SimpleKomplexity
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I'm just saying. You can read a million books. Take advice. But if it's not within you it is not within you. I am very very passive when it comes to telling guys "where the heck they can go". I really don't understand how to be assertive with what I want, what I need, and what I do not appreciate.
For example:
I so feel like I make life too hard. Harder than it is supposed to be. I do not have to be in a relationship. I am NOT supposed to be some friend/jump off chick that you're stringing along. I choose to be, because I'm scared of hurting these negros feelings.
I do NOT want to be in a relationship. I am afraid to say this because I do not want to hurt his feelings. I don't want him to feel like....man I never get what I want. I can't even keep this girl happy. BUT, I DO NOT want to "WORK ON IT". I would rather....be friends. Then again....I have plenty friends...I don't NEED ANYMORE DANG FRIENDS (sorry gotta a lil rant within me). And things are going too fast for ME. I don't want my FAM calling this dude SON IN LAW when I'm trying to get rid of him. I'm just saying. This road does NOT look good. Seriously. Grow up. Get balls. (He's just as passive as me, I'll explain this in a blog soon)
Then situation #2
I DO NOT want to be your friend. I wanted to be your girlfriend. Like stated before. I DO NOT NEED ANYMORE FRIENDS. I have a million of them. You take up space. Uneeded space. We can be a friendly basis. I can talk to you every once in a while on the phone. If you need something minimal I will always help you, but
I do not respect myself. I respect other's feelings before mine, because I am afraid of their reactions. In the end it makes me look dumb, because in essence I am belittling myself my staying around. I look like some dumb teeny bopper chick running around in circles. And carrying too much baggage.
Still talk to cheating arse ex...cuz he's lonely...in Iraq....
Still talking to lousy arse dude Mr. ICC cuz he's....I dunno...cuz he needs me.
Still talking to Mr. Passive I mean Perfect because...he's too nice to let go off, to passive to piss off to make him dump me, and too soft so I don't want to hurt him.
Hm... Am I making excuses for not leaving? These things I just don't know. I just reaaaaallllly want 2010 to be different. In all areas of life...things are well....but relationships. I am like before in a total loss.
How in the HECK do you LEARN to stand your ground. Have principles, stick to them. And be a class "B****" meaning taking control of your life and respecting yourself
For example:
I so feel like I make life too hard. Harder than it is supposed to be. I do not have to be in a relationship. I am NOT supposed to be some friend/jump off chick that you're stringing along. I choose to be, because I'm scared of hurting these negros feelings.
I do NOT want to be in a relationship. I am afraid to say this because I do not want to hurt his feelings. I don't want him to feel like....man I never get what I want. I can't even keep this girl happy. BUT, I DO NOT want to "WORK ON IT". I would rather....be friends. Then again....I have plenty friends...I don't NEED ANYMORE DANG FRIENDS (sorry gotta a lil rant within me). And things are going too fast for ME. I don't want my FAM calling this dude SON IN LAW when I'm trying to get rid of him. I'm just saying. This road does NOT look good. Seriously. Grow up. Get balls. (He's just as passive as me, I'll explain this in a blog soon)
Then situation #2
I DO NOT want to be your friend. I wanted to be your girlfriend. Like stated before. I DO NOT NEED ANYMORE FRIENDS. I have a million of them. You take up space. Uneeded space. We can be a friendly basis. I can talk to you every once in a while on the phone. If you need something minimal I will always help you, but
I do not respect myself. I respect other's feelings before mine, because I am afraid of their reactions. In the end it makes me look dumb, because in essence I am belittling myself my staying around. I look like some dumb teeny bopper chick running around in circles. And carrying too much baggage.
Still talk to cheating arse ex...cuz he's lonely...in Iraq....
Still talking to lousy arse dude Mr. ICC cuz he's....I dunno...cuz he needs me.
Still talking to Mr. Passive I mean Perfect because...he's too nice to let go off, to passive to piss off to make him dump me, and too soft so I don't want to hurt him.
Hm... Am I making excuses for not leaving? These things I just don't know. I just reaaaaallllly want 2010 to be different. In all areas of life...things are well....but relationships. I am like before in a total loss.
How in the HECK do you LEARN to stand your ground. Have principles, stick to them. And be a class "B****" meaning taking control of your life and respecting yourself