So this friend of mine had been chatting me up for close to a year before I admitted to myself that I liked him. I called him up and arranged to go see him. We live in different states now but we hung out late September for a weekend and left it as "let's get together again sometime when our schedules permit it".
So we went back and forth on emails for about 3 weeks and he basically said that due to his workload schedule (he's getting a PhD) he would have a hard time seeing me but he'd check his schedule, call me mid to late January and let me know if he'd have time to come see me. I think he sent that final email in early December.
Okay, cool.
So mid January comes...and goes...and he hasn't said boo to me. I also found out that he's made plans to go visit some people next weekend. Now, I don't know the specifics because they've been friends much longer than we have but this means he's looked at his calendar.
I don't know, I'm feeling like I played this wrong.erplexed I didn't want to seem too into this guy because he's the dude that every girl likes. Girls will just throw themselves at him and it goes to his head.
But I never responded to his last email where he basically laid out his train of thought on visiting me. I also wasn't really receptive to all of his advances because I assumed it was all part of "his game". He'd play with my toes (I would do nothing), sit with his head in my lap (I would again, do nothing) or watch a movie (we actually watched like six hours of movies, side by side. Again, more of me doing nothing). Plus, he's also a student so maybe he is really busy - maybe I should make a move and send him an email, call him, or something.
However, after reading a few threads on this board, it seems that the general opinion is that if a guy wants you, he'll pursue you and show you. I set up our last meeting and sent the first email to initiate our (pending) next meeting. If I contact him again, won't that look desperate? Almost like I'm obsessed with him, can't let him go, and can't find men around here? I don't want to be made a fool.
Thoughts? I'm sorry if this doesn't make total sense.
So we went back and forth on emails for about 3 weeks and he basically said that due to his workload schedule (he's getting a PhD) he would have a hard time seeing me but he'd check his schedule, call me mid to late January and let me know if he'd have time to come see me. I think he sent that final email in early December.
Okay, cool.
So mid January comes...and goes...and he hasn't said boo to me. I also found out that he's made plans to go visit some people next weekend. Now, I don't know the specifics because they've been friends much longer than we have but this means he's looked at his calendar.
I don't know, I'm feeling like I played this wrong.erplexed I didn't want to seem too into this guy because he's the dude that every girl likes. Girls will just throw themselves at him and it goes to his head.
But I never responded to his last email where he basically laid out his train of thought on visiting me. I also wasn't really receptive to all of his advances because I assumed it was all part of "his game". He'd play with my toes (I would do nothing), sit with his head in my lap (I would again, do nothing) or watch a movie (we actually watched like six hours of movies, side by side. Again, more of me doing nothing). Plus, he's also a student so maybe he is really busy - maybe I should make a move and send him an email, call him, or something.
However, after reading a few threads on this board, it seems that the general opinion is that if a guy wants you, he'll pursue you and show you. I set up our last meeting and sent the first email to initiate our (pending) next meeting. If I contact him again, won't that look desperate? Almost like I'm obsessed with him, can't let him go, and can't find men around here? I don't want to be made a fool.
Thoughts? I'm sorry if this doesn't make total sense.