Cosigning on this entire post, especially the bolded. This is why I have very few "friends". OP, I'm sorry that your friend is treating you like this. Remember, we teach people how to treat us. Don't allow this girl to derail your hair goals..keep on transitioning. I can't wait to see your BC picture too
I agree. OP, Im not sure if she does have your best interest at heart. I have two close friends with way longer healthy hair and they are very supportive...funny how it's certain relatives (blood) who make the doubtful comments so I know how you feel...never had my friends be so negative towards me--Im glad about it because Im the one to shut out people who hurt me/my feelings. Im curious to know if this is what she has to say now that you are making progress, what was she saying before you started treating your hair better? probably nothing. she was quiet then--was just letting you do you huh? but idk. Keep doing what you are doing. To me, you seem to have a good regimen and I hope you reach all your goals with or without her support.
....lol...friends, can't live with them, can't live without them...thanks ladies...
You don't? Newbie or not, after reading your story, I knew she was...
Love your friend, but understand that even some "friends" should be loved from afar. When you get older and experience life more, you'll understand.
Oh. we call folks like these frenemies.
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Who sounds more like a friend the ladies on this board or the one you call best friend?
Follow the advice here, get your support here, talk to us here.
You are going through more than just one transition. You are going through the transition in your mind about your hair and the changes you want to make.
This requires support, guidance, understanding and sometimes just an ear to listen.
Tell your "best friend" about everything else if you desire to do so, talk to the ladies on this board about your hair.
Create your boundaries baby girl, let her know the topic of your hair is out of bounds. Which also means letting her know her comments are no longer required or expected.
Blessings.
when you were doing things that caused you to have breakage/damage and could've even caused baldness... I know this is old and I haven't seen the Recess cartoon in years but Im still going to say it, "Oooh scandalous!" 
, people used to tell me that all the time when I was younger, I still do have a big heart...to a certain point.
when you were doing things that caused you to have breakage/damage and could've even caused baldness... I know this is old and I haven't seen the Recess cartoon in years but Im still going to say it, "Oooh scandalous!" , people used to tell me that all the time when I was younger, I still do have a big heart...to a certain point.
You don't? Newbie or not, after reading your story, I knew she was...
Love your friend, but understand that even some "friends" should be loved from afar. When you get older and experience life more, you'll understand.
Oh. we call folks like these frenemies.
Girl you know I feel for you - I went and continue to go through some similar behavior from other black women at my school all the time. The best advice I can give you is first to speak to her about how she is making you feel. People seldom realize that they are being rude until it's pointed out to them and then usually, not always I've found, they relent. If she was truly a friend she would be able to hear what you were saying and make an effort to change. If not....you know the old adage...with friends like these who needs enemies.
Second I would stop discussing or doing my hair around her. She's clearly got a negative attitude about the whole thing and she probably thinks because she's fully natural and you're not that she's an expert on how to care for natural hair. Also she is probably insecure that you are moving into her territory and wants to deter or weaken you so that she can be the one that supports you when things get bad. I highly recommend you learn to do some things such as your hair without your best friend. No matter what friends should be the people that support you and help you up when you are down. Sometimes other women have a hard time doing so and in that case you need to be the one that supports your dreams and goals alone...
THANKS LADIES!!!!
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One of the other ladies mentioned that friends have their roles: loud one, fat one, pretty one, skinny one....that is true, because clearly i'm the skinny pretty one and she's the bigger one ....maybe she is jealous and don't want me to step on her toes...well just like she's trying to lose weight, i'm trying to grow hair
oh, and this secret (LHCF website) is definitely safe with me...
. She must be pretty scared right now. Sounds like her hair was the one thing she had that made her feel special when she was around you. I sure hope she loses the weight or you are going to be in for a bumpy ride!
You know you can't be skinny, pretty, AND have long hair
okay...skinny, pretty and long hair--you wouldn't be just a threat, u'd be a triple threat then. oh no, that cant happen: I guess I'd be trying to sabotage your hard work too 
"Girl dont you use no leave-in. The medical association says there are tooo many chemicals in leave-ins. And start using super relaxers and smooth for 45 minutes." "Girl, you better start eating three servings of meat & potatoes per day." "Girrrl, stop drinking water, it will make your complexion so ugly."...lol, Im just joking mami.
... . YEAH!
