Wedding Date: 08/25/2011
Dos:
1. The music is important! I drove my poor DJ crazy with a very specific set list. I had almost every song picked out. But the music flowed just how I wanted it to and everyone dance the night away!
2. If you have a budget, be flexible about everything but the money. I would have loved a Saturday evening affair, but in NYC that means $$$$$$$. Having my wedding in the late afternoon on a thursday saved THOUSANDS. The (main) festivities ended early enough that no one was out too late if they didn't have to be.
3. Cut out what you deem unnecessary. Every one will tell you what you HAVE to have, especially at bridal shows! Everyone thought I was crazy for not having a videographer... But me and DH hate watching ourselves on video
Besides, with all the camera phones, there was video up on FB before we even left for the honeymoon.
4. Ditto on the just starting out photographer. My photographer was wonderful with a professional website... For $800. She was literally just starting out, but she had such an eye!
5. Research places besides bridal shops for a wedding gown. I paid $600 for my designer gown. I got it from a trunk sale for Brides Against Breast Cancer. I got a great price on my dress and all the money went to charity. Win win!
Donts:
1. Don't be a bridezilla but don't be a doormat either. I had a family member from HIS side try to change the whole ceremony at the last minute behind my back! DH and I had been very careful about blending his Filipino traditions with some of my family traditions. This woman wanted a strictly Filipino wedding. But it was OUR wedding. The officiant handled that
My MIL also was trying to insist that DHs brother was the best man. He wasn't able to attend at all because he's in the army and no one faults him for that. But DH and I did fault him for not showing any interest... No phone calls, no well wishes, nothing. But he did manage to propose to his wife (yea, figure that one out) 2 weeks before the big day. My DH almost threw the computer out the window
the big fight was over the programs, which I didn't want anyway. We kept the programs, and had a very nice shoutout to BIL, but he was not the best man. DH handled that one with my support.
2. Don't fight over small things your FH wants. Just let him handle it and if he really wants it, he'll get it. DH really wanted us to hand release doves because his parents did it. I wasn't too crazy about touching some albino pigeons. So I left it to him. I even reminded him about it as we got closer to be a good sport
It kept slipping his mind and no one got pooped on. He didn't miss them.
3. Depending on the culture, don't expect your registry to be anywhere near completion. Apparently, Filipinos give money. So do Italians. So while we have a nice little nestegg, we still don't have a full china service
4. Don't be afraid to be crafty! I did my flowers and most accessories. I just couldn't find what I wanted a lot of the times. I wanted a cherry blossom theme in the middle of August... Origami to the rescue!!! I mustve folded hundreds of those things. Doing my own flowers was really relaxing the day before. And since ones going for a natural, easy going feel, it was easy! I made my own broom to jump and it's hanging in my living room.
5. Don't expect to eat any of the food you pick out for the cocktail hour