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Re: Never Thought I\'d Consider The \"N\" Word
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swayback23 said:
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You have lovely hair, first off.
Second, relaxed hair is damaged hair by definition. The bonds of the hair are BROKEN to make it straight. Simple truth. Then, protein, and conditioners are slathered on to repair what is broken, and to keep it from breaking completely off. Some can hold on, some can't. You can never repair the damage, only temporarily fix it (over and over).
Third, if most African American women could acheive the "holy grail" of long straight hair with a simple blowout, instead of chemicals, I think a hell of alot would, unfortunately. Those with 3a/b textured, wavy, wavy hair can do that. So, abstaining from the relaxer doesn't seem like a huge transition to me when you don't need one in the first place if straight hair is the goal. 3a/b hair has never been villified, mocked, and hated. As a matter of fact, many straight haired women perm their hair to get those precious waves and curls. I don't see many Black women running out trying to kink their hair up to 4B (not counting those sad attempts by some Caucasians and Asians to "loc" their hair...shudder).
If most Black women "go natural" (trendiness implied on purpose), they aren't going to find your texture of hair on their heads. That's just it. So I say keep it real. Stop relaxing because its damaging, stop relaxing because lye (in all lye and "no lye" forms) is a dangerous chemical, stop relaxing cause it makes no sense to need gloves to protect your hands from something you put on your head (duh?), stop relaxing because it burns your scalp and skin, stop relaxing because straight, blowing, breezy, swinging, fried, and died hair isn't the "end all be all" of beauty.
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thank you Swayback, from what i can tell we are both basically saying the same things....thats all ive been saying , is its for healthy hair not for the expectation of a certain hair type that one should go natural should they decide to. and like i said it doesnt matter the type its healthy hair is beautiful period , all types. i wish my hair got straight by a simple blow out too, but nah its takes a mean hard press. but its ok, it works for me. ive come across those that are against pressing too. but ive been at this for years and if i wanna press it, im'a press it and dont need noone's permission to do it. but yes, the main goal is healthy hair and being realistic as to what to expect when going natural....and there is such a variety of pics on the net of natural hair , that i would think one wouldnt be able to assume that they hair will come out their head like mine and the possibilities of what it will really be like is endless. but one thing is clear across the board, that most natural hair when taken care of properly is just plain healthier. most of us cant go around the net taking accountability for anyone's delusions. and you are right the reasons you spoke of going natural is the only reasons one should go natural if they decide to...the fact that i did it for that very same reason, is what made me have the resolve to stick it out and accept whatever it was that ended up growing out of my head and whatever it did.
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swayback23 said:
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You have lovely hair, first off.
Second, relaxed hair is damaged hair by definition. The bonds of the hair are BROKEN to make it straight. Simple truth. Then, protein, and conditioners are slathered on to repair what is broken, and to keep it from breaking completely off. Some can hold on, some can't. You can never repair the damage, only temporarily fix it (over and over).
Third, if most African American women could acheive the "holy grail" of long straight hair with a simple blowout, instead of chemicals, I think a hell of alot would, unfortunately. Those with 3a/b textured, wavy, wavy hair can do that. So, abstaining from the relaxer doesn't seem like a huge transition to me when you don't need one in the first place if straight hair is the goal. 3a/b hair has never been villified, mocked, and hated. As a matter of fact, many straight haired women perm their hair to get those precious waves and curls. I don't see many Black women running out trying to kink their hair up to 4B (not counting those sad attempts by some Caucasians and Asians to "loc" their hair...shudder).
If most Black women "go natural" (trendiness implied on purpose), they aren't going to find your texture of hair on their heads. That's just it. So I say keep it real. Stop relaxing because its damaging, stop relaxing because lye (in all lye and "no lye" forms) is a dangerous chemical, stop relaxing cause it makes no sense to need gloves to protect your hands from something you put on your head (duh?), stop relaxing because it burns your scalp and skin, stop relaxing because straight, blowing, breezy, swinging, fried, and died hair isn't the "end all be all" of beauty.
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thank you Swayback, from what i can tell we are both basically saying the same things....thats all ive been saying , is its for healthy hair not for the expectation of a certain hair type that one should go natural should they decide to. and like i said it doesnt matter the type its healthy hair is beautiful period , all types. i wish my hair got straight by a simple blow out too, but nah its takes a mean hard press. but its ok, it works for me. ive come across those that are against pressing too. but ive been at this for years and if i wanna press it, im'a press it and dont need noone's permission to do it. but yes, the main goal is healthy hair and being realistic as to what to expect when going natural....and there is such a variety of pics on the net of natural hair , that i would think one wouldnt be able to assume that they hair will come out their head like mine and the possibilities of what it will really be like is endless. but one thing is clear across the board, that most natural hair when taken care of properly is just plain healthier. most of us cant go around the net taking accountability for anyone's delusions. and you are right the reasons you spoke of going natural is the only reasons one should go natural if they decide to...the fact that i did it for that very same reason, is what made me have the resolve to stick it out and accept whatever it was that ended up growing out of my head and whatever it did.
