skegeesmb
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Wow this thread has blown up. Let me post something before it gets locked up.
Well I hope the original poster decides to stick around.
But when I first read the thread, I thought it was a post taken from when I first started coming to this board last year.
I'm not gonna lie, but when I first read the thread I was like here we go again. I don't mean it to be that way, but it's a question that inherently implies that we need to accept that we can't grow long hair. And that means certain black people. I have never been questioned about growing my hair long because people assumed that my hair would be longish (past the shoulders).
But when someone posts that I do read the rest of their comments to see how they post their questions. And the 3b post is not the only post where long hair is questioned. The why can't we be happy with what we have response is weird. It's not a defending post, but a reiteration that we need to be happy with just healthy hair.
The fact is we can have long hair. I had it before I cut it, and in a few months time I will be at brastrap length. It will have only taken 2 and a half years with 3" of hair at the longest. As a newbie, the vitamins and long lists of shampoos may have weirded me out, but things such as not using much heat, protecting the ends of hair, and airdrying is not obsessive at all, in fact, if you look at descriptions of tightly curled hair, or any curly hair for that matter, you see specific things such as: Don't always use heat, don't use curling irons everyday, moisture moisture moisture.
There are many sites for people of other races besides black women who want to grow their hair long. I've been to them all, some are good and the black women who frequent the boards can get good advice, but there are other sites who when black women ask questions, our hair type seem like an anomoly and the stereotype of black long hair might not be achievable.
I come from a family of long to very long haired women, so I never felt bad for thinking that long hair on black women is achievable. It's much harder for people who come from a family where the mentality is only mixed, spanish, asian, or white women can only have long hair. And it's sad.
Oh and about nappturality. There were posters that would make posters feel bad about wanting long hair. I was a member there when the board first went up when I had gone natural and we moved from naturallycurly to the website. It wasn't everybody, but there were a few there that make their thoughts about natural women with 4b hair (because of the super shrinkage) who wanted to find ways to make their actual length more apparent known. Posts of: "You should just accept the fact that your hair might not grow" would come up. Like I said before, not every poster on nappturality felt that way and you could see that when they would defend the original poster who wanted to show real length.
Well I hope the original poster decides to stick around.
But when I first read the thread, I thought it was a post taken from when I first started coming to this board last year.
I'm not gonna lie, but when I first read the thread I was like here we go again. I don't mean it to be that way, but it's a question that inherently implies that we need to accept that we can't grow long hair. And that means certain black people. I have never been questioned about growing my hair long because people assumed that my hair would be longish (past the shoulders).
But when someone posts that I do read the rest of their comments to see how they post their questions. And the 3b post is not the only post where long hair is questioned. The why can't we be happy with what we have response is weird. It's not a defending post, but a reiteration that we need to be happy with just healthy hair.
The fact is we can have long hair. I had it before I cut it, and in a few months time I will be at brastrap length. It will have only taken 2 and a half years with 3" of hair at the longest. As a newbie, the vitamins and long lists of shampoos may have weirded me out, but things such as not using much heat, protecting the ends of hair, and airdrying is not obsessive at all, in fact, if you look at descriptions of tightly curled hair, or any curly hair for that matter, you see specific things such as: Don't always use heat, don't use curling irons everyday, moisture moisture moisture.
There are many sites for people of other races besides black women who want to grow their hair long. I've been to them all, some are good and the black women who frequent the boards can get good advice, but there are other sites who when black women ask questions, our hair type seem like an anomoly and the stereotype of black long hair might not be achievable.
I come from a family of long to very long haired women, so I never felt bad for thinking that long hair on black women is achievable. It's much harder for people who come from a family where the mentality is only mixed, spanish, asian, or white women can only have long hair. And it's sad.
Oh and about nappturality. There were posters that would make posters feel bad about wanting long hair. I was a member there when the board first went up when I had gone natural and we moved from naturallycurly to the website. It wasn't everybody, but there were a few there that make their thoughts about natural women with 4b hair (because of the super shrinkage) who wanted to find ways to make their actual length more apparent known. Posts of: "You should just accept the fact that your hair might not grow" would come up. Like I said before, not every poster on nappturality felt that way and you could see that when they would defend the original poster who wanted to show real length.
. All I can say is thank you. It is a great pity, that we as black people are still fighting among ourselves, people who want to live a decent life, have nice things, speak properly, growing our hair long etc, we are deemed as wanting to be "white". I honestly belive that people who make those statements, really need a lot of help, because they seem themselves as lesser beings and want to pass on their feelings of "self hated" to us, hence the words "sellout" is used. I love the fact that we are living in such an enlighted age of the internet and we are able to get so much knowledge. I suspect why there are some people who feel uncomfortable about us getting the knowledge of growing our hair longer and keeping it healthy. The power of making us feel we as black women can't grow our hair long and not beautiful as other races, those who have the monopoly of long hair would be over. We as black women, who also see 'the light'. Knowledge is power, there are some people who still feel that they must be control over the majority.
