Mixed signals from a co-worker

[br0wney3z]

I just started working at my job and have only recently started making friends. There is this guy who is really friendly with everyone so I've never thought anything about it. However recently he has started asking me to go to lunch with him and he pays, he comes to my cubicle a lot to talk (he visits a lot of other ppl too though), he calls me at my desk just to talk, constant emails and he'll sometimes compliment me on what I'm wearing that day, today he even waited after he was suppose to be off work just so we could walk back to our cars together.

So I know what you are thinking, what's the problem? The problem is he has a girlfriend, now he doesn't talk about her often, and I found out about her through other co-workers mentioning her name. I don't know how serious they are, but he did buy her a laptop for xmas. I told him he's too much of a flirt, and he just smiled and said that's just how he is. So what do you think? Should I not read too much into this and just say he's a flirt, or do you think its something more on his part?

 

[strenght81]

The fact that he has a girlfriend and is acting "friendly" towards you, shows he is a gamer. If i was you I would quit while I'm ahead. Don't entertain these fools who have girlfriends. Run don't walk.

I just started working at my job and have only recently started making friends. There is this guy who is really friendly with everyone so I've never thought anything about it. However recently he has started asking me to go to lunch with him and he pays, he comes to my cubicle a lot to talk (he visits a lot of other ppl too though), he calls me at my desk just to talk, constant emails and he'll sometimes compliment me on what I'm wearing that day, today he even waited after he was suppose to be off work just so we could walk back to our cars together.

So I know what you are thinking, what's the problem? The problem is he has a girlfriend, now he doesn't talk about her often, and I found out about her through other co-workers mentioning her name. I don't know how serious they are, but he did buy her a laptop for xmas. I told him he's too much of a flirt, and he just smiled and said that's just how he is. So what do you think? Should I not read too much into this and just say he's a flirt, or do you think its something more on his part?

 

[stinastina]

The fact that he has a girlfriend and is acting "friendly" towards you, shows he is a gamer. If i was you I would quit while I'm ahead. Don't entertain these fools who have girlfriends. Run don't walk.

Excellent advice !

 

[br0wney3z]

Thanks ladies. I think I already knew the answer to this post, but its one of those things that you have to ask about just to make sure you're not crazy.

 

[locabouthair]

The fact that he has a girlfriend and is acting "friendly" towards you, shows he is a gamer. If i was you I would quit while I'm ahead. Don't entertain these fools who have girlfriends. Run don't walk.

I agree.

Plus office romances cause too much drama and gossip. Your coworkers will be all in your business.

 

[BroadstreetBully]

MEN!

Tonight I was at a party, and this cute guy was flirting with me all night. So I get on Myspace and find out he has a gf...wtf?


MEN!

Girl, leave it alone...he's a player.

 

[tocktick]

i think it's a little more than harmless flirting, tbh. it's like he's laying the foundations to be able to persue you (talking a lot, getting into your space...generally establishing a presence in your life) and evenually wants to get you in his life. i really don't like his behaviour as he has a girlfriend. if the roles were reversed, i doubt he would like his gf doing this with one of her male co-workers. it's hard to cut him off in a work environment without things being very hostile, so i say limit your contact the best you can and don't seem too responsive to his actions. if he invites you out again, do not go.