My best friend is marrying a man with 2 daughters with two different mothers. He is an ex NFL player who got caught up by one girl and was in a LTR with the other. Is he a bad man or irresponsible nope. Child support gets paid, takes care of the daughters and home, are they broke nope. He works and she works. She has no children. Is one of his daughter's mothers ignorant as heck, yep. Does he nip that in the bud, yep. It's all about being an adult. She will be his wife and have his third child.
My oldest daughter's father is married with 2 more children. Is he trif and do we have drama nope. My youngest daughter's father is trif but that happened after we broke up yet there is still no drama and she is his only child. I take that back he is a wh**e and a bad father and yet there is still no drama.
I guess to each his or her own. I will not miss out on a good man because of what I think and not what I know. But that is just IMO.
Good men are married to the mothers of their children, IMO.
Good men are married to the mothers of their children, IMO.
I'm not a good woman because I am not married to either of my children's fathers? Wow! My dad is also no longer married to my mother is he a bad man because of that as well? I guess everyone is entitled to thier own opinion.
Word.Son.Fresh!NO WAY!!!! Obviously he has not mastered proper condom usuage and I am not trying to be baby mama #4!!!!! Apparently he gets every woman he sleeps with preggers. I can deal with one baby mama/ex-wife and that is it!!!!
I hate to be harsh but I have never met a man with multiple baby mamas that was worth my time.
Do not pass GO! erplexed
That's not what she meant at all.
As to the bolded, if he's no longer married to your mom, that's DIVORCE...a totally different situation. Your father didn't just make babies and keep it moving.
This thread (IMO) deals with guys who sleep with women, have babies and move on to the next conquest.
And I do agree with chellero...marriage is the best case scenario.
I wouldn't give him the time of day. I wouldn't even date a guy with ONE. I'm 20 and I don't need to deal with the baggage of someone else's kid - not my problem.
HHHEELLL NNNOOO
LOL I didnt even read the original post, just came in to say hheeelll nnnooo
I was in the same boat as everybody else in here refusing to date someone with even ONE child let alone more. That was, until I started dating my current SO. I was even initially under the impression that it was 2 and not 3 (learned about the second one after the third). Regardless to the way it happened, this man loves me and respects me more than any childless man I've EVER been with. Does he have drama with any of his BM's? One, Yes. Am I ever involved in it? No. Does he nip it in the bud? Yes.
I started out thinking the same thing someone else mentioned that he was only good for one thing. When he wanted to be serious, I laughed at him as I put on my clothes and walked out the door. He was persistent with it (for 12 years off and on, 3 years straight, unsuccessfully) and he captured my heart in the end. I adore his children; me and his first-born are inseperable. He makes a good living and all of his children are well taken care of without the courts being involved. It works for us. We've even been talking about marriage a lot lately.
The thing is, yes a man with that much baggage speaks volumes about irresponsibility. Most men don't stay irresponsible though... and nobody's speaking about these women. Becoming a mother does not mean your head is right and you have your sh*t together. Nor does it automatically mean you will either. What can you do when someone just isn't who you thought they were in the beginning?
One of my brothers have 3 baby momma's and 4 kids (maybe more ) what boggles my mind is that he doesn't have any problems getting women erplexed (not any that have any common sense)....he *did* marry the 3rd baby momma but that marriage only lasted 1 year .....my brother changes girlfriends like you change your underwear. Trust me when I tell ya there are PLENTY of women that will get with a male like my brother just so they can say they have a man.
He is older now - 38, but when he was younger he did get caught up.
What do you mean he got caught up? Did his penis jump off his body and do things without his permission?
What do you mean he got caught up? Did his penis jump off his body and do things without his permission?
Exactly Caligirl!
IMO, guys who do this don't get caught up, it's just plain ignorance and STUPIDNESS. And how many times you gonna get 'caught up' before you see the light . Give me a break. These are human lives, cars.