I think it may be a good idea to pair up with someone like you.
If you're an Alpha woman, then you'd more than like want an Alpha man, because a Beta man would bore you to tears--If you're a Beta woman, you'd want to pair up with a Beta man, because an Alpha man might become bored with you.
Is it possible to have a man with the mixture of the two? Beta men, although they appear to be boring, from what I heard have been known to make the best husbands and best lovers--they are less selfish and are willing to do what their woman wants.
Bottom line it all depends on what you're looking for and what you want in a man--everyone is different and has different needs when it comes to a relationship, so I'm not going to knock either one.
ITA w/ Honeycomb. I married a beta male who I later discovered had some gamma tendencies (we are divorced now). If I look back over my romantic life, I have had the most happiness when in LTR with alpha males posessing some (very few) beta qualities. That's what I like best
. The right amount of beta-ness gives you a strong sure man that is not an insensitive jerk. I cannot stomach gammas at all
!! I can usually locate them in a matter of minutes
. Nor can I stomach predominantly beta types for very long. I have several female acquaintances IRL who migrate to betas and gammas and then when it's time to man up (for protection, decision making, and the like) they are sorely disappointed
. Many of them are selfish though( my female acquaintances). They want to be able to call the shots on
everything when it is convenient but then expect these guys to man up at certain points
. Life doesn't work that way
. Or at least not from what I've observed. I do need to say I am more of the alpha female type. It takes that kind of man to deal with me, understand me, balance me. I'm told I can be a real handful
for such a petite package
. Great thread!
Off to read links posted by CurlyMoo...
Finished reading now...
I've read Roissy's blogs and find them both depressing and offensive with a bit of truth thrown in to keep his audience lapping up his diatribe. Here is what he thinks of Black women. WHOA at the comments from White men regarding Black women.
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http://roissy.wordpress.com/2008/12/29/its-easy-to-identify-a-slut/
http://roissy.wordpress.com/2007/10/31/interracial-loving/
Ok, just read those two blog entries. Umm yep, I'd have to agree with your assessment CMoo. It's never fair to make generalizations like he did in the first link but we all know life is not fair and the way BW imitate the celebs/ video ho s allows such generalizations to remain alive and well. I know that's not PC though**shrugs shoulders**