"No real black person's hair is that long or kept like that"

[theAlist]

Okay so I was on you tube and I couldn't believe someone had made this comment...

"She sounded really good. I loved her outfit, but must she show off her legs all the time? lol I love her haircolor, but didn't like that it was so damn long(no real black person's hair is that long or kept like that). Anyways, it was great even though Robert looked kinda bored watching her lol."

Wow...if only they knew....

 

[Kimberly]

Okay so I was on you tube and I couldn't believe someone had made this comment...

"She sounded really good. I loved her outfit, but must she show off her legs all the time? lol I love her haircolor, but didn't like that it was so damn long(no real black person's hair is that long or kept like that). Anyways, it was great even though Robert looked kinda bored watching her lol."

Wow...if only they knew....

I'd like to know who they were talking about if anyone in particular. Just curious. I'd also be curious to know if the poster was male or female. Again, just curious.

 

[caribeandiva]

idiot. what do they know.

 

[sweetcashew]

People can say pretty silly things. Yesterday a guy viewed my page on a website and commented at the fact that I listed my race as black.
I told him I am black. He said you can't be black, you look Hispanic or Indian Like there are not black Hispanics)
So I told him my mom is black and my father is black therefore I'm black. He said black people don't look like me, have hair like mine or my features. That I must be mixed or something so I should spill the beans.
I asked him why was it so important for me to be mixed or anything other than black. I'm still waiting on an answer!
People can be very ignorant when it comes to hair so I don't take comments like that seriously.

 

[Angelicus]

Just ignore them. Then, do the white girl hair toss.

 

[Tee]

People can say pretty silly things. Yesterday a guy viewed my page on a website and commented at the fact that I listed my race as black.
I told him I am black. He said you can't be black, you look Hispanic or Indian Like there are not black Hispanics)
So I told him my mom is black and my father is black therefore I'm black. He said black people don't look like me, have hair like mine or my features. That I must be mixed or something so I should spill the beans.
I asked him why was it so important for me to be mixed or anything other than black. I'm still waiting on an answer!
People can be very ignorant when it comes to hair so I don't take comments like that seriously.

I hate this soo much! I get this too and always ask..Why can't I just be BLACK!

 

[glamazon386]

People can say pretty silly things. Yesterday a guy viewed my page on a website and commented at the fact that I listed my race as black.
I told him I am black. He said you can't be black, you look Hispanic or Indian Like there are not black Hispanics)
So I told him my mom is black and my father is black therefore I'm black. He said black people don't look like me, have hair like mine or my features. That I must be mixed or something so I should spill the beans.
I asked him why was it so important for me to be mixed or anything other than black. I'm still waiting on an answer!
People can be very ignorant when it comes to hair so I don't take comments like that seriously.

I get this too. My manager had me put down my ethnicity as No Answer so people would just leave it at that. I get tired of people stopping and asking me all the time. Yes I am black. I don't care what you think.

As far as the comment about "no real black person's hair is that long or kept like that" goes, people are just ignorant. I ran into this problem yesterday when I posted a face of the day on the Mac forum. Some one responded and said "Gorgeous! But please don't tell me that's all your hair or I'll die of jealousy!" Umm whats with the backwards ass compliment? Why did it matter if it was real or fake? Why couldn't she just compliment my hair? Why'd she have to make the assumption that it was fake? I mean yes I do wear weave but that's besides the point. She could have just complimented and kept it moving. That or not said anything at all. She was supposed to be looking at the makeup anyway. This woman was Samoan. Do most other cultures assume that black women can't have naturally long hair? I don't see why it's such a farfetched idea. It's not uncanny to me. My family's full of long healthy haired black women much like this board. And if I hadn't tore my hair all up, I'd still have a head full myself. Some people...

 

[jasmin]

I told my mother-in-law she needs to get out more because there are a lot of black women with long hair. She thinks well it must be because they have that soft hair...that's what she calls it. I don't know if it has anything to do with her daughters...they have the hardest hair in the world. Anyway I wanted to smack her. I hate when black women make those ignorant comments. I'm just going to hold my tongue.

 

[MissYocairis]

idiot. what do they know.

They must watch Oprah!

 

[glamazon386]

They must watch Oprah!

Let's just blame Oprah! Oprah was wrong for that ignorant comment though...

 

[Candy_C]

psh, i recieve the same thing..but i am actually mixed.

my mother is biracial {half blk half white} and my dad is full black we have maroonian descent but thats way back in our family tree..

anyway, i find that alot of my black friends make comments about me only growing my hair long cuz of my white grandmother. I think thats bullshish cos my hair never grew this long b4 looking after it properly. ALSO they say Keracare only works for me cos i am mixed. there are many black sis's on here who use and swear by keracare so thats pathetic. i think people use colour to their defence cos its the only thing they can use. they utilize colour as a type of weapon for their own weaknesses.

i see myself a black girl with light skin with a white grandmother (who doesn't acknowledge me i might add) even my mother sees herself as black. other than my nan there is no other white family member i have ever seen or heard about.

 

[chocolatesis]

Let's just blame Oprah! Oprah was wrong for that ignorant comment though...

What comment did she make? I don't get to watch her show at all.




Unfortunately, it seems most people are ignorant when it comes to this. They want the racial description Black to just mean dark skin and short hair. And even if you are dark skinned, if you have long hair, people say you must be mixed with Indian or something, which is ridiculous. I'm dark skinned, so when my hair reaches midback, does that make me any less Black? Ridiculous! Hopefully, with more of us growing long hair, that stereotyping will stop.

 

[XXXtacy]

That's the prevailing thought in the black community, protrayed in the media so it stands to reason...

I have had several friends, chocolate drops with fabulously long hair. They have all but had to show people they don't have tracks and people still didn't believe them.

It's really time for black women to care for their hair and their little girl's hair and show everyone black women can have long healthy hair.

 

[glamazon386]

What comment did she make? I don't get to watch her show at all.




Unfortunately, it seems most people are ignorant when it comes to this. They want the racial description Black to just mean dark skin and short hair. And even if you are dark skinned, if you have long hair, people say you must be mixed with Indian or something, which is ridiculous. I'm dark skinned, so when my hair reaches midback, does that make me any less Black? Ridiculous! Hopefully, with more of us growing long hair, that stereotyping will stop.

She explained to the audience why she had been wearing a ponytail lately. It was some cockamammy explanation about black women not having hair so when you finally have a ponytail of your own you should show it off. She also said something about it taking her 50 years to get a ponytail of her own. That's all I remember but there's a thread that discusses it more in detail in the Off topic discussion thread...

 

[jasmin]

I can't believe how ignorant Oprah is when it comes to hair. She has one of the nicest head of hair and still just doesn't get it. Maybe if she stopped getting those big trims and using heat everyday her little ponytail would be even longer.

 

[caribeandiva]

maybe we should write her or go on her show and tell her how to grow her hair out. she needs the education.

 

[KiniKakes]

I can't believe how ignorant Oprah is when it comes to hair. She has one of the nicest head of hair and still just doesn't get it. Maybe if she stopped getting those big trims and using heat everyday her little ponytail would be even longer.

Exactly. That is so true.

 

[rosie]

Unfortunately, it seems most people are ignorant when it comes to this. They want the racial description Black to just mean dark skin and short hair. And even if you are dark skinned, if you have long hair, people say you must be mixed with Indian or something, which is ridiculous. I'm dark skinned, so when my hair reaches midback, does that make me any less Black? Ridiculous! Hopefully, with more of us growing long hair, that stereotyping will stop.

Okay, the darkest of the dark women chiming in here. I am very black with the type of features that black people sterotypically have. No, I aint Ja' Mammy, but I guess I'm close to it.

Anyway. I could list off the non-black people inmy background. Many were grands and great grands. I didn't receive those genes. I got the african ones. I'se black. Yes, I'm part indian, part chinese, part french, part russian. (small parts) But when you look at me, I'm black.

I've always had short hair and to be honest, the only time women in my family had long hair was during the jheri curl era (yeah, some of them still sport the greasy drip; but most have turned natural with TWAs)

When I went natural about 3 years ago, I had the twa and grew it out. I am past APL but a long way from BS. So why do I now get flack from my family about "Oh, you must get your hair from your mom's side of the family. She has some indian don't she?"

Now I look like my dad's side of the family. Like my aunt (his oldest sister) could have spit me out. We have everything in common even the kinkiest, curliest hair on the planet. SO why I go to have part indian now. I hear stuff like, "Yeah, look she got those high cheek bones like indians do"

Ugh, step back, you might get some ignorance on my shirt and I just had it dry cleaned.

I don't get that from non-blacks. Only blacks. I feel like I am some kind of mutation now. Every body is alway wanting to inspect my hair to see if it is mine. I wear it in twists all the time. And most of the time it is very fuzzy. But everyone wants to make sure they are not extensions. I SAID IT WAS MINE DIDN"T I? Why would I lie? Life is too short.

We really need to move past this hair issue. As a people, we just are way to deep in it.

If it looks good, then who cares where you bought it or how you grew it.

Yeah, I know, I have not always thought like this, but dang.

Most of my peeps are way older than me and they should have matured some too.

 

[Crissi]

Hmmm, black people nowadays. I remember been in a salon and people kept asking me if i "put something in my hair", because it coil/curl. Even though last time i checked that happens with alot of people... funny becuase im dark skinned to

 

[Crissi]

Okay, the darkest of the dark women chiming in here. I am very black with the type of features that black people sterotypically have. No, I aint Ja' Mammy, but I guess I'm close to it.

Anyway. I could list off the non-black people inmy background. Many were grands and great grands. I didn't receive those genes. I got the african ones. I'se black. Yes, I'm part indian, part chinese, part french, part russian. (small parts) But when you look at me, I'm black.

I've always had short hair and to be honest, the only time women in my family had long hair was during the jheri curl era (yeah, some of them still sport the greasy drip; but most have turned natural with TWAs)

When I went natural about 3 years ago, I had the twa and grew it out. I am past APL but a long way from BS. So why do I now get flack from my family about "Oh, you must get your hair from your mom's side of the family. She has some indian don't she?"

Now I look like my dad's side of the family. Like my aunt (his oldest sister) could have spit me out. We have everything in common even the kinkiest, curliest hair on the planet. SO why I go to have part indian now. I hear stuff like, "Yeah, look she got those high cheek bones like indians do"

Ugh, step back, you might get some ignorance on my shirt and I just had it dry cleaned.

I don't get that from non-blacks. Only blacks. I feel like I am some kind of mutation now. Every body is alway wanting to inspect my hair to see if it is mine. I wear it in twists all the time. And most of the time it is very fuzzy. But everyone wants to make sure they are not extensions. I SAID IT WAS MINE DIDN"T I? Why would I lie? Life is too short.

We really need to move past this hair issue. As a people, we just are way to deep in it.

If it looks good, then who cares where you bought it or how you grew it.

Yeah, I know, I have not always thought like this, but dang.

Most of my peeps are way older than me and they should have matured some too.

So true, thats how you know its a "black thing"... as i got off one forum

"Good hair? Pure Nig-norance! What's white folks' tresses? Superb hair?"

 

[dannie]

Sometimes I feel like people try to excuse stuff off based on ignorance so they don't have to try.

"Oh I can bleach, fry, weave, rip out my hair because I'm black and you know I don't have Indian in my family so it ain't gon grow anyway..."
like their hair isn't worth treasuring and taking care of

 

[glamazon386]

Sometimes I feel like people try to excuse stuff off based on ignorance so they don't have to try.

"Oh I can bleach, fry, weave, rip out my hair because I'm black and you know I don't have Indian in my family so it ain't gon grow anyway..."
like their hair isn't worth treasuring and taking care of

Exactly. Your hair is your crowing glory and it needs to be taken care of regardless of texture, length, color or whatever. Hair that is well taken care of will grow. It's really just that simple. Why don't people get that?

 

[Legend]

It really burns me up that people--and mostly Black people--I've encountered think that just because your hair is long it is either

a. A weave. or erplexed
b. You're "mixed"

What the heck?!?!?! I can actually wear a phony pony and people from other ethnicities believe it's my own hair and don't get any questions about it. The funny thing is that I am "mixed," but the only time anyone ever questions my heritage is when I wear my hair long. And if my hair is short, and I tell them what my heritage is, I get the "yeah...right..." look.

What gives?!?!?!? It's so annoying. Sorry for the vent.

 

[MizAvalon]

So true, thats how you know its a "black thing"... as i got off one forum

"Good hair? Pure Nig-norance! What's white folks' tresses? Superb hair?"

Nig-norance!!! I am officially adopting that one!!

 

[dannie]

Exactly. Your hair is your crowing glory and it needs to be taken care of regardless of texture, length, color or whatever. Hair that is well taken care of will grow. It's really just that simple. Why don't people get that?

EXACTLY!! I have a white friend who was trying to grow out her BSL hair for like 2 years but it wouldn't grow. She had triple split ends .I don't know if you ever seen that, but it don't look nice.

Anyway about a 1 1/2 ago she got a trim, started washing her hair once a week, wearing it in a bun, no heat (she flat ironed her straight hair daily ) deep conditioning, basically all the stuff us LCHF do, and wouldn't you know her hair is waist length now.

It's not because she's white, it's because she started taking care of her hair.

 

[theAlist]

Yea...it really urks me how some people are about hair. My best friend has nice length hair...about a lil past shoulder length...plus its dyed that blonde color Ciara use to have...

anyway everytime she sees a black girl who is darker than she is and hair is longer than hers she will say..."Um...thats got to be weave." Or when she finds out that it is their real hair she will say..."Oh she has long hair for a dark skin girl..."

It URKS ME SOOOO BAD when she says that...even though I know it is just jealousy.

 

[Yellowflowers]

Just ignore them. Then, do the white girl hair toss.

That's right. That's what I do. I used to get a lot of ignorant comments from black women but I got vicious because I knew they were jealous and trying to tear me down.

After they realize that I'm not wearing weave they say stupid sh*t like:

I used to have it but I cut it off. It bothered my neck. I don't want hair that long.

I say, "well you sure don't have it either. You need to cut off some more because it looks really jacked up".

or they know someone whose hair is longer than yours.

I say, "why are you telling me about someone else's hair. I really don't care about someone elses hair that I don't not know and I don't care to hear hater comments."

Needless to say these ignorant women don't come to me with anymore stupid comments cause they know I will not tolerate it. I only talk to the intelligent women.

They know I will jack somebody up!

 

[jasmin]

That's right. That's what I do. I used to get a lot of ignorant comments from black women but I got vicious because I knew they were jealous and trying to tear me down.

After they realize that I'm not wearing weave they say stupid sh*t like:

I used to have it but I cut it off. It bothered my neck. I don't want hair that long.

I say, "well you sure don't have it either. You need to cut off some more because it looks really jacked up".

or they know someone whose hair is longer than yours.

I say, "why are you telling me about someone else's hair. I really don't care about someone elses hair that I don't not know and I don't care to hear hater comments."

Needless to say these ignorant women don't come to me with anymore stupid comments cause they know I will not tolerate it. I only talk to the intelligent women.

They know I will jack somebody up!

Love it.....When I see pretty hair I want to tell although these days you have to be careful of doing that.

 

[neonbright]

This is the worse thing that was happened to me. My husband, my daughter and I was taking my step-daughter to the airport to go home. We were offered to walk her to the plane.... GREAT we love to do that, so when she was boarding my daughter was crying she was 4 and my step daughter was 15 so they let her go in the plane with Jazzy and instead of asking my husband who is Jazzy father if he wanted to walk them on the plane, they assumed I was her Jazzy mother. I am med brown and Jazzy is so light her sking color has her looking white. Her mom is full blooded creole and my husband is dark brown. Since both of our hair is long the flight attendent thought I was the mom and the dad was white. So since we both had long hair, they ask me how do I keep it that long and will my baby girl hair be as long, I said Jazzy is my step daughter and she is not white, we just happened to have long hair and keep it up as best as we can. What with the woman has to have the children, I felt that I had to be the one with multiple children for different me. No I am the second wife and that little bitty is my first.... Hair, mulitple children, sex and laziness is the stereo type I notice most people think of black women..

 

[chocolatesis]

That's right. That's what I do. I used to get a lot of ignorant comments from black women but I got vicious because I knew they were jealous and trying to tear me down.

After they realize that I'm not wearing weave they say stupid sh*t like:

I used to have it but I cut it off. It bothered my neck. I don't want hair that long.

I say, "well you sure don't have it either. You need to cut off some more because it looks really jacked up".

or they know someone whose hair is longer than yours.

I say, "why are you telling me about someone else's hair. I really don't care about someone elses hair that I don't not know and I don't care to hear hater comments."

Needless to say these ignorant women don't come to me with anymore stupid comments cause they know I will not tolerate it. I only talk to the intelligent women.

They know I will jack somebody up!

This is exactly what has happened to me on different occasions. Once a co-worker commented on how long my hair was getting. Then she said: "I had long hair when I was younger. I don't even care about that now--I had all that." And I'm thinking "so why bring it up?", because I didn't.

Another time, a different co-worker told me my hair was getting so long and how her boyfriend's niece had longer hair that she wrapped at night and when she let it down in the morning it looked so nice...bla...bla...bla...bla...bla....and on and on about how much nicer her hair was.


I just hate comments like these because whether they are meant to be or not, they feel like insults; like these people are trying to say "oh that's nothing, so and so has nicer hair, or longer hair". To me, they just feel like insults.