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LaBelleLL This wasnt my current relationship but it's happened with my ex of a long-distance relationship. We got into it so he said I (me) needed some space and time so he left. He did the right thing.
There have been similar situations at times with SOs, friends and my parents. I have a temper. Its pretty much controlled due to maturity and age but it still rears it's head occasionally. Not something I'm proud of but my meltdowns are EPIC. EPIC. When I rage--I RAGE. Coming through like a category 5 hurricane with a quake off the richter scale. If you're not in the situation I suggest you gdf out of the way or you will be collateral damage up in this mutha. NO ONE is leaving this house unscathed until this situation is resolved. I will hold everyone in the house hostage. If I'm that upset it's in everyone's best interest the other person leave because it's not worth it. I get over things pretty fast but anyone close to me would know that sometimes I just need my space and things will be good faster than otherwise. As stated previously, I attract people like my parents. SO and friends. I think this is also explains why I used to be a serial monogamist and have long lasting friendships and familial bonds---my immediate upset is a lot less damaging than those who hold longterm grudges. For example. people used to ask why my mom voluntarily put me up in a posh apartment of my own and paid the rent for years---this is portion of it. When we would get into it, she'd leave. She's even left her house and left me her car. My dad is the same way. They don't like to argue. I don't like to argue. I get angry. I attract others that go silent. On the flipside, on the daily they are more vocal, I'm the more silent one,. But in conflict things have to be resolved or, again, somebody has to leave the room/vicinity. The downside of this on my end is that I sorta have a fear of abandonment. It's part of my marriage apprehension. I dont worry about being taken care of but I do fear emotional abandonment. I want to be a SAHM and I am honestly a little frightened that I'll be in some big arse house with plenty of money but with a man that works 24/7. very avoidant of emotional matters and neither of us will ever file for divorce. I know thats the type I attract too. My current relationship situation is kinda like this, I wont call him avoidant because he's very communicative but he's very busy and preoccupied with being a workaholic and doesnt like drama. Oh well, take the good with the bad ya know. Life is what you make it, no one is perfect and everyone is different.