Wow I am shocked to hear that she divorced Mark, but to be honest I never got into the book for her story. I looked at the idea of the book instead of it being just another self help book. The idea of the book is to look deep within and really think about things in your lives that may affect your love life now. From the lessons I have uncovered very deep, hurtful things in my past or revelations that made me think"Hmmm, this could be the reason I do this..." From this book I am able to feel braver and more optimistic about my future because I have learned to forgive myself and others from a past I pushed away for so long. Oddly the one I just split from called me yesterday night hesistant and saying he's thinking alot and "badly wanted to hear my voice"
In any case, from these exercises I learned to put me first in a love relationship. Never let love or a man take power over you.
Despite the authors own personal story not working, I don't deny that her book can in some way help people to, at the very least, open people up to the possibility of love. I just kind of think of it as like a person who loses 100 pounds and sells a book on how she did it, but then comes to find out she gained it all back, just an example.
I do think that we have several soulmates in our lives, and those ties arent always romantic ones. It could just be someone who you have a deep bond with, and yeah sometimes these bonds fade. I think that some people come into your life for a reason, and you learn things from that experience. After the experience is over the tie is gone.
I still believe, however ,that true love does exist, and there is someone who can be in your life forever. I see stories all the time of couples who have been married for 30 40 50 years and sometimes more! I kinda always was inspired by people like Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward because they are a testament that love can be till death do us part.
I hate to keep rambling lol, but I truly think that we can't rely on just love and passion to keep something alive forever. Just like with family, there needs to be that committment that we are together forever, so whatever problems we may have we must work through them. That's not to say someone has to stay in an unhappy relationship at all. It's just saying that a lifetime union requires work, and yeah sometimes they just fade... but we still have to open our hearts and take a chance that it can work, and can last a lifetime.
And I probably wouldn't go to a seminar to help me heal from a breakup lol. I'm not knocking anyone who does, but there's always friends, family, sex and the city and papa johns to help me heal. jk jk