Re: Never Thought I\'d Consider The \"N\" Word
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Irresistible said:
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babyblue said:
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swayback23 said:
Most who think about transitioning only want to if they will have long "wavy" 3a/**** hair. They can't mentally deal with the idea that it might be kinky, nappy, shrinking, classically afro textured hair. Which is what the majority of Black people women are gonna find under all the chemically straightened relaxer.
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So very true swayback.
btw Irresistable you have beautiful hair
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thank you babyblue
Swayback that might be true for some, but if anyone is a part of this group and any of the other groups out there, they are gonna be exposed to all types of natural hair and get to see , how it is, what it does, what it looks like, how it grows, etc. thats why so many of us take pics and share them...to inspire others and with so many different hair types we all need to be taking pics and putting them up all over the net like we like so many have so others can get a wide variety of images of natural hair. some of it will truly sprout out a head kinkiest/coiliest , and just honestly (just expressing my own opinion here) i would take the coiliest , kinkiest, tightest natural hair before i would take that kind of fragile hair and relax it. ive seen many many beautiful heads of afro textured hair...as a matter of fact on my group i broke out a childhood pic to show that i too had a fro. lol....i hated the pic, but i loved the fro...so much better to have a fro than to have fried damaged hair , thats how i see it anyway .... <font color="red"> </font> , but i reached a point where it didnt matter what came out of my head, it had to beat the damage i had for years that only got worse and worse.
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You have lovely hair, first off.
Second, relaxed hair is damaged hair by definition. The bonds of the hair are BROKEN to make it straight. Simple truth. Then, protein, and conditioners are slathered on to repair what is broken, and to keep it from breaking completely off. Some can hold on, some can't. You can never repair the damage, only temporarily fix it (over and over).
Third, if most African American women could acheive the "holy grail" of long straight hair with a simple blowout, instead of chemicals, I think a hell of alot would, unfortunately. Those with 3a/b textured, wavy, wavy hair can do that. So, abstaining from the relaxer doesn't seem like a huge transition to me when you don't need one in the first place if straight hair is the goal. 3a/b hair has never been villified, mocked, and hated. As a matter of fact, many straight haired women perm their hair to get those precious waves and curls. I don't see many Black women running out trying to kink their hair up to 4B (not counting those sad attempts by some Caucasians and Asians to "loc" their hair...shudder).
If most Black women "go natural" (trendiness implied on purpose), they aren't going to find your texture of hair on their heads. That's just it. So I say keep it real. Stop relaxing because its damaging, stop relaxing because lye (in all lye and "no lye" forms) is a dangerous chemical, stop relaxing cause it makes no sense to need gloves to protect your hands from something you put on your head (duh?), stop relaxing because it burns your scalp and skin, stop relaxing because straight, blowing, breezy, swinging, fried, and died hair isn't the "end all be all" of beauty.
But I'm okay with that.
