this happened to me after reading the book.
i read the entire book and forced myself to do all the exercises. it took more than 7 weeks. it was an emotional journey, especially the first few chapters where you learn to cut the ties that bind - whether it be past relationships or family issues. tears were shed, etc.
one of the ties that i mentally cut was, this guy and i were friends for probably about 10 yrs. i had a crush on him on and off for about 5+ yrs. eventually i decided to migrate. we kept in contact online. we were really close. really really close. i mentally let him go. i kid you not that 2 days after the exercise where i set him free (and set myself free), he tells me that he's finally decided to get into a relationship with someone in our home country. he hadnt been in a relationship since i met him as he was "scorned" by his ex. it felt like he knew in his mind that he was released and ready to finally move on. i was happy for him. we grew a bit distant after that but we'd chat every now and then to see how we were doing.
then a few months after finishing the book, he started getting in contact again and using terms of endearment with me. it weirded me out. eventually (after a few weeks) i had to tell him it was making me uncomfortable. then the day before valentine's day, he basically tells me he has feelings for me. i felt flattered and kind of let it slide as we both live in different countries. but the rest of that week, my mind felt tortured. i felt like all the work that i did with the book, by him coming and telling me these things, i feared that his words would go into my subconscious and plant seeds unknowingly and put me back at square 1. all this festered in my mind for a week until i couldnt take it anymore and told him everything. i asked him "why now?". after all these yrs, i told him about all the work i did to release him, etc.. he tells me he had no clue that i was interested in him then. he said he just wanted to get it out of his system and didnt mean to dredge up any old feelings i had for him. but after we talked it out, i found myself chatting to him often again and i felt and saw myself slipping back into my old ways. i tried to cut it out for a week or so but now i find myself wanting to talk to him more.
i feel/felt like the blockage is/was back. though recently, i decided to not fight it and just go with the flow. so right now, i'm just going with the flow. i did go out this weekend and end up meeting a guy (which hasnt happened in months) so i'm not sure if the "going with the flow" thing has caused this. maybe instead of me fighting and creating a blockage, i'm allowing it to flow through me, thereby keeping me open to other people. ?
Crazyness at work is preventing me from seeing the love in ALL people and wanting to feel connected to their mess. I can't see through fury 
To the coworkers who were already my friends, I did give them a hug and show them love. Now everytime I see them they hug me and I feel like the hug I gave them opened their hearts up a bit. 
erplexed. He don't know that the last time he called I gave him the "n**ga please!" turned over and went back to sleep. I don't use the N word lightly. 
