Chocolatep35
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Hi Ladies, I usually don’t post in this section or any other for that matter I usually just read, retain and keep on rolling, but right now I have a dilemma (kind of) and the only person I really can talk to is the person I’m having the dilemma with. Okay so here’s the story I met this guy four years ago first thing he said to me when he met me was I was going to be his wife, in my head I’m like yeah what ever. At the time we worked in the same area so I’d see him often and we became pretty good friends. At the time I was in a bad relationship and it eventually ended and he was there for me as a friend during that time. He’s a service guy and after the hurricane in 2005 we got blown in two opposite directions but stayed in touch with one another. We began a more serious more than friends relationship. I wasn’t expecting to fall as hard as I have but it happened I don’t have any regrets about ( I don’t think I do) he’s my best friend, I can talk to him about anything.
By use being in a LDR in a way I think it has helped sustain our relationship since all that physical stuff really hasn’t had time to get in the way. Since he’s in the service a lot of time is spent on the phone and writing and when we do get see each other is seems like no one else on earth exist but us but at the same time its not long enough. So here’s the thing before me he was in a long relationship with someone and they have kids and a lot times he compares our relationships, and I hate that and it bothers me enough to want to separate myself from this relationship. I’ll give you an example of things that he does. He’ll write me and just out the blue he’ll off into this rant about women; A women could ell you she loves you a million times and at the drop of a hat turn her back…XYZ person use to tell me that and the whole time she was with someone else…oh but you Chocolatep35 I know you’re something different blah, blah, blah…” I’ll give you another example so I’m really close to my grandmother and I found out she has a condition and I was really bothered by it and needed someone to talk to. So I write him telling him about what was going and how I’m feeling and he’s response was: “Oh I’m sorry to hear about Gma but I know other guys get at you all the time and you’re gonna get tired of this LDR stuff and fall weak, XYZ person did this this that and the other.” I mean this has been going on for a while.
I don’t doubt that he loves me but he has some major security issues I feel like he’s not over his ex and I feel like I’m sharing him. He’ll say he trusts me and in the same breath he’ll go into some crap about what the last female did. Am I over reacting? I told him how I felt about this before and to me he really just didn’t even acknowledge it at all, it stopped for a while but not long. The week before last I told he that he should leave me alone before we ended up on snapped or something, and go work things out with this other person that he can’t seem get off his mind. He says that I’m getting cold feet ( he asked me to marry him) and I’m just trying to find a reason to end it all and let him down easy so that I can continue doing whatever I’ve been doing, I’m not doing anything but in his mind I just have to have someone on the side or something I mean look at me what man wouldn’t want me (his words not mine). He says he feels like he’s number two. I’m a strong believer in my faith and that’s why I’m still in this relationship, last year I got a WORD about my life and this relationship and I know it was this relationship because of the words that were used to describe the relationship being spoken about. I know I just wrote a book but I just had to let this out.
By use being in a LDR in a way I think it has helped sustain our relationship since all that physical stuff really hasn’t had time to get in the way. Since he’s in the service a lot of time is spent on the phone and writing and when we do get see each other is seems like no one else on earth exist but us but at the same time its not long enough. So here’s the thing before me he was in a long relationship with someone and they have kids and a lot times he compares our relationships, and I hate that and it bothers me enough to want to separate myself from this relationship. I’ll give you an example of things that he does. He’ll write me and just out the blue he’ll off into this rant about women; A women could ell you she loves you a million times and at the drop of a hat turn her back…XYZ person use to tell me that and the whole time she was with someone else…oh but you Chocolatep35 I know you’re something different blah, blah, blah…” I’ll give you another example so I’m really close to my grandmother and I found out she has a condition and I was really bothered by it and needed someone to talk to. So I write him telling him about what was going and how I’m feeling and he’s response was: “Oh I’m sorry to hear about Gma but I know other guys get at you all the time and you’re gonna get tired of this LDR stuff and fall weak, XYZ person did this this that and the other.” I mean this has been going on for a while.
I don’t doubt that he loves me but he has some major security issues I feel like he’s not over his ex and I feel like I’m sharing him. He’ll say he trusts me and in the same breath he’ll go into some crap about what the last female did. Am I over reacting? I told him how I felt about this before and to me he really just didn’t even acknowledge it at all, it stopped for a while but not long. The week before last I told he that he should leave me alone before we ended up on snapped or something, and go work things out with this other person that he can’t seem get off his mind. He says that I’m getting cold feet ( he asked me to marry him) and I’m just trying to find a reason to end it all and let him down easy so that I can continue doing whatever I’ve been doing, I’m not doing anything but in his mind I just have to have someone on the side or something I mean look at me what man wouldn’t want me (his words not mine). He says he feels like he’s number two. I’m a strong believer in my faith and that’s why I’m still in this relationship, last year I got a WORD about my life and this relationship and I know it was this relationship because of the words that were used to describe the relationship being spoken about. I know I just wrote a book but I just had to let this out.
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