Relaxed Hair Thread

CafedeBelleza, I legit want to transition but it's so hard. It's easier to just BC and do it cold turkey. And I still want to wear my hair 100% of the time, so I'm feeling conflicted. Hence why I'm in braids right now. Out of hands, out of sight, out of mind.

How long did you transition before finally relaxing?
 
naija24 said:
CafedeBelleza, I legit want to transition but it's so hard. It's easier to just BC and do it cold turkey. And I still want to wear my hair 100% of the time, so I'm feeling conflicted. Hence why I'm in braids right now. Out of hands, out of sight, out of mind. How long did you transition before finally relaxing?
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I went six months and I really liked what I was seeing but when I thought about the way I like to wear my hair I couldn't see the point on going natural. I think if I bc it would be different but I am not in a position to do that right now. I said I'd try again when I'm ready to have children. If I have a reason besides vanity I'd probably stick to it.
 
naija24 said:
curious how many women in here are torn between transitioning and relaxing. i feel like everyone is natural now, except on here.
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I'm with you while I do love my relaxed hair I'm gonna take the plunge. I just want to see what*my natural hair looks like. But please believe if I can't manage I will relax in a heart beat lol.

Also I do stretch my relaxers. I only got 3 last year (I think) and I wear my hair up or curly.
 
I was relaxed then transitioned stayed natural for 4 years then relaxed again. Relaxed hair is convenient for me. Not much fussing to style. When my hair was natural it took more time from me to do everything. My hair is not thick it just looks thick when natural because of the curls.
 
Took down my braided pony. My scalp was so itchy I scratched it till it bled in my nape area. Sigh. Next relaxer due 28th January I really should not be scratching like that!
 
naija24 said:
curious how many women in here are torn between transitioning and relaxing. i feel like everyone is natural now, except on here.
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I'm transitioning right now. My main goal is to do WNGs and not look crazy bout the head...LOL. I have been relaxed for most of my adult life. I am currently using Chi Enviro to transition. I just did my first self application, second application. Benefits are supposed to be cumulative. I have been a self relaxer forever and I didn't want to lose my length or my options while I'm transitioning. I figured if I could put lye on my head and get it off in time to save my skin and most of my hair that I could do Chi.
 
Cattypus1 said:
I'm transitioning right now. My main goal is to do WNGs and not look crazy bout the head...LOL. I have been relaxed for most of my adult life. I am currently using Chi Enviro to transition. I just did my first self application, second application. Benefits are supposed to be cumulative. I have been a self relaxer forever and I didn't want to lose my length or my options while I'm transitioning. I figured if I could put lye on my head and get it off in time to save my skin and most of my hair that I could do Chi.
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What's Chi Enviro? is it like a BKT at home treatment?

I was debating texturizers for a while, because I did that back in college once while I was natural and it made my hair SOOOOO much easier to manage but no one could tell that I put any chemical in my hair.

I just feel like, sometimes, I'm in a box. If I use heat or BKTs, i'm "transitioning wrong". If I use texturizers to have thicker hair, OMG YOU'RE USING CHEMICALS RELAXERS ARE THE DEVIL. If I BC, I look like a dude to many people (including my bf who I love and is great but hates short hair) and transitioning is scary for someone like me with GAD.

Everything sucks. I respect yall who don't give a damn about anyone's opinion and just enjoy your hair.

I wouldn't care getting relaxers except that the way some naturals are talking, we will all be bald in 20 years. And this is a new thing. I never felt this much pressure or heard this much discussion about black hair until maybe 2010.
 
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kimpaur said:
being natural is overrated sometimes :look:
Lol JK, I am/was natural for 4, going on 5 years. I say was because I plan on textlaxing this week. I'm a 4a i believe and my hair is gorgeous...and beautiful...but overwhelming. Also, my birthday is next week and I really want a change...an easier,less shrunken change. Natural just got boring for me. And too many people are Natural now, so I don't feel as unique :look: Anywho, I do believe that every woman SHOULD go natural if she doesn't know her true texture. That's why I'm not really tripping, I feel confident that in the future I can decide to stop using chemicals and be perfectly prepared/fine with the idea because I know my hair.


ETA Sorry for writing my hair's life story LOL, I just needed to get that off my chest :look:
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WOW I agree with you 100%. When I first went natural, there were a handful of use where I was in NM and almost none when I got back to GA. I stood out everywhere I went but that has long since died. I'm so happy so many ladies are natural now!! It allowed me to stop feeling pressured to keep fighting for the cause when all I wanted to do was kill my shrinkage :whip:. I'm ready to get my grow on and be a unicorn again because around here, a black chick with healthy APL or longer hair is like finding a diamond in a haystack :lol:.

naija24 , when I first relaxed, I was set to transition back to natural almost immediately. But now (as long as my scalp issues go away), I'm happy to stay relaxed. I just need to be more careful with my scalp and find a stronger relaxer, cause I'm looking to go straighter.
 
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Last night I was too lazy to redo my hair, so I did a braid in the front and one in the back. Took it out this morning and I loved it. Bouncy curly hair :grin:!!! I noticed that my styles have come out right every single time I do them on barely damp or dry hair, and so far, a mess on completely wet hair. Does anyone else have this issue? I might just be half-butt about what I'm doing when my hair's wet :ohwell:.

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naija24 said:
What's Chi Enviro? is it like a BKT at home treatment? I was debating texturizers for a while, because I did that back in college once while I was natural and it made my hair SOOOOO much easier to manage but no one could tell that I put any chemical in my hair. I just feel like, sometimes, I'm in a box. If I use heat or BKTs, i'm "transitioning wrong". If I use texturizers to have thicker hair, OMG YOU'RE USING CHEMICALS RELAXERS ARE THE DEVIL. If I BC, I look like a dude to many people (including my bf who I love and is great but hates short hair) and transitioning is scary for someone like me with GAD. Everything sucks. I respect yall who don't give a damn about anyone's opinion and just enjoy your hair. I wouldn't care getting relaxers except that the way some naturals are talking, we will all be bald in 20 years. And this is a new thing. I never felt this much pressure or heard this much discussion about black hair until maybe 2010.
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Girl, you gotta do you! Chi Enviro is similar to a BKT or so I'm told but without the "hydes". It is marketed to professionals but I found some on EBay. My ends were getting thin and I changed relaxers about a year and a half ago and did some major damage which added to the thinness. I'm very loosely styled and hate the "every hair in place look" on me. I love good Twistout. I don't really care if I have to use chemicals or not--and I could care less what anybody thinks or says about it. I'm also graying and have struggled with to color or not to color. Chi is supposed to improve the condition of your hair by infusing silk and protein into the strands. When it's straight it looks relaxed, when it's wet it looks natural. What's a GAD?
 
Cattypus1 said:
Girl, you gotta do you! Chi Enviro is similar to a BKT or so I'm told but without the "hydes". It is marketed to professionals but I found some on EBay. My ends were getting thin and I changed relaxers about a year and a half ago and did some major damage which added to the thinness. I'm very loosely styled and hate the "every hair in place look" on me. I love good Twistout. I don't really care if I have to use chemicals or not--and I could care less what anybody thinks or says about it. I'm also graying and have struggled with to color or not to color. Chi is supposed to improve the condition of your hair by infusing silk and protein into the strands. When it's straight it looks relaxed, when it's wet it looks natural. What's a GAD?
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GAD, to be frank, is Generalized Anxiety Disorder. So I naturally worry about everything. I have it under control until last year. Lots of stuff happened but one of which was that I got confused about my hair. Do I want it relaxed? Do I want it natural? Straight haired natural? Do I want an afro? Maybe texturized? Will I get heat damage? How long do I want my hair? How many trims a year should I get? SHould I go to the salon or do my hair all on my own? What will my boyfriend/coworkers/family think? What is my growth rate? What is my hair type? Which type is better/cuter/easier? Should I transition? If so, for how long? Does it matter? Should I big chop now or in 6 months? 12 months? 24 months? Never? Are my ends dry or damaged??

And repeat every other day.

So now I just have braids :D My only real question on the regular is when to take them down, which I'm aiming for March. But I'm sure by then all the questions will pop up again :/
 
naija24 said:
GAD, to be frank, is Generalized Anxiety Disorder. So I naturally worry about everything. I have it under control until last year. Lots of stuff happened but one of which was that I got confused about my hair. Do I want it relaxed? Do I want it natural? Straight haired natural? Do I want an afro? Maybe texturized? Will I get heat damage? How long do I want my hair? How many trims a year should I get? SHould I go to the salon or do my hair all on my own? What will my boyfriend/coworkers/family think? What is my growth rate? What is my hair type? Which type is better/cuter/easier? Should I transition? If so, for how long? Does it matter? Should I big chop now or in 6 months? 12 months? 24 months? Never? Are my ends dry or damaged?? And repeat every other day. So now I just have braids :D My only real question on the regular is when to take them down, which I'm aiming for March. But I'm sure by then all the questions will pop up again :/
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I ask myself some of those same questions because I have been a hair freak for most of my life. I don't really worry about it though because it's just hair and as long as it continues to grow whatever I do to it can be resolved with time. Good luck with your journey, you may be more under control than you think.
 
The only bad thing about a fresh relaxer is how it kicks my "hand in head syndrome" into overdrive.
I still can't believe I self relaxed. I will never pay $90 for a relaxer setback/under processed results ever again! If everything goes as planned, I'll relax again at 12 weeks post. I will never ever everrr stray away from LHCF again :lol:
 
So I need to do a corrective sigh. ohwell.

then tresssame gave me protein over load. I lost so much hair!!! back to my cones.
 
Got another question :look:

I know some of you ladies don't shampoo frequently. What do you use instead to cleanse (could I get specific products please)? Do any of you save shampoo with relaxer days only?
 
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ckisland said:
Got another question :look: I know some of you ladies don't shampoo frequently. What do you use instead to cleanse (could I get specific products please)? Do any of you save shampoo with relaxer days only?
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Great question; I'll be looking out for some responses too. I'm worried that maybe my naturally would be better if I shampooed less, but mentally I can't see me doing that (I'm really set in my mind abt washing weekly...sigh.)

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ckisland said:
Got another question :look:

I know some of you ladies don't shampoo frequently. What do you use instead to cleanse (could I get specific products please)? Do any of you save shampoo with relaxer days only?
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I wash once a week with clarifying shampoo. Then I co wash once a week. This seems to work for me.

If Im getting closer to relaxer time I add a moisurizing shampoo after I clarify.

But I'm also working out 5 tinesba week and sweating in my head so I need that wash.

Other wise I get build up on my scalp.
 
ckisland said:
Got another question :look:

I know some of you ladies don't shampoo frequently. What do you use instead to cleanse (could I get specific products please)? Do any of you save shampoo with relaxer days only?
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ckisland, I was co-cleansing weekly with HairVeda Amala Cream Rinse and shampooing with Bee Mine Botanicals once every 4 weeks or so. I started using butters to seal a few months ago and felt co-cleansing every week just wasn't cutting it. I now alternate co-cleansing and shampooing.
 
I've been so busy at work that I haven't had the time or energy to wash my hair. My scalp has been itching like crazy and it hasn't been washed since New Year's Eve. Since I finally have a day off, I washed and now I'm deep conditioning. I was moisturizing and sealing but I think I did some damage. I'll be deep conditioning twice a week for the next four weeks...no straightening..just air dry...my hair needs some extra love
 
Im noticing a lot of new growth as Im doing my rollerset. Im 8 weeks post, wanted to stretch to 12 before relaxing. Not sure if Ill make it. Not sure which relaxer Ill use next time. Im definitely not using ORS lye again.

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