Glamorous_chic
Well-Known Member
today, i was talking to a good friend of mine whose gf is expecting a baby. last time i spoke with him, he was asking my advice regarding ring purchase and i went with him to look at rings for his gf. today, i was asking about the proposal and he told me he's not marrying her. 
so, he explains that when they went looking at rings that she is very particular about what she wants. she wants an exact clarity, color, and size. which is understandable, but she only wants exact specifications. the sales woman even explained that at a certain point that alot of the details are not viewable to the human eye. but he said that his gf made it very clear that she doesn't want anything less. but the ring she wants is 20-30k. 
i'm not married, so i'm not sure if this is the going rate for engagement rings. he was going to buy the ring, but he says that he isn't comfortable spending that much money while he still has a mortgage and the baby on the way, and that he wants to have a certain amount of money in savings before spending that amount. he also says her mother calls him all the time asking when is he going to propose and marry her and he's starting to feel pressured and he wants this to be something that comes naturally. but the girl is very religious and catholic, so its very important to her to be engaged . he says he's talked to her about it already with no resolution. he seems to really care about her and love her, and i've never seem him like this with the women he dates. but i can see both sides, in that this is what she wants and she shouldn't have to expect less, and for him he feels like not only is he being pressured but they are expecting, and she wants him to spend 20-30k on an engagement ring. i ddidn't really know what to say as far as advice, b/c he had a point. it seems like if she can't have the exact ring she wants then she doesn't want the marriage
anways, i wrote all that to say what advice would you give in this situation?
so, he explains that when they went looking at rings that she is very particular about what she wants. she wants an exact clarity, color, and size. which is understandable, but she only wants exact specifications. the sales woman even explained that at a certain point that alot of the details are not viewable to the human eye. but he said that his gf made it very clear that she doesn't want anything less. but the ring she wants is 20-30k. i'm not married, so i'm not sure if this is the going rate for engagement rings. he was going to buy the ring, but he says that he isn't comfortable spending that much money while he still has a mortgage and the baby on the way, and that he wants to have a certain amount of money in savings before spending that amount. he also says her mother calls him all the time asking when is he going to propose and marry her and he's starting to feel pressured and he wants this to be something that comes naturally. but the girl is very religious and catholic, so its very important to her to be engaged . he says he's talked to her about it already with no resolution. he seems to really care about her and love her, and i've never seem him like this with the women he dates. but i can see both sides, in that this is what she wants and she shouldn't have to expect less, and for him he feels like not only is he being pressured but they are expecting, and she wants him to spend 20-30k on an engagement ring. i ddidn't really know what to say as far as advice, b/c he had a point. it seems like if she can't have the exact ring she wants then she doesn't want the marriage
anways, i wrote all that to say what advice would you give in this situation?
erplexed 
Seems like he is thinking more about the baby's future than the mom or MIL.
