Pr33ty, I'm so sorry to hear that you're having issues. I too have problems being too rough with my hair when detangling. It can get frustrating, especially when you're impatient like me. What has helped me, is also similar tips to what Bign wrote. I too section my hair into 4 parts. Instead of using clips, I just do bantu knots and secure with elastics though. I also wash in the shower like she does. The downward motion REALLY helps. I even take a shower twice if I need to deep condition, or just leave it in overnight so I can shower the next morning. The one time I used the sink recently, I literally pretended like it was a shampoo bowl and bent over backwards. Not doing that again though...my aching back lol
In addition, the right products can REALLY REALLY make a big difference. I've done a bit of trial and error and a LOT of research. So far, I've found 3 really great detanglers that work for me, and maybe will work for you as well 1.) Have to thank FM for this one, but Mixed Chicks Deep conditioner is da bomb! It has silicones though. 2.) Curl Junkie Hibiscus and Banana...this is my to die for new staple deep conditioner. I've been edging toward a silicone free regimen (except when wearing my hair straight, b/c then I use Sabino Moisture Block). This stuff is made of gold. It detangles like it has cones, but is cone free!!! It's the bananas I think. And it smells sooo yummy! Makes me want to eat it!
3.) My staple leave-in, which also doubles as a moisturizer Cocoa Tree Detangling Ghee; it's by Qhemet Biologics and I can't stress enough how great it is. It smells like cocoa and chocolate! I like it so much because when I go to put moisturizer in my hair, all of my detangling efforts are out the door because my hair gets re-tangled as I put the stuff in. This product helps minimize the tangles as I moisturize. I hope this helps you some sweetie. Hang in there and remember that we're here to support you!
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Taurus, your hair looks great! The decision to trim was a good one. I hate straggly ends too
I'm also positive that your decision to relax was the right one for you and your hair. It will look beautiful no matter what you do as long as you continue your healthy hair efforts
Don't regret it in the future if you ever decide to transition again.
Klo, your hair looks WL. I'll
if it isn't lol... BEAUTIFUL