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Shelew said:
How often do you ladies trim? I thought I just may leave mine alone in hopes that my other hair would catch up to the lead hairs. But that did not work for me. It just broke off more. I have been bunning what seems like forever and still hanging between shoulder and apl. Do you think I should bite the bullet and just trim all across blunt. Just seems like I have been down that road and still end up in the same place. Last year in May cut my hair and here I am about to do the same thing. Any advice for how to maintain once I do cut. I thought bunning was the answer but apparently not :-(((((((( Help!! Lol
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Bunning may not be for you. I know for me it doesnt. I had this problem area in the back that kept constantly breaking so I started asking questions as well. So now that part is starting to thrive and catch up to my other hairs. I first started stretching my relaxers. Then i made absolutely sure to moisturize and seal nightly, especially the problem area. I incorporated doing a light to mild protein treatment biweekly and made sure to DC weekly. My proctective style or should i say low manipulation style that helped me was my bantu knot out. I now dust my ends about once every two to three months. May i ask whats your reggie like??
 
Thanks! I wash my hair once a week with moisturizing shampoo. Then I deep condition under dryer 30 minutes with either moisturizing or protein conditioner. I let it air dry. Then I do a quick flat iron just big chunks of hair nothing perfect or tedious. I might wear it down that day depending on what time I wash. Then it goes into a bun the rest of the week. I use burdock root butter or ors olive oil lotion daily and seal with grapeseed or some oil. Then starts over the next week. I been doing this for about a year or so. I may change up conditioners or shampoo. Just seems a little odd to still be at this point.
 
naija24 said:
Babygrowth, right now I'm just wearing it straight. It's like a longer version of the Halle Berry. I don't have many options cuz it's under 3 inches :/ And I have no bangs. Which sucks. I'm hoping to have it reach a nice bob length around May but that's still a while away. I cant' stand the idea of wigs or weave.

I'm just terrified at the idea of overprocessing my hair and all my hair falls out :O But I know that I dont'w atn to look dumpy either.
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Flat iron on low just to soften it up then do a messy pixie style. Depending on ur texture you can do a wet straw set, dry straw set, a cold wave/rod roller set (just saw a 4b do a great one),.. Cornrow wet hair into big braids, dry, undo, add some control paste to edges, add headband or pretty scarf band for a chic look.

I don't advise relaxing short hair often because it's almost impossible to not overlap.

Good luck!

Edt
Flat twist or Cornrow 1/4-1/5 of hair in front, cold wave set hair in back using small rollers, tousle, and wallah!! ... Perfectly disguised newgrowth!
 
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Shelew said:
How often do you ladies trim? I thought I just may leave mine alone in hopes that my other hair would catch up to the lead hairs. But that did not work for me. It just broke off more. I have been bunning what seems like forever and still hanging between shoulder and apl. Do you think I should bite the bullet and just trim all across blunt. Just seems like I have been down that road and still end up in the same place. Last year in May cut my hair and here I am about to do the same thing. Any advice for how to maintain once I do cut. I thought bunning was the answer but apparently not :-(((((((( Help!! Lol
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I had issues with breakage in the back as well. I recently started doing high buns and that seems to work much better for my hair than wearing buns in the lower back.
 
Shelew said:
Thanks! I wash my hair once a week with moisturizing shampoo. Then I deep condition under dryer 30 minutes with either moisturizing or protein conditioner. I let it air dry. Then I do a quick flat iron just big chunks of hair nothing perfect or tedious. I might wear it down that day depending on what time I wash. Then it goes into a bun the rest of the week. I use burdock root butter or ors olive oil lotion daily and seal with grapeseed or some oil. Then starts over the next week. I been doing this for about a year or so. I may change up conditioners or shampoo. Just seems a little odd to still be at this point.
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The flat ironing might be doing you in. I was in your situation as well, stuck between SL and APL for two years due to breakage and trimming back the damage. Once I stopped using heat altogether and bunning without tension (no slicking back tightly or using ponytail holders to bun), in addition to what you are doing, I was able to make it to my APL milestone and moving beyond.

Some hair is very sensitive to tension or excessive manipulation, like mine. I can't do tight ponytails, braids, or buns, or any hairstyle where you have to over-manipulate the hair with any tool or hair dec (like brushing down your edges with gel and the like :nono:), without suffering some damage over time and repeated use. I have adapted to this, and messy buns, loose french braids or bohemian updos are my go to hairstyles -- and it doesn't hurt that they fit my style anyway. :yep:

I think maybe if your hair is fine like mine, if you incorporate this styling change and lay off the heat, you might be able to get past this road block to longer lengths. Good luck!
 
koolkittychick said:
The flat ironing might be doing you in. I was in your situation as well, stuck between SL and APL for two years due to breakage and trimming back the damage. Once I stopped using heat altogether and bunning without tension (no slicking back tightly or using ponytail holders to bun), in addition to what you are doing, I was able to make it to my APL milestone and moving beyond.

Some hair is very sensitive to tension or excessive manipulation, like mine. I can't do tight ponytails, braids, or buns, or any hairstyle where you have to over-manipulate the hair with any tool or hair dec (like brushing down your edges with gel and the like :nono:), without suffering some damage over time and repeated use. I have adapted to this, and messy buns, loose french braids or bohemian updos are my go to hairstyles -- and it doesn't hurt that they fit my style anyway. :yep:

I think maybe if your hair is fine like mine, if you incorporate this styling change and lay off the heat, you might be able to get past this road block to longer lengths. Good luck!
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Oh thanks I was thinking about the no heat. I will try it on my wash this weekend and see how it goes. My hair is thin yet a courser texture. So I will see how it does with out the heat and experiment with some looser tension hair styles. Thanks!
 
Shelew said:
How often do you ladies trim? I thought I just may leave mine alone in hopes that my other hair would catch up to the lead hairs. But that did not work for me.
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I Trim my ends every 3-4 months.

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beautyintheyes said:
Question do any of you use mayo to do a protien treatment cause im broke but im worried if i use it something will go wrong!
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Egg and mayo combo is a great protein treatment. ( wait, r u talking about queen helene mayo tx or mayonnaise?? Lol.). If ur truly broke mayonnaise and eggs are good, smelly but good. Mix it up , apply, and then let it sit for a while. Rinse and follow up with a moisturizing conditioner.
 
beautyintheyes said:
Question do any of you use mayo to do a protien treatment cause im broke but im worried if i use it something will go wrong!
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I used to use mayo to condition my hair when I was a teen but I stopped in my 20's. I just did one a week a d a half ago and I could tell the difference so I will be doing it at least 2 to 3 times a month.
 
Shelew said:
How often do you ladies trim? I thought I just may leave mine alone in hopes that my other hair would catch up to the lead hairs. But that did not work for me. It just broke off more. I have been bunning what seems like forever and still hanging between shoulder and apl. Do you think I should bite the bullet and just trim all across blunt. Just seems like I have been down that road and still end up in the same place. Last year in May cut my hair and here I am about to do the same thing. Any advice for how to maintain once I do cut. I thought bunning was the answer but apparently not :-(((((((( Help!! Lol
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Hi Shelew!

I had that same thing happen when I first started my hhj.
What's more, I had been wet baggy bunning too, which was awful for my hair type.
I have fine hair that is texlaxed, so I no longer bun at all.
I discovered that any type of pulling....even loose buns, eventually created too much stress on the same strands and as a result, they used to break.

I did what you did and got it all evened out and now, I only french twist my hair into a banana chignon going up the back of my head using big, wide hairpins...nothing that clamps or pulls&tugs on my hair.
Yoou might want to look into a different type of protective style or maybe slightly dust rather than trim.

Once you do get rid of the ends you plan to cut/trim/or dust, you might look into ayurveda for strengthening your hair.

I had the same "hump" situation and had thought my hair wouldn't get past SL or APL, but then I started using powders like Maka, Brahmi, Amla, Hibiscus, Fenugreek and Henna...mixed into my dc to make them more of a 1 step process and my hair began to prosper.

You can even throw in some essential oils to make your dc/ayurveda pack more potent and penetrating.

I do this twice a week and am amazed with the results, so please keep your faith and hope and know that you too, can find (through trial and error maybe) what works best for you, get over this hump, and grow long luxurious hair. Just stick with it!:grin::yep:

Hhj!
 
I haven't washed my hair in 3 weeks so I finally did it yesterday and oh my god. It's like I never relaxed my hair at all. My whole head, with the exception of maybe .5 inches, feels like all new growth. I think this is because most of my hair was underprocessed and it's been a month since my last relaxer.

I easier have maybe a good inch of new growth right now :(

My hair looks like a hot mess though. I want to relax it today but I washed it yesterday. This is bad, yes?
 
naija24 said:
I haven't washed my hair in 3 weeks so I finally did it yesterday and oh my god. It's like I never relaxed my hair at all. My whole head, with the exception of maybe .5 inches, feels like all new growth. I think this is because most of my hair was underprocessed and it's been a month since my last relaxer.

I easier have maybe a good inch of new growth right now :(

My hair looks like a hot mess though. I want to relax it today but I washed it yesterday. This is bad, yes?
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If you didn't irritate your scalp then you shld have no pblms relaxing today.
 
Shelew

I trim at every relaxer even though it is not neccessary because I protect my ends 100% of the time anyway. However I'm paranoid & a half an inch wont make you bald. ;)
 
quirkydimples said:
It has been a while. I haven't actually used it yet. I was planning to use Emergencee as my mid-step protein when I relax this weekend and deep condition with humectress.
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I'm relaxing this weekend myself. I plan to use the Mizani BB Pherphecting cream as my mid-relaxer step. I have the Emergencee but I had never thought of using it there. Let me know how you like it.
 
naija24

Sometimes us ladies like a good scratch of the scalp while shampooing. Its all good unless you're relaxing & that very spot you scratched starts to burn a sore in your scalp from the relaxer. :(
 
grow said:
Once you do get rid of the ends you plan to cut/trim/or dust, you might look into ayurveda for strengthening your hair.

I had the same "hump" situation and had thought my hair wouldn't get past SL or APL, but then I started using powders like Maka, Brahmi, Amla, Hibiscus, Fenugreek and Henna...mixed into my dc to make them more of a 1 step process and my hair began to prosper.

You can even throw in some essential oils to make your dc/ayurveda pack more potent and penetrating.

I do this twice a week and am amazed with the results, so please keep your faith and hope and know that you too, can find (through trial and error maybe) what works best for you, get over this hump, and grow long luxurious hair. Just stick with it!:grin::yep:

Hhj!
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Hi Grow. Yes I had bought some of the powders you mentioned from an Indian store a while back but I did not know what to do with them when I got home. I said I better not jump on this wagon and forgot to research because I was looking for something to make my hair a little stronger at the time. Now those powders won't make it like straw will it? That is what I was afraid of and left it alone. Thanks for the advice I will have to give those powders another look :-)
 
pre_medicalrulz said:
Shelew

I trim at every relaxer even though it is not neccessary because I protect my ends 100% of the time anyway. However I'm paranoid & a half an inch wont make you bald. ;)
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Thanks! Yes I know it won't make me bald to trim the ends but good grief it sure seems like a lot is gone when they are gone. I think because I imagine those wispy strands are all filled in back there! Lol!
 
ghanagirl23 said:
Hey ladies I have a question when you trim your ends do you do it when its wet or dry ? thanks
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dry. it's better to do it on flat ironed hair because the hair is straight. if you do it on air dried hair, you might be cutting off good progress just because it might look rough and not smooth. i got that bad.
 
Hey ladies. Finally relaxed after 11 weeks. I used Mizani Butter Blends Lye Normal and it turned out really well. Only smoothed 1x after application. Left my hair with good texture, about 70% and it straightens with roller sets or stays slightly curled when air dried. I have been at BSL for the last year and was happy I didn't have to cut for this relaxer.

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naija24 said:
I haven't washed my hair in 3 weeks so I finally did it yesterday and oh my god. It's like I never relaxed my hair at all. My whole head, with the exception of maybe .5 inches, feels like all new growth. I think this is because most of my hair was underprocessed and it's been a month since my last relaxer.

I easier have maybe a good inch of new growth right now :(

My hair looks like a hot mess though. I want to relax it today but I washed it yesterday. This is bad, yes?
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Is that an inch on top of the under processed hair? It should be ok to relax, just find that protein the day before.

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