physical descriptors? nah. not really. the only one i really dont want to compromise on is height. and hair. id like a man taller than me with no balding/receding hair issues
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the hair one can be tricky because it may not be apparent at first
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but on height, it will just have to be as simple as not dating men who dont match up, unfortuately. luckily, i do live in a big city and dont have a problem meeting men.
so basically what youre saying is you want to be a sahw/m? and thats hard to find? hmmmm. i have to say that is not a specific upfront goal of mine. i would not mind if that came up in the future, but it is not a prerequisite. bf 1 made a little more than me; bf 2 came from money and was in a high paying field, but hadnt graduated yet. so i guess that means bf3/fh has to come from money and already be employed in his high paying field. i have to keep progressing
really i do kind of feel like the most important thing will be finding a physical match. people consider me tall for a girl, even though im only 5'8 (but i do like to wear high heels). and right now im in between but closer to a size 12 than i am to a size 9, and thats the other thing i really want to work on. i feel like i have to know if, when im the best physical person i can be, that will translate into finding the best man i can. (if it don't, i'll figure welp i look good enough must be some other stuff going on here
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) but i have to try it first to find out. anyway - most of the guys i like tend to be intellectually inclined. and the guys who would look like they would match me would be jock, athletic, or gymrat types. and i dont find i have much in common with them intellectually.
i think deciding why my last 2 relationships (which were my "adult" relationsips) didnt work out is going to be key, but i cant say for sure why. i think i was too intense for bf1, and bf2 had a whole cavalcade of issues that didnt have anything to do with me. just not the right fit. but what do i contribute to that, and how can i avoid it in future?
what i try the hardest to do is let men come to me. i think my biggest problem is the men i date are not as invested in the potential of things as i can be. i date to see where things could go, and i think most guys are looking to make a snap decision on that. so if i were to eliminate any guys from the options list, it would be that kind. but im not sure how to identify them.