IMFOCSD
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Hi ladieis, this is very long, please forgive me.
I am going to start from the beginning. Me and my ex met july of 2000 and we just broke up a couple weeks ago. When we first got together it was cool but eventually things changed for the bad. He became mean and emotionally abusive. He also brought other women into our relationship some I found out about, some I did not. I kept forgiving him and stayed around and eventually things between us got better and better. We still had our problems but nothing serious. About a year and a half ago we moved out of our bad neighbor hood into a house with his mom. I had just had my 3rd child and his mom told me we could move in with her while I went to school so I would not have to worry about catching so many different buses getting to work and getting the baby to daycare. I immediately started school. The situations between us got bad again, i mean the worst for the whole time we were there. I t was not all bad but the bad outweighed the good. I was about my business and he was not. I was so stressed out that I began to lose weight. I mean I was basically on "his terf" and had no support from no one but my 3kids. his family and friends all had his back but I am a strong woman so i stuck it in for as long as i could. I finally moved with my mom and transfered my kids to different schools thinking that we needed space for things to get better.....WRONG. He just got more comfortable and more relaxed. we were always on bad terms, not speaking for days to weeks at a time for nothing. he has a bad attitude and gets upset about the smallest things. about a couple weeks ago he told me he had a friend who he sees/talks to from time to time but told me it wasnt serious. he also told me he had been going to see her but they and other people he knew would always end up at the bar. He told me they had only been knowing eachother for a couple weeks but iwas told by one of my and his friends that it has been since march.
When we had our own place there was a guy who used to sell things to my ex but they were never friends, it was all busuness. Every few months I would see this person and he would go out of his way to speak to me and he is vey nice. A couple days after myn ex told me about the girl i ran into the guy and he asked me how i was doing and asked my about my relationship and I told him we broke so we exchanged numbers which was a great thing. We have been talking for a couple weeks and he is very nice, caring, understanding, he has a jib and his own place. He also has 2 daughters of his own. I really like him and he really likes me. he evenbtold me he prayed for me and that he felt I was a blessing from God. My ex called me a few days after he told me about the girl crying, and he's sorry, he's gonna change, and do this and that and shortly after his mom had a heart attack and open heart surgery. I look at his family as my family but I wann give things a chance with my new SO. Me and my ex has alot of history (8yrs worth), we have 3 kids who has always seen us together.
Should i take him back or move on?
I know this wa long and I appreciate you all fro reading this and am looking forward to your comments
I am going to start from the beginning. Me and my ex met july of 2000 and we just broke up a couple weeks ago. When we first got together it was cool but eventually things changed for the bad. He became mean and emotionally abusive. He also brought other women into our relationship some I found out about, some I did not. I kept forgiving him and stayed around and eventually things between us got better and better. We still had our problems but nothing serious. About a year and a half ago we moved out of our bad neighbor hood into a house with his mom. I had just had my 3rd child and his mom told me we could move in with her while I went to school so I would not have to worry about catching so many different buses getting to work and getting the baby to daycare. I immediately started school. The situations between us got bad again, i mean the worst for the whole time we were there. I t was not all bad but the bad outweighed the good. I was about my business and he was not. I was so stressed out that I began to lose weight. I mean I was basically on "his terf" and had no support from no one but my 3kids. his family and friends all had his back but I am a strong woman so i stuck it in for as long as i could. I finally moved with my mom and transfered my kids to different schools thinking that we needed space for things to get better.....WRONG. He just got more comfortable and more relaxed. we were always on bad terms, not speaking for days to weeks at a time for nothing. he has a bad attitude and gets upset about the smallest things. about a couple weeks ago he told me he had a friend who he sees/talks to from time to time but told me it wasnt serious. he also told me he had been going to see her but they and other people he knew would always end up at the bar. He told me they had only been knowing eachother for a couple weeks but iwas told by one of my and his friends that it has been since march.
When we had our own place there was a guy who used to sell things to my ex but they were never friends, it was all busuness. Every few months I would see this person and he would go out of his way to speak to me and he is vey nice. A couple days after myn ex told me about the girl i ran into the guy and he asked me how i was doing and asked my about my relationship and I told him we broke so we exchanged numbers which was a great thing. We have been talking for a couple weeks and he is very nice, caring, understanding, he has a jib and his own place. He also has 2 daughters of his own. I really like him and he really likes me. he evenbtold me he prayed for me and that he felt I was a blessing from God. My ex called me a few days after he told me about the girl crying, and he's sorry, he's gonna change, and do this and that and shortly after his mom had a heart attack and open heart surgery. I look at his family as my family but I wann give things a chance with my new SO. Me and my ex has alot of history (8yrs worth), we have 3 kids who has always seen us together.
Should i take him back or move on?
I know this wa long and I appreciate you all fro reading this and am looking forward to your comments