Members with Non-Black SO's: How are they with your hair?

Christelyn

Christelyn

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I've noticed that a few members on this site are involved in biracial relationships, which led me to the question...how do they feel about your natural styles and long hair journey? My husband, who's white scratches his head about how long I'm on this site and my obsession with hair products. He also feels a little bad about how difficult it is for me to grow my hair long because of issues with breakage and dryness. He thinks my twist-outs are cute but that my roller sets give me big hair like Aunt B from the "Andy Griffith Show" :blush:

So, how do you guys fair with the whole "hair" issue?
 
Well, I can't say if I saw a difference when I was dating (mostly black guys before I married my hubby) because I always wore my hair straight.
 
My manunit is white and is amazingly helpful, he knows what products I like and will go out and buy them when I ask. Y'all should see the looks he gets when I send him out for a relaxer and then when I go into the store with him he just gets the nod now.

The Black men I've dated were not as sweet or helpful about my hair. I heard more than once complaints about my wigs or weaves but then when I had a short natural do complaints about them.

Anyone black or white who cannot be loving of my hair cannot be loving of me in my opinion.
 
My DH likes my hair big and curly and that's how I wear it. :yep: He doesn't understand why I own more than one conditioner though. He doesn't care for my bun either
 
My DH likes my hair best in a ponytail with "the little piece of hair hanging down in the front." He was pessimistic when I first started my hair journey, but he has learned to live with it. He still shakes his head when I buy a new bottle of conditioner without finishing an old one, but he now understands the difference between a protein and a moisturizing con.
 
My DH thinks whatever I want to do is just fine. He knows what's coming if he has any objections. He likes my new growth and likes to touch it. He said he thinks I'm beautiful even if I shave my head (that ain't gonna happen, though)
 
vandidix said:
My DH likes my hair best in a ponytail with "the little piece of hair hanging down in the front." He was pessimistic when I first started my hair journey, but he has learned to live with it. He still shakes his head when I buy a new bottle of conditioner without finishing an old one, but he now understands the difference between a protein and a moisturizing con.
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Ha! My husband reacts the same way! He's like, "why do you need all this stuff??" Go figure, he just uses Pert. :lachen::lachen::lachen:
 
My SO loves my hair- but he hates when I put it in twists. He prefers me to wear my hair out but doesn't understand the tangling and whatnot that is involved in wearing it loose.
 
My DH just shakes his head about everything I do with my hair. Half the time he does not give his opinion about my hair (I think this is the best decision he has ever made about my hair:look:)
I think he generally likes my hair to compliments by African origin...whatever that means:ohwell:
 
DH is non-black Hispanic (darned census! LOL). Anyhow, he loves my hair. In fact, he helped encourage me to go natural. He even goes to pick up conditioner and other hair supplies. LOL.

I love that he's taken the time to learn how to care for our son's curly hair (only manipulates it when it's damp/wet, makes it a point to not disturb the curls too much, etc).

I love me some him. :)
 
spacetygrss said:
DH is non-black Hispanic (darned census! LOL). Anyhow, he loves my hair. In fact, he helped encourage me to go natural. He even goes to pick up conditioner and other hair supplies. LOL.

I love that he's taken the time to learn how to care for our son's curly hair (only manipulates it when it's damp/wet, makes it a point to not disturb the curls too much, etc).

I love me some him. :)
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ahhhh....sweet
 
RosesBlack said:
My manunit is white and is amazingly helpful, he knows what products I like and will go out and buy them when I ask. Y'all should see the looks he gets when I send him out for a relaxer and then when I go into the store with him he just gets the nod now.

The Black men I've dated were not as sweet or helpful about my hair. I heard more than once complaints about my wigs or weaves but then when I had a short natural do complaints about them.

Anyone black or white who cannot be loving of my hair cannot be loving of me in my opinion.
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That is cute. I saw this white man in a wig store buying a woman's wig. As he was looking around for a wig. That man didn't care who looked and snickered. He picked out a medium length 1b wig and paid for it then went on his way. I was surprised to see him in the "hood" wig store. I was saying to myself, "gooone man, buying a wig for his girl"! :blush: :lachen:
 
gloomgeisha said:
My SO loves my hair- but he hates when I put it in twists. He prefers me to wear my hair out but doesn't understand the tangling and whatnot that is involved in wearing it loose.
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OFF TOPIC: Your avatar pic on the bottom is sooo funny. I started laughing when I saw it. It is so true about the cat being neglected due to my hair fetish. My cat tries to jump up and grab my arm from reaching towards my hair. One time he did jump up and grab my arm and knocked the comb out my hand. He knows when he is neglected. Just had to say that. Ok, ladies as you were....
 
nicey said:
That is cute. I saw this white man in a wig store buying a woman's wig. As he was looking around for a wig. That man didn't care who looked and snickered. He picked out a medium length 1b wig and paid for it then went on his way. I was surprised to see him in the "hood" wig store. I was saying to myself, "gooone man, buying a wig for his girl"! :blush: :lachen:
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I love that.

By now we've lived in our neighborhood the ladies in the drugstore and at Sally's know him but people who don't know us give him such looks.
 
I posted a thread about this when I first started dating my SO.

Interracial Dating and Haircare
http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=111874

My SO is a closet PJ himself. When he met me, the PP (product promoter), he was in serious trouble. :giggle:

He is a rock musician (drummer) and used to wear his hair down to his waist when he was younger. His ex-wife is a hairstylist and admitted he wore plenty of conditioning caps when she was in cosmetology school and he was her guinea pig. :yep:

We both like and use Nexxus products, LUSH and he also likes my Ovation Color Therapy Shampoo. He's tried my Wen, but doesn't like the fact it doesn't lather so I get to keep that all to myself. I told him about EVOO and it's many uses for hair and skin - he had never heard of that.

He compliments my hair when it looks nice, whether in a bun or out (which is rare) and I think it's nice that he notices. He's seen me in phony pony's and wigs. His take on it? "If it looks nice and you like it, I like it," he says.

I have to say that his biggest concern is how much time I spend on LHCF. I think he's concerned when my attention is focused elsewhere instead of on him. Spoiled he is. :yep:
 
nicey said:
That is cute. I saw this white man in a wig store buying a woman's wig. As he was looking around for a wig. That man didn't care who looked and snickered. He picked out a medium length 1b wig and paid for it then went on his way. I was surprised to see him in the "hood" wig store. I was saying to myself, "gooone man, buying a wig for his girl"! :blush: :lachen:
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Ummm... he was probably (but not necessarily) buying it for himself! :blush: He may well dress as a woman sometimes. Think about it... I send my DH (Asian) to the store to buy conditioner, used to send him for relaxer... but a wig you just have to pick out yourself.

As to the topic... he really loves my hair. I think he did like it more when it was relaxed, but that's because my hair was always out then... and now I stay protective styling. I did just finish putting micros in my hair and he likes it. He's understanding about my hair, and he's the one who badgered me to go natural for years and years.
 
Christelyn said:
I've noticed that a few members on this site are involved in biracial relationships, which led me to the question...how do they feel about your natural styles and long hair journey?
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Well I have been with my white boyfriend (now fiance) for 9+yrs and natural the entire time. I started to wear my hair out (ie. no extensions) after about year 4. He really doesn't care what I do with my hair, as long as I don't let it and the sites,products monopolize my life :grin:
He NOW views black women VERY differently, now that he's learning about how "important" hair is in the black community. It's been a very interesting journey.

Christelyn said:
My husband, who's white scratches his head about how long I'm on hair sites and my obsession with hair products.
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Mine does the same! LOL! :lachen:
 
I don't think my DH really notices what I do to my hair.....he doesn't comment much anyways. I think he likes it that I change it up often. When he washes it for me he is so gentle like it's silk- i think that is so sweet. He has noticed that I cowash more and says my hair always smells so good. The cutest thing to me is that he asks me for hair advice, I have even helped him find a product that helps him tame his curls(Sunsilk captivating curls), lol.
 
I don't have a SO, but I do notice that white guys approach me alot more now that my hair is natural. Before, when my hair was relaxed, white guys didn't come up to me and try to get my number. Now that i'm natural that's all i get. It's rare that a black guy comes up to me in the club or on the street and trys to talk to me, but white men be on me!!

Shyt, I ain't complainin'
 
Mz. Princess said:
I don't have a SO, but I do notice that white guys approach me alot more now that my hair is natural. Before, when my hair was relaxed, white guys didn't come up to me and try to get my number. Now that i'm natural that's all i get. It's rare that a black guy comes up to me in the club or on the street and trys to talk to me, but white men be on me!!

Shyt, I ain't complainin'
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Aha!
Im going to have to wear my hair out more often. :look:
Too bad its getting cold. :sad:
 
My SO doesn't really care. I've even specifically asked him and he just says, "Whatever makes you happy!" Although he has told me he wants to see my hair without braids in. (I said no - no heat! :laugh:) He also mentioned a few times that my braids were scratchy while we were cuddling. :blush: Guess I need to use more moistrurizer.
 
My DH is white and is instrumental in my haircare journey. He helps me relax and does my trims. :drunk: He understands my journey and he prefers my hair in "natural" looking styles. I asked tonight which style he prefers, my braidouts or my straight rollerset/flat iron styles and he prefers the braidouts.
 
My SO loves my hair curly and free (no headbands or clips). I straightened it this week and he was like, "i don't date girls with straight hair anymore." I thought that was cute.

On the other hand, I saw a guy I used to date (black guy) and he said I needed to straighten my hair. He said the curly fro didn't "fit my personality."

Just my opinion, but I think hair is way more political to black folk than non-black folk.
 
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