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CocoSlim83 said:
I get that sometimes, and when I tell them I'm 100% African and that my parents were both born and raised in Ghana they look at me like I'm crazy. A lot of times people don't open their damn ears and mistake Ghana with Guyana and then imply that I have some Indian going on. That's when I have to remind them that Guyana is in South America and not Africa. I know some people that I've corrected but still hold on to that. It seems sometimes people just want to make excuses for others having long hair.

Even some of my cousins call me Spanish, or they try and point out stuff, like "oh ur grandfather on ur moms side is light, maybe he was mixed." I don't even get into a debate with them anymore.
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I wanna thank you 500000000x for the Guyana/Ghana switch up, get it all the time when I say GUYANA, in response to where my family is from. Besides, not all Guyanese have Indian in them.
 
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I don't get this when I am out and about. I get comments like, "That's a weave," and then I am dismissed! :grin:
 
Rosie8604 I was not offended I just speak a little spanish and she was going on and on and on and my sister is a regular there and they know she's AA. lol It was just weird.
 
For a long time even before my hair was anywhere close to BSL, people asked if I was from India, Trinidad or Guyana. When I tell them no, they look perplexed and a few actually look disappointed:rolleyes:.
 
There are different types of mixtures--you have black and Indian(they are my complexion), black and Chinese(Naomi Campbell), black and Hispanic---you can be light or dark-skinned. That is a misconception that you are only bi-racial if you are black and white. I think that is why they ask that.
 
I get the question are u mixed with Indian all the time does not bother me i just happily tell them no.
 
My sister and I get that alot. Especially where I live. I live in a very small town in Louisiana. The way some people think down here blows my mind. One time a white lady asked if I was mixed with something because my complexion and hair was too nice to be a regular colored girl (Her exact words, I was at work so I couldn't go off like I wanted to) I assured her I wasn't. She then asks me am I originally from Louisiana. I told her no that I am from Brooklyn. She says " yeah I knew it had to be something, you don't look like the THINGS around here". Unfortunately I am use to that ignorance here, but that's another issue.

Whenever I go back home to N.Y. My sister and I always get the " what's your nationality " question. They always think that we are Columbian or Dominican. Espacially my sister.(If you look in my siggy, I'm in black and my sister is in the pink ruffle dress) One man was insisting that my sister had to be partly something else because she is dark brown with nice long pretty hair. She set his a** straight for being so ignorant.
 
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I get the Puerto Rican thing a lot because of my hair and facial features. I just recently came back from San Juan, and the only thing that kept me and my boys from passing was that we didn't speak fluent spanish......The thing is am actually part native american. I don't know where the puerto rican thing came from....
 
Yes, I get it. I've been Native American, Indian, Brazilian, Dominican, etc.

It's funny, but the worst offenders are the people of that culture (except for the Native American mixup).
 
exoticmommie said:
:wallbash: :fistshake: stupid men!
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Tell me about :rolleyes:

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See this trips me out. A mixed girl with long hair comes a dime a dozen. You'd think they'd be more fascinated with a "regular" black girl with long hair since it seems so rare. I guess they just want to seem more exotic themselves if they're attached to a mixed girl.
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You would think that, but you know, I don't even think its so much the whole mixed thing that gets them as much it is the fact that I defy their expectations. I can even admit that it probably has a lot to do with the fact that I am medium/darker skinned with a looser type 3 hair texture. It's like either you're mixed, your hair is fake, or you have kit :perplexed-->:look:.

I remember when I was dating this Puerto Rican guy (much lighter skinned, "good type 2 hair", sterotypical looking) and I mentioned something about weaves while browsing a BSS- my hair was in a wash n go similar to my siggy. He turned around and asked "So that's your REAL HAIR !?" :shocked: . From that point, he kept making references about my "pelo bueno", kept asking me if I was sure I wasn't mixed with PR or Indio, and talking about how we would have pretty babies w/ good hair :crazy:- ninga I didn' even plan on getting no where near that damn far wit you. I dropped that dude like a bad habit after that :nono:. Countless people have come up to me and just ask how did I get my hair to do that and what type of curl do I use-including family :ohwell:. I'm sure I would have been given the benefit had I been a couple of shades lighter but it is what it is, I love both my hair and skin color :yawn:.

Nice Lady said:
There are different types of mixtures--you have black and Indian(they are my complexion), black and Chinese(Naomi Campbell), black and Hispanic---you can be light or dark-skinned. That is a misconception that you are only bi-racial if you are black and white. I think that is why they ask that.
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True..and for the most part people are consistent about which racial group I appear to belong to and are usually from that specific group (hispanic/black, Black/east Indian, etc) . But uhhh.... I clearly look black :look: generous nose, full lips, almond shaped eyes and all.
 
I get accused of it once a month, and hair length is so NOT a factor. Funny thing is that they are not entirely wrong... most of us multi-generational Americans have a little mixing from way back when. The European features on my face make it obvious. When asked, I just tell em with a big grin on my face that I'm a mutt. If DH is there, he says the same of himself (also true). We are proud of our heritage(s) as it made us who we are. Its also fun to further confuse nosy folks.
 
I 'look' black (and please, ya'll know what that means) and I have 4b/a hair.

I'm never mistaken for another race and I never get weave checked, although my hair is WL and HL in middle back.

people know i'm a black girl, and i like that
 
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I get asked this question A LOT and it's frustrating! :mad: Especially since it's mainly black people who are asking. Shouldn't we know by now that black folks come in a variety of shades, and our hair a variety of textures? There are people in Africa with silkier hair than mine! You don't have to be mixed to have naturally curly hair.
 
I'm Dominican and get asked if I'm African American, Cape Verdean, Cuban, Puerto Rican (that one I actually have), Brazilian, or mixed. I say yes to them all! Its an annoying question so I just pretend I'm from that country and say "yeah I'm ____" LMAO - well if they're strangers anyway. I've had people yell at me when I say I'm Dominican LOL one man yelled at me in Portuguese, then told me in English that he hates Cape Verdean women like me that pretend to be American! I cursed him out. One woman asked me if I was Cuban, I said no, she started to raise her voice and call me a liar because she could recognize my Cuban accent. Ummm sure, crazy lady.

I have people come up to me on the street and talk Spanish to me. I usually get annoyed and ask myself, what if I DIDN'T speak Spanish? Not sure why I get annoyed tho, I actually do speak the language. I like to be incognito LOL jk
 
I've had someone ask me if I was from Guyana because my hair was silky. This was when I had a relaxer & my hair was also jetblack. He seemed to be facinated with the texture more than the length (shoulder).

On other ocassions I've had people assume I was a black Latina, speaking to me in Spanish. Don't know why but I don't think it was the hair.
 
Before i started with my HHJ my cousin would say 'how come you're mixed but you have hair like black people' and now my hair is growing she says 'but you're mixed though'. I always have to remind her that my texture is like hers and that my hair was short all my life because of the abuse of relaxers and elastics...then she's like 'oh yeah, that's true'...but she always seems to forget the next time i see her and says the same thing...gets on my nerves! Her little sister is 11 and understands perfectly well but she is 16 and is so ignorant!
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i hate when people confuse countries, and they always confuse african countries! When people ask where i was born and i say togo, they say 'tonga?' or even 'tokyo?'. I know togo isn't a well known country but jeez, open up your ears and READ MY LIPS!!
lol, rant over
 
^^^If it makes you feel better, I know lots of people from Togo. :yep: But, I went to college and I was exposed to people from all over the world.

I've been getting the mixed question almost all my life. In my case, it's not about hair. Some people just have a pre-conceived notion of what a black person looks like, and what a mixed person looks like. My favorite is when I'm out with someone who is mixed or biracial, and people assume I'm the mixed/biracial one. :rolleyes: Or that since I minored in Spanish, that I must be Puerto Rican/Dominican/Cuban.

Funny that the only group of people that knew my ancestry based on my look were the Navaho people of Arizona. And even they knew it wasn't Navaho, but Cherokee. :lol:
 
*Happily Me* said:
I 'look' black (and please, ya'll know what that means) and I have 4b/a hair.

I'm never mistaken for another race and I never get weave checked, although my hair is WL and HL in middle back.

people know i'm a black girl, and i like that
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It's amazing that no one's tried to weave check you! I've never seen a head of hair like yours in real life ever! Then again, I don't think I've even seen a weave like yours!

But me, too, no one has ever asked me if I was mixed. I've had people ask if I was from Jamaica, occasionally an African country, and even when I'm in Africa people don't assume I'm mixed.
 
People seem to think I'm mixed no matter what length or texture my hair is. I look in the mirror, and I see a regular ole Black girl. At first I thought it was because of my length, but I'd still get questions about being 1/2 East Indian rocking my 4a/b twa. I dunno...my ex's still calls me his coolie/dougla ***** :lachen::lachen::lachen: Which is funny cause he's mixed :yep:

ETA: he blasts chutney whenever I'm walking too or from the car, he really thinks he's cute :lachen:
 
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OMG, I just want to start by thanking you all for your generous comments and replies. I must admit, I didn't expect the response to be so overwhelming (it's taken up almost 30 minutes of my work day, but who counting:) )

Anyway, I just wanted to add my spin to it. First off, as a beautiful black sister who takes just as much pride in her heritage as any, I personally find it offensive when strangers work up the nerve to imply that I'm anything BUT black. Yes, I have Native American somewhere down the line, but to ME, BLACK IS BLACK. I find it sooo annoying when others try and look for ANY excuse to mask the prejudices they OBVIOUSLY have towards my people...because afterall (as far as I'm concerned) that's all it is.
 
If/when I get asked this question, my feelings would be hurt because of the fact that they're implying being black isn't good enough to have long hair. It's like they're saying you have to be mixed bc them nasty ni**as can't have hair as luxurious as any other race. Especially the ones that will try to argue with you about your race. As if you don't know what ur background is. Um hello...I've been living with myself for almost 22 years now. I think I know my genetic make up and what type of hair grows from my scalp.
 
Also, I would just like to add: Asking someone if they are mixed or what they are mixed with (if you don't know them) is a dumb question anyways. Everytime I hear that question asked out of the blue to someone they don't know, I'm like wow that's a forward question and none of your freakin business. Even my biracial friends feel that way.
 
People are going to be stupid no matter what--I think stupidity exists in all degrees. The thing is being on the website and possibly, attaining for me personally results in the future will make me a walking advertisement for black women along with the other members here. Don't let it get to you(I guess I know what it feels when I was insulted by non-black person about my nationality and told where my parents were from).
 
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