I am married, and I NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, EVER tell people my business. It is just not good business. If you don't won't your friends and family to remember all of the bad (and believe me they will) about you spouse, you will be better served not telling them about your problems. I mean I think the rule is that you never tell others about your relationship, but that is the rule. There are exceptions to the rule, but I would not bet on it.