summertimewine
*sips tea*
You're so funny!!! One of my friends is the exact same way! She has a really hard time with what I call "keeping it cute". We would go to bars and strike up conversations and she would almost always throw up information like it was vital to her life.Noooo! It's soooo hard. For real. I don't know if you watch Scandal but Mellie was having a hard time not being a know-it-all/smarta$$ and I understood completely. It hurts when I have to play dumb on anything (are y'all understanding more why I'm single lmao). If it's legit something I don't know then I'll fess up. But if I know ANYTHING about it then I say so. It's difficult for me to vulnerable/give up control.
So in the situation you posted I would have told him straight up that I knew what they meant and that I had made an appointment with my mechanic or was going to later this week. And if he would have offered to check for me it would have taken A LOT of convincing (does he REALLY know cars? For how long? Has he ever effed up a car?) for me to say yes.
I say thank you to men who do stuff for me like open doors or take heavy stuff, but I rarely ask them to do it. They'll usually say no anyway. So it's a pleasant surprise when someone does it for me.
I'm just the opposite. I really don't like people knowing how smart I am. I know how smart I am but sometimes engaging people by asking questions about what they think they are smart in will create strong personal and social bonds. That's what I prefer. I prefer to have a strong social crowd than people who know I know stuff.
Also I don't automatically assume my SO is insulting my intelligence or seeing how smart I am by asking "Do you know what this means?"