In western society, over 50% marriage end in divorce. People do not take the time to know someone beyond the first blush of attraction, and when it leaves, there's nothing in its place. I don't feel that love is necessary for marriage to take place, however, something needs to be there on both sides to sustain it.
I can certainly say that my parents did not get through 45 years of marriage just on love. Also because I grew up and saw successful relationships, I realized, love is nice and all, but its not the only part of the equation.
Could I be intimate with a man I don't love? Yes, as long as there is respect, an open and honest communication channel, friendship, fondness and he was hot. (why lie??) As long as we are in the same place in our lives, going in the same direction in our lives, I don't see an issue. I've dated lots of those types, though I was not in a place in my life where I was ready to settle down.
When I met my now husband I was at a point where I was sick of dating. We lived together for A LONG time though before I agreed to marriage.
So because I DO love my husband, my response is somewhat colored by that. If I didn't love my husband Thiends, you'd hear something totally different.
I've said many times that my attraction to my husband is still as hot and heavy as when we first started dating 10 years ago. However the first blush has worn off as it does in any relationship, and we worked to build a foundation to get over that hump by also being friends and communicating our wants and needs with each other.
The things I may have found cute during the first blush...yeah girl...not so cute these days! (trust me, its not cute when he nearly melts a hole in the bed after letting go a sbv) He's wonderful to me, and that matters a lot. Who knows where journey together will take us...It should be interesting!
So no, I wouldn't say be with a man because he's just a warm body. If a woman just don't feel it, she dosen't. But I would say that it depends where a woman is in her life and what she wants. Some are perfectly fine being with a man that they don't love as long as said man treats them well, provides for them, and is an upstanding guy. And some want more than just that. Each relationship between a man and a woman is unique.
By that same token, I stand by my earlier statement. I've seen how successful that model is first hand, though there are some intra-relational idiosyncrasies that also make those types of relationships unique too.
At the end of the day, you have to do what you find is best for yourself. Nothing I or anyone else says should have sway if you feel differently.
-A