Thanks to you and Luvmylife... I guess I have to find another method of BC and/or do some thinking about my relationship....
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ETA: In my case, I really don't think it;s that I don't desire him.... I can't even fantasize about being with ANYONE....
Girl, no problem...and please do not let the Dr. "send you off" and say it's just nothing. Please insist that they investigate.
Also to Henrietta, I've experienced some 'slumps' in sex drive over the years and these things have helped me...maybe they can be of some use to you (I'm also echoing the sentiments of other posters):
Losing weight - DH and I went on a diet and lost 30 and 15 pounds respectively...and the immediate effect was on sex. I was attracted to him in a whole new way. It was like being with a different person because it was bodies we weren't used to, KWIM?
Changing it up - If you've been with someone a while, a change might be just the thing to motivate your libido. The prospect of making love on a moonlit beach with a bottle of wine sounds way more arousing then getting the usual Wednesday night hump in the same ol' bed.
Me Makeover- I feel more open sexually,and 'arouse-able' when I feel I look my best. Gorgeous hair, a fly outfit and perfect makeup makes me feel sexy...old ratty pajamas and a headrag don't
Getting rid of inhibitions - doing something that is unusual for you can be quite sexy and arousing. I'm usually pretty reserved so for me it doesn't take much. I'm not a drinker, so having a small glass of wine is waaay out the box for me
It also takes alot for me to loosen up enough to dance, but feeling free enough to do this can be very stimulating.
Fantasize- The biggest sex organ we have is out brain! If what's going on at the moment isn't exactly sexy to you, let your mind wander and place yourself in other scenarios that pique your sexual intrest. That hot stuffy bedroom not doing it for you? Close your eyes and imagine you and your love are on a deserted island...your brain can take you anywhere.
I'm sorry to be so long winded...I could go on for hours
I just really feel passionate about sexuality and truly believe that good satisfying, fulfilling sex is the right of every consenting adult. I hope this can be of some help to you