IONENABILLION
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I am in my early 20's and it upsets me that I can't attract men to save my life. I would describe myself as borderline tomboy but not complete butch. But even when I am dressed classy, guys still don't approach me.
I always hear guys say that they just use women who dress slutty or show skin for sex but to me that seems like a bunch of BS. It's like as long as the girl is beautiful and she treats the guy good, they don't care. I see girls who are FAR from classy or virginal and still get men to marry them. Kendra Wilkinson, anyone? And, she's not the only one. There are countless others just liker her. Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not hating on,judging, or trying to come off like I'm better then women like Kendra because I'm not.
But I keep wondering what's the point of trying to keep up my goody two shoes image (not that I'm faking it b/c I'm naturally shy and introverted) when I have yet to gain anything from it?
I think I'm on par with how guys getting tired of being the “nice guy” because you see the “bad boys” having all the fun. You play by the so called “rules” and you still lose. As I was saying.......
I'm 23 and still a virgin . And some people might say that's good thing until they find out your only a virgin because nobody wants to f**k you.
I can count on one hand how many times I have been approached within the last 5 years.
And I'm tired of being flat out ignored by guys or treated like a female relative/friend. Kinda how guys complain about being in the “friend zone”
So, why should I keep doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results? (Yes, the definition of Insanity).
So I was thinking. Should I start wearing outfits like:
And, yes, I'm well aware of the fact that I could be putting myself out there to just attract guys who want sex. But, the way I look at it is most men are gonna want sex eventually. Rather it's Day 1 or Day 100. In plus, it's not like I never had guys approach me in the past who just wanted sex when I was just wearing regular clothes. I concluded from my experiences, if that's all a guys wants then it won't matter what you have on. And it would be better then not attracting men at all because then I'll be right back at square one. And not to offend any older women here but I don't want to be 30+ and still single. I know I'm young now. But, I also know I'm not going to be young forever and as a woman I do have a shorter dating shelf life than a man. So, I don't have time to waste. It's not fair but it is what it is. So, I don't want to hear no “You have your whole life to get married”. That's bull. All over the internet Men talk about how they value youth and beauty in a woman.
It might seem like I'm trying to take the easy way out. But, what other options do I have besides waiting it out? If that hasn't worked for the last 5 years, why would it work now?
So, back to my original question.
Should I start showing more skin in order to attract men?
I always hear guys say that they just use women who dress slutty or show skin for sex but to me that seems like a bunch of BS. It's like as long as the girl is beautiful and she treats the guy good, they don't care. I see girls who are FAR from classy or virginal and still get men to marry them. Kendra Wilkinson, anyone? And, she's not the only one. There are countless others just liker her. Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not hating on,judging, or trying to come off like I'm better then women like Kendra because I'm not.
But I keep wondering what's the point of trying to keep up my goody two shoes image (not that I'm faking it b/c I'm naturally shy and introverted) when I have yet to gain anything from it?
I think I'm on par with how guys getting tired of being the “nice guy” because you see the “bad boys” having all the fun. You play by the so called “rules” and you still lose. As I was saying.......
I'm 23 and still a virgin . And some people might say that's good thing until they find out your only a virgin because nobody wants to f**k you.
I can count on one hand how many times I have been approached within the last 5 years.
And I'm tired of being flat out ignored by guys or treated like a female relative/friend. Kinda how guys complain about being in the “friend zone”
So, why should I keep doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results? (Yes, the definition of Insanity).
So I was thinking. Should I start wearing outfits like:
And, yes, I'm well aware of the fact that I could be putting myself out there to just attract guys who want sex. But, the way I look at it is most men are gonna want sex eventually. Rather it's Day 1 or Day 100. In plus, it's not like I never had guys approach me in the past who just wanted sex when I was just wearing regular clothes. I concluded from my experiences, if that's all a guys wants then it won't matter what you have on. And it would be better then not attracting men at all because then I'll be right back at square one. And not to offend any older women here but I don't want to be 30+ and still single. I know I'm young now. But, I also know I'm not going to be young forever and as a woman I do have a shorter dating shelf life than a man. So, I don't have time to waste. It's not fair but it is what it is. So, I don't want to hear no “You have your whole life to get married”. That's bull. All over the internet Men talk about how they value youth and beauty in a woman.
It might seem like I'm trying to take the easy way out. But, what other options do I have besides waiting it out? If that hasn't worked for the last 5 years, why would it work now?
So, back to my original question.
Should I start showing more skin in order to attract men?
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