit my job I'm having some kind of mental breakdown. I quit to become a stay at home mom/wife. HIS WIFE IS THE SAME THING. However she is a Becky in my eyes. She's Indian. She doesn't cook. I assume she doesn't clean or mother by the appearance of said coworker.

So he casually texts me: How are you. I reply I'm great. He asks me what do I do all day? I don't understand the question. I mean I do the same thing that your Humpty Dumpty wife does. Lol. Just for dips and giggles I reply: Nothing. Take care of myself. Relax. And get spoiled by my husband. He responds I hope you do realize you have to do the spoiling too.

Bihhh does your wife spoil you? That's why you bring in a head of lettuce and tomatoes into work everyday and make a salad for lunch. Your wife couldn't "spoil" you and make you lunch. I mean y'all have no kids. She has no job. Y'all just got a house. So do you ask her what does she do all day?

Or do you verbally say women should have he option of being a SAHM/SAHW but you really mean non-black woman have the option. Black women do not have this option. Because I really get the vibes he feels like he has arrived because of his wife. And I can't pinpoint it but I feel it's because of her race. But she's sooo lazy. He claims she doesn't do oral. His mother can't stand her because of said laziness. He asked her to work part time for this particular house she wanted that he bought but she refused. But he will drink her bath water. Lol.

I'm not anywhere near her level of sloth, but I don't have the choice to be lazy do I? I'm just a black woman lol.

I respond to the text casually "of course! He deserves the best and more." And end the conversation.

Other rant

Why does everyone try to GIVE me a job. I mean every two days I have a new friend trying to send me links to jobs. Science teacher. Science specialist. Nanny. Drive kids home from school each day. Bruh didn't I tell you I WANTED to take a year off. I'm not taking a year off to do even more mediocre tasks I could give a crap about!

Do I seem like I'm struggling? Has my lifestyle changed? Has my demeanor changed? Or does my carefreeness upset or confuse you. Why is it so far fetched to believe? I don't want your crummy jobs. I didn't leave one piece of crap to simply go to another piece of crap job that is either even farther away or pays less than the piece of crap job I had. Lol. What gives. Lol. Plus I got a whole husband. We good bruh.

And it's so weird to me because one of the people giving me jobs took a whole year off of working herself and depending on her fiancé at the time. Maybe they were mistreated and I just don't know. Maybe they didn't enjoy it. I dunno. But what gives. I'm enjoying this season in my life. No matter how brief it is.

What do you do all day?

Chile you should have answered: I cook for my husband and when he comes home I give him oral.

 

[Zaynab]

Lmao. Naw bruh you're not a princess. Princesses aren't real.

You're wonderfully and fearfully made. Your worth is far more than rubies just because of who you are.

And she could be too but she playing.

Wait. Princesses are real If you believe it, it will happen

 

[Zaynab]

Girl. I don't know when the tide turned where women needed to prove their ability to offer stability but um, it can go back.

I work and pay for my bills cause I'm single. Why would I sign up for wet arse, empty purse syndrome? Where they do that at?

The Miss Independent movement started it all. And then this mindset that to get a man to BE a man and provide for you, you have to prove you're worth it. And even then, there's some compromises and split bills, etc. I have been preaching against no splitting bills for years but some women think "men need help. I need to show him I'm down."

 

[Zaynab]

@Zaynab taught me to wake up before him and have his tea/breakfast ready for him. I even lay out his clothes the night before.

Sometimes I take his lunch to him in cute outfits and heels. I need his colleagues to see how good he has it. I've even baked cakes for the colleagues. I want all the ninjas to marvel at how good he has it and all the ninja women to know they don't have enough hours in their day to do what I do.

(Real masculine) Men like other people to see/know they have it good/it makes them look better, more virile.

 

[PrissiSippi]

@Zaynab taught me to wake up before him and have his tea/breakfast ready for him. I even lay out his clothes the night before.

Sometimes I take his lunch to him in cute outfits and heels. I need his colleagues to see how good he has it. I've even baked cakes for the colleagues. I want all the ninjas to marvel at how good he has it and all the ninja women to know they don't have enough hours in their day to do what I do.

@Zaynab @Supervixen Both of y'all come up in here and give me some tips! I'm legit chilling hard. But I DO want creative ways to level up/ show my appreciation and stunt on these does

 

[Zaynab]

@Zaynab @Supervixen Both of y'all come up in here and give me some tips! I'm legit chilling hard. But I DO want creative ways to level up/ show my appreciation and stunt on these does

It's not hard. Just make it seem like you're at home to make the house 'homey' and take care of him. Look good when he gets there, even if you jump up at the last minute and pull it together. You just want to make sure he realizes your presence at home is an asset to him, your child and your happy home, you're a better wife to him when you get what you want (if that's to stay home or whatever else in general)