Praying your husband into your life

[Mrs.Green]

I understand what you are saying...^^^

thats why I said prayer isn't necessarily asking for anything, or asking and then from then on out expressing gratitude for what you know will transpire in your life.....some people are specific and others know that if they have faith that their better good and what they need to happen will happen they embrace their experiences and pull out the positives and know its all leading them to where they need to be....so the faith is that all things will work out.....I don't think there is n e thing wrong with being specific, however I do think that when there are issues that need to be taken care of within that stuff will happen to "prepare" us for what we asked for, and alot of folks make take those preparation experiences as something negative if it involves some sort of negativity and start to lose faith

one could pray all day for a husband and not be in any position to love anybody and things could be happening that keep bringing to light what needs to be addressed before you get to your husband

Agree again!!

 

[moonglowdiva]

I would never pray for a man (or things), I would pray that God's Will be done, and get on with the business of living everyday life.

Good luck ladies.

I disagree with this. I have read somewhere that when you pray you should be specific. Pray alone. Believe that you will recieve and most importantly, you have got to be right (confess those sins and repent). Then God's will will be done.

 

[Latomian]

Wow, I must be really young b/c I would never ever think about praying for a "husband." I just don't see why.

 

[LivingDoll]

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. —Proverbs 18:22

I don't pray for a husband continually although I speak of my husband in prayer all the time. God knows the desires of my heart and I have faith. I thank God for my future husband. I ask God to continue to prepare him to be a good husband and I ask for my continued preparation so that I may be a good wife.

I believe that each person communicates with God differently but he understands and hears us all.

 

[Ladybelle]

I prayed for mine. Here's my story:

My freshman year in college, I had already been through enough relationship drama to last me a lifetime. I was tired of having my heart broken. Tired of going on dates with guys who had the audacity to ask me to pay. Tired of just being tired of it all. So, I got down on my knees and I asked God simply for a man who would love me like he does. I didn't know exactly what I was asking for then, but after being with my husband (6 years dating, 2 years married), I know exactly what it means. When I'm not at my best, he treats me like I am. When I'm sad, he comforts me. He provides for me, when others doubt me, he gives me the reasons why I should be confident. Sometimes he just holds me, other times he pushes me to do what needs to be done. He has forgiven me of things that no one else but God would have. We've been through tests and triumphs together,and endured them - I mean, it's hard to verbalize... I know my husband was an answer to my prayer. In addition to praying for my husband, I trusted God would give me the desires of my heart. To ask and not believe is to not receive.

We have our challenges as most married couples do from time to time, but all in all- we both know the Lord and use him to guide us through tough times. I'm glad I prayed for a husband and now that I have a husband, I pray for my husband.

I tell all my single friends, this wordly way of doing things is a mess. Speed dating, 10 ways to win him over, wear this, say that, don't do this, do that to get a man- God created man, who else better to help you in obtaining one?

Just my story though and I hope all single sisters use HIM to create theirs.

 

[HeChangedMyName]

ok, so I have a story. . .


Prayed for a man, I was VERY specific with God, but my specificity was all about what I wanted rather than what God wanted. Keeping that in mind, I asked for a Christian man, church attending, God fearing, hard working, had a steady job, his own place, his own car, would be affectionate with me, would love my kids, treated me like a queen, and was handsome, taller than me and wanted to love me and accept my love in return and who would marry me. . .


Fast forward a couple months or so after that prayer, which by the way I also wrote down, just incase God forgot. . That man was working outside my house. I made it a point to be seen by him. we exchanged numbers and started to date. He proposed within a month, put a ring on layaway and was ready to be married ASAP. My kids adored him and he my kids, his kids adored me and I them and the kids all got along well. It was perfect. . . . . . .




DUN DUN DUN





He was still legally married though, seperated, but still married. As perfect as he was, we couldn't stay together because it was a sin. Adultery is adultery, no matter how you look at it.


So, ladies, be careful what you pray for, you just might get it and when you think you are being as specific as you can possibly be, you may still be missing something. Now, I pray for God to lead me to be the wife that he created me to be once I am in line with God on that, then I know that the husband that he created me for will see my light shining like a beacon in the night and he will be my Boaz and I will sleep at his feet until HE is ready to marry me.

 

[spelmanlocks]

I prayed to meet a good man in college after getting out of a rough relationship. I had wondered if it was frivolous, but I noticed that when I pray for things usually God gives them too me. I too had heard someone say when you pray be specific, and there is actually one specific thing I prayed for in a man and my husband actually has that! I'm not saying that you might pray for a husband and he will show up tomorrow, but I do believe that God sent my husband to me.

 

[jwhitley6]

I absolutely understand what you are saying, but the way I look at it, we only need to ask Him for what we want once and believe that it is done.

ETA--anyone see where I am coming from? I'm talking absolute faith and belief that God will answer my prayers and provide what I need and what he wants me to have.

I hear what you're saying but I see it like this: God knows our hearts and our prayers before we even pray. God is all-knowing, so why do we need to pray at all?? I believe our prayers are more so to move us closer to God than it is to move God closer to us...Feel me? We must constantly remind ourselves of what we desire to keep our thoughts on that plane until it gets so ingrained into our hearts that God hears it. I also believe it is challenging to keep focus on things that are not good for you (or out of God's will for you) and that why some prayer seem to be "unanswered"....Just my $.02.

 

[chicacanella]

I would never pray for a man (or things), I would pray that God's Will be done, and get on with the business of living everyday life.

Good luck ladies.

I don't think it is anything wrong with praying for a man or things BUT I do think we should pray first that God's will is done and then to have a right standing with Him. "Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be added unto you." Worrying about food, drink etc.

I believe it is in James that says we have not because we ask not (and that is because of our own evil desires but if they aren't evil or selfish then God may grant them). God already knows what we want and what we need BUT he still wants to hear us ask them. I don't think that prayer for things is really for the benefit of telling God but it moreso helps us grow closer to Him and gets us in line with His will. And also it gives God permission to work in the lives of others and our lives. So, even though God knows that we want certain things or events to happen already, He wants to hear us ask and let Him come in and work things out on our behalf.

For instance, Elijah was a great man of God and yet in His prayer, he made specifically known what he wanted to happen. Now, God's will was that people would acknowledge Him and glorify Him for what he provided, but King Ahab brung in Asherah poles and worshipped Baal and didn't acknowledge God. So, Elijah was in fact not only praying that God's will be done but he SPECIFICALLY said what he desired to happen so that God's will would be done. God's will is that everyone is saved, God's will is that the true worshipers worship Him in spirit and in truth, God's will is that His
people obey His word, etc. So, when we pray, I believe we should stand in God's will and pray according to what we know His will is and specifically call out His will.

James 5:17
Elias was a man subject to like passions as we are, and he prayed earnestly that it might not rain: and it rained not on the earth by the space of three years and six months.

It also says that the earnest prayer of a righteous man availeth much. Sometimes, there are times where short prayers may be answered but I think for the most part, when it says earnest prayer, you are literally pressing into God and expecting an answer. You even see in Jesus prayer, that in addition to "let thy will be done..." he continued and prayed and asked God to "give us this day our daily bread." We know that according to scripture, "God will supply all our needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus," yet Jesus still specifically asked in His prayer for God to do this even though it is already God's will and indeed God giving us our daily bread is vital to life itself, thus it is a need. "Man shall not live by bread alone but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God." "35And Jesus said unto them, I am the bread of life: he that cometh to me shall never hunger; and he that believeth on me shall never thirst." "
6:63 It is the spirit that quickeneth; the flesh profiteth nothing: the words that I speak unto you, they are spirit, and they are life."

I'm saying all this to say, even after you pray "Let thy will be done" one should ask God what they want if it is in His will. Even though we know it is His will, still ask because it helps us, gives Him permission to work and serves as communion. God's will is that we humans, "be fruitful and multiply," can't really do that without a mate so in effect when we ask God to prepare us for marriage or prepare our husband, this is in God's will. And even after saying all of this, you may not be sure that some of things you request like, "please let him be 6.35 inches tall" is in His will for you but at the end you might say, "Never-the-less Lord, not my will but your Will be done."

 

[chicacanella]

No stories yet... but I expect to give you one VERY soon!

One thing though... I agree with the majority of your post, but not the part about "when He feels that you are prepared to receive that person that He has for you, He will provide them."

There's no basis for the idea that God holds out a partner until he feels that you are prepared to receive him besides the interpretation of some pastors who preach on singleness. That's modern church talk that I think folks like to use to make singles feel better about being single... but it has no Biblical basis.

God is good, all the time, and he enjoys blessing his children all the time, even when his children might be actin' up a little bit!

I agree, because to be truly prepared to be the perfect wife would make us perfect. And we know that none of us are perfect and God is still perfecting all of us.

 

[chicacanella]

Prayerful ladies, how many times do you pray for the same thing?

I try to do first things first. So, to me that means if there is something urgent, like someone's life is on the line, then I pray for that before I ask for something else that can wait because puts this desire or need to do this. There are many times when I can't get to praying for what I desire because this is secondary when someone's sanity and/or salvation is in the balance.

But I'm always praying for the community in general and I have tried to make it so, or I want to petition God at least three times a day. Early in the morning, during my lunch hour and an hour at night. This is diffucult to do sometimes but like the parabel in the bible with the wicked judge, I know that God isn't like the judge in that city but if we ask him in faith and continually knowing it is in His will, it will come to pass. I guess however badly you want it to come to pass will depend on how often you pray.

Luke 18
And he spake a parable unto them to this end, that men ought always to pray, and not to faint;
(2) Saying, There was in a city a judge, which feared not God, neither regarded man:
(3) And there was a widow in that city; and she came unto him, saying, Avenge me of mine adversary.
(4) And he would not for a while: but afterward he said within himself, Though I fear not God, nor regard man;
(5) Yet because this widow troubleth me, I will avenge her, lest by her continual coming she weary me.
(6) And the Lord said, Hear what the unjust judge saith.
(7) And shall not God avenge his own elect, which cry day and night unto him, though he bear long with them?
(8) I tell you that he will avenge them speedily. Nevertheless when the Son of man cometh, shall he find faith on the earth?

 

[Nella]

I think that GOD gifts to all of us is the gift of creating us in the image of himself....we are all conscious powerful creators....its not so much as GOD wants for us what GOD wants for us, but GOD wants for us what we want for ourselves....its the gift to enjoy, experience and create whatever you choose to .....an unaware and unconscious being who feels disconnected can easily create chaos, negativity, fear etc and guess what, and aware and conscious being who operates on a spiritual plane can create a life full of love and possibilities that one can dream of....if you desire to have a husband and love in your life....praying is simply your way of putting your thoughts out into the universe and your will is GOD"s will......and your will is also FREE WILL....another precious gift.....true faith is the key to it....if you believe it you will conceive it....

that saying be careful what you ask for because you just may get it is powerful, and I do agree with Frizzy on that one....what you ask for may not always necessarily be what you "need", but it may be good for you...in the long run it will only help in your overall evolution because in order to grow to the highest conscious levels each being will ultimately in one way or another either experience or innately know what they actually don't want in order to know what they really do want

You couldn't have said the bolded any better. Its amazing but, its so true.

 

[cicilypayne]

I did pray to god to let me meet a man like my husband. He was everything I asked god for and I was very detailed, but importantly I asked god for the wisdom to know when I met him and I asked god for the bless him with the wisdom to know when he met me. And god does answer your prayers. I had faith and open heart and patience I made the prayer in Dec. 1997 and I met my husband Aug. 1998. I knew in two weeks after we started dating and he knew before he even formerly met me..he knew when he saw me walk into the room.

 

[Ms Red]

I pray for God's will in my life to be done and this includes praying for discernment when it comes to men. I have asked for specifc things but I always pray that if it is God's will for this man to be my husband, that it be done. My faith is strong and I somehow know that even though my husband may come in different 'packaging' than I may imagine, he will be exactly what God knows I need Prayer works.

 

[Bunny77]

I pray for God's will in my life to be done and this includes praying for discernment when it comes to men. I have asked for specifc things but I always pray that if it is God's will for this man to be my husband, that it be done. My faith is strong and I somehow know that even though my husband may come in different 'packaging' than I may imagine, he will be exactly what God knows I need Prayer works.

Sounds good to me.

I don't believe in asking God for a specific man to become my husband or to just get married to any old dude, but what you're saying is similar to how I approach it.