Hairsnob
Deep Thinker
Anyone know a man who is a serial dater or serial monogamist? I was talking about this to my girlfriends and we were saying that’s the reason some men get over ending a relationship quicker than women. Of course there can be women who are serial daters or monogamists also. But in this case we’re talking about men. They make sure they have the other woman lined up before they end the relationship with the one they’re with. I was saying that it’s a sign of insecurity because they don’t want to be alone so they won’t leave the one partner until they find the next one. Meanwhile, the woman is left to be hurt by him leaving. The man just carries the baggage from the last relationship over to the new one. But does he ever get hurt?
I dated someone like that before and it was amazing how fast we fell in love and how fast he left after a two year relationship. I was hurt for a while of course but he “seemed” to move on rather quickly, which is usually the case with these types of men. These types of men can tell you they love you up until the day before they break up. I have a girlfriend going through this right now and it’s hard to make her understand and see what I went through. All of the signs were there that matched the guy I dated.
Here were the signs:
He professed his love quickly.
He’ll make all kinds of plans with you and have you thinking you’re the best thing that happened to him.
He usually is fully committed to you while you’re dating/married (until he gets tired of TRYING to stay committed).
He would confuse certain gifts he gave me with gifts to other women.
He had no valid reasons for ending his relationships prior to me (so he says, but who is to say what’s valid).
He jumps from relationship to relationship with no time in between.
I believe that this type of person lives in a fantasy world and only want to stay in a relationship as long as everything is perfect. The first sign of trouble in paradise and they are gone faster than you can blink. One of my girlfriends says they have commitment issues. I believe they can commit but not for long. I guess it depends on what you call a commitment, whether it’s long or short. I guess you could technically commit for a day if you know what I mean. I believe my BF was committed for about 18 months of the 2 yrs we were together (as far as I know). But the last 6 months is when I doubted it because we were together almost all of the time up until the last 6 months. As soon as we broke up he was with someone else, go figure. My girlfriend’s BF was committed for about 6 months and bailed quick.
What is your experience with these types of men? Anyone date one before?
I dated someone like that before and it was amazing how fast we fell in love and how fast he left after a two year relationship. I was hurt for a while of course but he “seemed” to move on rather quickly, which is usually the case with these types of men. These types of men can tell you they love you up until the day before they break up. I have a girlfriend going through this right now and it’s hard to make her understand and see what I went through. All of the signs were there that matched the guy I dated.
Here were the signs:
He professed his love quickly.
He’ll make all kinds of plans with you and have you thinking you’re the best thing that happened to him.
He usually is fully committed to you while you’re dating/married (until he gets tired of TRYING to stay committed).
He would confuse certain gifts he gave me with gifts to other women.
He had no valid reasons for ending his relationships prior to me (so he says, but who is to say what’s valid).
He jumps from relationship to relationship with no time in between.
I believe that this type of person lives in a fantasy world and only want to stay in a relationship as long as everything is perfect. The first sign of trouble in paradise and they are gone faster than you can blink. One of my girlfriends says they have commitment issues. I believe they can commit but not for long. I guess it depends on what you call a commitment, whether it’s long or short. I guess you could technically commit for a day if you know what I mean. I believe my BF was committed for about 18 months of the 2 yrs we were together (as far as I know). But the last 6 months is when I doubted it because we were together almost all of the time up until the last 6 months. As soon as we broke up he was with someone else, go figure. My girlfriend’s BF was committed for about 6 months and bailed quick.
What is your experience with these types of men? Anyone date one before?
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