Nosey People Asking About Your Relationship/Giving Advice?

[LivingDol1]

How do you get nosey people to stop asking about your personal life or giving unsolicited advice? Sounds simple, I know.... But besides never volunteering info about your personal life, how else can you get people to back off without sounding rude and defensive?

In my case, my 2 of my colleagues/casual friends were instrumental in encouraging me to ask out my now boyfriend. But now i'd like for them to back off bc things are great and I like to keep the details to myself. I don't need anyone to walk me through my relationship through marriage. It's silly and I never ask for their advice. Thoughts?

 

[Lucie]

Very easily! I just tell them that I don't want to discuss it and that it is nothing personal towards them. I smile and walk away. And if I cannot walk away, I will quickly bring up another topic.

Yeah, it would annoy me to feel like someone was walking me through my relationship.

 

[glamazon386]

How do you get nosey people to stop asking about your personal life or giving unsolicited advice? Sounds simple, I know.... But besides never volunteering info about your personal life, how else can you get people to back off without sounding rude and defensive?

In my case, my 2 of my colleagues/casual friends were instrumental in encouraging me to ask out my now boyfriend. But now i'd like for them to back off bc things are great and I like to keep the details to myself. I don't need anyone to walk me through my relationship through marriage. It's silly and I never ask for their advice. Thoughts?

I just don't talk about it. Just politely change the subject.

 

[MD_Lady]

Not offering information is a good first step, but if they keep probing, never feel compelled to answer someone's questions. There's nothing "rude" or "defensive" about flat out telling a person that you don't talk about your relationship (including taking advice and discussing details) with anyone other than your SO.

 

[nychaelasymone]

honestly, I'm a bit more brash (as I've gotten older) I just tell them that my relationship is not up for discussion. And I hope I don't have to repeat myself in the future. Thank you....

 

[LivingDoll]

I would always say "things are good" or "we're happy" and leave it at that. No matter what they ask, I would give the same canned response. Once they see you won't offer any more specifics, they'll eventually get the hint.

 

[Kalani]

I just give vague/generic answers and change the subject.

 

[Kalani]

I would always say "things are good" or "we're happy" and leave it at that. No matter what they ask, I would give the same canned response. Once they see you won't offer any more specifics, they'll eventually get the hint.

This is exactly what I do. You explained it better.

 

[SmileyNY]

Oh I already told a couple friends and family members (including my Mom LOL)... Don't ask me about my love life. If I volunteer information, fine... but don't ask me anything.

And when I do offer information, the guys I'm dating never get names. When I'm in a relationship... then he gets a name... maybe... when I feel like it lol.

...Because it's the absolute WORSE when it doesn't work out with someone you're dating... and you move on... but a friend or family member constantly brings up his name for like a year afterwards. "Whatever happened to so & so? When was the last time you spoke to so & so? Do you think you and so & so will get back together? Do you think so & so is dating someone else? OMG! What would you do if you ran into so & so?"

Meanwhile you dated the guy all of 3 weeks!! LOL

I can't stand it!!

 

[sky_blu]

I just don't talk about it. Just politely change the subject.

EXACTLY! Don't tell they don't ask.

 

[Incognitus]

How do you get nosey people to stop asking about your personal life or giving unsolicited advice? Sounds simple, I know.... But besides never volunteering info about your personal life, how else can you get people to back off without sounding rude and defensive?

In my case, my 2 of my colleagues/casual friends were instrumental in encouraging me to ask out my now boyfriend. But now i'd like for them to back off bc things are great and I like to keep the details to myself. I don't need anyone to walk me through my relationship through marriage. It's silly and I never ask for their advice. Thoughts?

I never understand why some people feel the need or even have the audacity to do this.... erplexed

Oh I already told a couple friends and family members (including my Mom LOL)... Don't ask me about my love life. If I volunteer information, fine... but don't ask me anything.

And when I do offer information, the guys I'm dating never get names. When I'm in a relationship... then he gets a name... maybe... when I feel like it lol.

...Because it's the absolute WORSE when it doesn't work out with someone you're dating... and you move on... but a friend or family member constantly brings up his name for like a year afterwards. "Whatever happened to so & so? When was the last time you spoke to so & so? Do you think you and so & so will get back together? Do you think so & so is dating someone else? OMG! What would you do if you ran into so & so?"

Meanwhile you dated the guy all of 3 weeks!! LOL

I can't stand it!!

THIS! I have family members asking me like 4 years later. My sister even went as far as saying: "hmm, I wonder how X is doing? He's probably married with kids right now....Can you even imagine X with kids?...."

I'm like wtf? Who says that? Who wants to hear about that?

 

[blah54]

im learning that mistake at work now next time im going to flat out say i do not want to talk about my private life just keep it business related

 

[BEAUTYU2U]

How do you get nosey people to stop asking about your personal life or giving unsolicited advice? Sounds simple, I know.... But besides never volunteering info about your personal life, how else can you get people to back off without sounding rude and defensive?

In my case, my 2 of my colleagues/casual friends were instrumental in encouraging me to ask out my now boyfriend. But now i'd like for them to back off bc things are great and I like to keep the details to myself. I don't need anyone to walk me through my relationship through marriage. It's silly and I never ask for their advice. Thoughts?

Sounds like they don't realize that you have control now. To be fair, they may not realize they're prying. Be upfront.

 

[kimpaur]

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