longhairlover
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lol! at your last paragraph. i was thinking that him going alone gives her the chance to try to get to his head. i just soooooo dont want to be around her, the last incident on his bday was the last, she embarrassed me in front of my best friend and confronted me like she had beef.
she's the one that changed the time and then was mad when the place was really crowded, she took my idea to throw him a after bday get together into her own,
she approached me like hi (with ghetto voice) and i gave her the same hi back, i introduced her to my friend and she gave her the same nasty hi! so when she came up to me she's like " i'mma fight you with this place!" and i turned my back after the nasty hi and comment.
she told my hubby that i turned my face to her, ummm i'm not gonna plant my lips on her face, with chapstick on my lips and ish, goodness. she omitted the hi and the comment.
what a character.
she's the one that changed the time and then was mad when the place was really crowded, she took my idea to throw him a after bday get together into her own,
she approached me like hi (with ghetto voice) and i gave her the same hi back, i introduced her to my friend and she gave her the same nasty hi! so when she came up to me she's like " i'mma fight you with this place!" and i turned my back after the nasty hi and comment.
she told my hubby that i turned my face to her, ummm i'm not gonna plant my lips on her face, with chapstick on my lips and ish, goodness. she omitted the hi and the comment.
what a character.
From reading most of this, let me say that I can sooo relate to a lot of what you are going through. Like a pp said, tell your closest married friends, not your mom about him, or not at all. When we paint a bad image in people's minds, they tend to still see that image long after you've made up and forgiven. They don't see the make-up, they see the mistake. Might I suggest counseling that would include his mother? This may help open her eyes to what she is doing.
My DH is stressed because of family issues that involve me. I've told him for the longest about his family and their treatment toward me. I got tired. Just like we on LHCF tell people that don't believe we can grow hair to 'let the hair speak for you', let her actions 'speak for you'. He'll eventually see what her attitude and antics are doing to your marriage. Men don't see the snide remarks that we do. Kill her with kindness, but be watchful as it all unfolds. Don't let your DH go to her house alone, go with him. If something is said about you, she'll have to say it in your presence. This will give you a chance to stand up for yourself. Show her that your backbone is stronger than hers. If your religion is Christian, pray and read the Word. Around THIS house, I quote all kinds of marital scriptures. Any person that fears God will have to heed to it.
As another poster said, don't involve her in what you have planned. I learned this the hard way. MY MIL stole my wedding colors, menu, and reception layout when she got married 4 months prior to us. She didn't even offer up an address to help with our invites/guest list, nor did she stay to help clean up the reception (as I did hers). Don't focus so much on the gift. These are hard times. At least you didn't get a postdated check for $100 that doesn't even have YOUR name on it, but was meant as a gift for the BOTH of you. I'll add you and your situation to my prayers.