Looser guys trying to win back women they did wrong too.

[Princess4real]

5086351[/B]]Nope. It's a set up. He would dump you so hard you'll still be standding in the same spot with your mouth hanging open three days later
If he's changed, Praise God. Go be changed somewhere else

Yep, let him take his brand new behind on!

 

[Ms.Nigeria]

They just want to tap that one more time and continue their journey. Dont fall for it ladies

 

[jturner7156]

They just want to tap that one more time and continue their journey. Dont fall for it ladies[/quote]

Very true and I had to quote this post so it could appear one more time....carry on!!!

 

[tmichelle]

I hate to admit it, but I've been guilty of putting up with too much before finally moving on. But once I do, there's no turning back.

It feels good to move on from someone who can't treat us the way we deserve. It's definitely empowering.

Yeah, I know what you mean. Almost all the guys I dated didn't even deserve that "first chance". Silly me!

 

[tmichelle]

i dont know why it tends to happen this way.
But, if the looser REALLY changed his way and really regrets all the ways he acted, if he realized with his heart and soul the things he should have a long time ago, would any ladies on here take the man back?

That's the story my friend's ex-husband gave her. I think if I'm not married to the guy than let him use his new self on a new person. I'd be through.

 

[tmichelle]

They just want to tap that one more time and continue their journey. Dont fall for it ladies

That's what I think, even if they are lying to themselves.

 

[Ms.Honey]

No man wants to be rejected by a woman he was using. You're not supposed to dump him. He's the smart one, you're the stupid chick he manipulated. If you dump him then that.means.he's.the.stupid.trick.not.you. HEY WAIT A MINUTE!! I CAN'T LET THAT HAPPEN. I'm gonna get her to come back to me and dump her like a ton of rocks. HARD!!!!!

 

[Honey6928215]

No man wants to be rejected by a woman he was using. You're not supposed to dump him. He's the smart one, you're the stupid chick he manipulated. If you dump him then that.means.he's.the.stupid.trick.not.you. HEY WAIT A MINUTE!! I CAN'T LET THAT HAPPEN. I'm gonna get her to come back to me and dump her like a ton of rocks. HARD!!!!!

Yep, that what usually happens.

 

[jturner7156]

No man wants to be rejected by a woman he was using. You're not supposed to dump him. He's the smart one, you're the stupid chick he manipulated. If you dump him then that.means.he's.the.stupid.trick.not.you. HEY WAIT A MINUTE!! I CAN'T LET THAT HAPPEN. I'm gonna get her to come back to me and dump her like a ton of rocks. HARD!!!!!

Oh wow...beautifully and truthfully put Ms.Honey . I wish I could put this whole paragraph in my siggy...maybe you should, shoot somebody should!!!!!

 

[*5+5]

This same event happened to my cousin and it pissed me off sooooo bad that I still dislike the guy to this day and it's tough for me to dislike a person. But he used her and made her look dumb as hell as if it was a hobby. Heck, I've even been on a few dummy missions w/her for his pleasure. This was her boyfriend and he never spent one on one time w/her unless he was getting something out of the deal (food, sex, a ride, money). It was so bad that she was the talk of the town and when her name was mentioned people would say, "is ole boy still playing w/her intelligence"? Yeah it was that bad!
Finally she meets a great guy, attractive, nice, available and everything a woman wish for in a guy, so she moved on and started kicking it w/this new guy. About 2 months into her new relationship ole' boy realizes hey she might be gon' for good. So he shows up at her job and was crying, saying he missed her and that he couldn't see his life w/o her. To make a long story short, she kicked the new guy to the curve and now she is still w/this loser and is going through the same drama to this very day, but now with a baby...

 

[tmichelle]

This same event happened to my cousin and it pissed me off sooooo bad that I still dislike the guy to this day and it's tough for me to dislike a person. But he used her and made her look dumb as hell as if it was a hobby. Heck, I've even been on a few dummy missions w/her for his pleasure. This was her boyfriend and he never spent one on one time w/her unless he was getting something out of the deal (food, sex, a ride, money). It was so bad that she was the talk of the town and when her name was mentioned people would say, "is ole boy still playing w/her intelligence"? Yeah it was that bad!
Finally she meets a great guy, attractive, nice, available and everything a woman wish for in a guy, so she moved on and started kicking it w/this new guy. About 2 months into her new relationship ole' boy realizes hey she might be gon' for good. So he shows up at her job and was crying, saying he missed her and that he couldn't see his life w/o her. To make a long story short, she kicked the new guy to the curve and now she is still w/this loser and is going through the same drama to this very day, but now with a baby...

Aww man! That reminds me of a Proverb that says, "A wise woman builds her house but a foolish one tears it down with her hand". Might I add BOTH hands? She's throwing both her and her babies life away with both hands!

 

[Ms.Honey]

Boy, I wish I could find him and re-dump him Y'all just don't understand how good it feels

 

[cocoaluv]

No man wants to be rejected by a woman he was using. You're not supposed to dump him. He's the smart one, you're the stupid chick he manipulated. If you dump him then that.means.he's.the.stupid.trick.not.you. HEY WAIT A MINUTE!! I CAN'T LET THAT HAPPEN. I'm gonna get her to come back to me and dump her like a ton of rocks. HARD!!!!!

OMG yes!


Ladies dont fall for it...its a trick!!! No matter how much they promise they have changed they just wanna see if they can get back in with you again. Just move on and do your own thing and someone worthy WILL come along. IMO men like this never change so dont bother waiting for it to happen.

 

[Valerie]

I think you really need to realise you deserve to have better, and keep on saying it like a mantra. I deserve to have a good loving caring relationship, because I am worth it. Looser guys bless them, forgive them and let them go.

 

[The Girl]

This is so, so, so true. I named mine poophead(well the S word) and my girlfriends referred to him by that name also It get's you over them so quickly that it makes your head spin. To this very day if he's ever brought up, he's only referred to as poophead

Adding Silly Bastad (no r), Fat F&*k, and Mr Dumb *ss to my list.

For the OP, I wish folks could see into the future and "get it". I wish I could have too at times, hopefully she is truly done with him though. Yes, I know he dumped herbut she needs to mentally dump him too.

 

[tmichelle]

Adding Silly Bastad (no r), Fat F&*k, and Mr Dumb *ss to my list.

For the OP, I wish folks could see into the future and "get it". I wish I could have too at times, hopefully she is truly done with him though. Yes, I know he dumped herbut she needs to mentally dump him too.

Yep! I like the phrase one poster said her town was saying about her cousin b/c it describes the situation perfectly, "is he still playing with her inteligence?"

 

[Sasha Fierce]

Thank God. This post came right on time for me.

Just two days ago, I had to walk away from an emotionally abusive, manipulative, selfish guy.

I only knew him 3 months but it seemed he did such a fine job at making me feel bad and down on myself. Not through curising, but just criticisms and disregarding my feelings. Honestly, I felt intimidated (and that is just not me when it comes to men). I felt all I could do was walk away.

BUT, this sucka got $300 from me. ( I know, I Know..stupid of me. But he came with such a sad story and I have sucha soft heart). It was nothing to hand it over to him feeling like he would return it.

Now that I have walked away, do I stay away and consider it a $300 lesson learned? Or do I try to get my money and risk being manipulated again by contacting him?

Maybe he won't try to get at me again since he owe me money

 

[tmichelle]

Thank God. This post came right on time for me.

Just two days ago, I had to walk away from an emotionally abusive, manipulative, selfish guy.

I only knew him 3 months but it seemed he did such a fine job at making me feel bad and down on myself. Not through curising, but just criticisms and disregarding my feelings. Honestly, I felt intimidated (and that is just not me when it comes to men). I felt all I could do was walk away.

BUT, this sucka got $300 from me. ( I know, I Know..stupid of me. But he came with such a sad story and I have sucha soft heart). It was nothing to hand it over to him feeling like he would return it.

Now that I have walked away, do I stay away and consider it a $300 lesson learned? Or do I try to get my money and risk being manipulated again by contacting him?

Maybe he won't try to get at me again since he owe me money

^^^ Until he wants more.

If he doesn't return the $ to you on his own w/o being asked, rest asured that what a person sows, that the will reap! I'd leave it alone and let God handle it.

 

[Honey6928215]

Thank God. This post came right on time for me.

Just two days ago, I had to walk away from an emotionally abusive, manipulative, selfish guy.

I only knew him 3 months but it seemed he did such a fine job at making me feel bad and down on myself. Not through curising, but just criticisms and disregarding my feelings. Honestly, I felt intimidated (and that is just not me when it comes to men). I felt all I could do was walk away.

BUT, this sucka got $300 from me. ( I know, I Know..stupid of me. But he came with such a sad story and I have sucha soft heart). It was nothing to hand it over to him feeling like he would return it.

Now that I have walked away, do I stay away and consider it a $300 lesson learned? Or do I try to get my money and risk being manipulated again by contacting him?

Maybe he won't try to get at me again since he owe me money

Yep, they usually disappear after they got the money. Therefore, you have gotten rid of him for $300. Consider that an investment and move on.

 

[Ms.Honey]

Thank God. This post came right on time for me.

Just two days ago, I had to walk away from an emotionally abusive, manipulative, selfish guy.

I only knew him 3 months but it seemed he did such a fine job at making me feel bad and down on myself. Not through curising, but just criticisms and disregarding my feelings. Honestly, I felt intimidated (and that is just not me when it comes to men). I felt all I could do was walk away.

BUT, this sucka got $300 from me. ( I know, I Know..stupid of me. But he came with such a sad story and I have sucha soft heart). It was nothing to hand it over to him feeling like he would return it.

Now that I have walked away, do I stay away and consider it a $300 lesson learned? Or do I try to get my money and risk being manipulated again by contacting him?

Maybe he won't try to get at me again since he owe me money

$300 is a small price to pay to rid yourself of an extra butthole, you only need the one you were born with. It's useful and has a purpose in life. He's the butthole that isn't.

You got off easy girl. Let him keep it if it means you have to contact him

 

[CurliDiva]

this fool who I haven't seen in nearly a year and haven't replied to any of his messages called again last nigt and I picked up without checking the number.

He went on and on about his new job.......so what!

How he cleaned up his house (it really was always filthy).....so what!

How he's learning to cook....so what!

How every time he sees my car model he thinks of me because I've had my car 'forever' - my car is 2003 so forever is 5 years in his mind....so what!

when I just sat on the phone until he realized that he was just talking to himself and I was not impressed he made a huffing sound and I bid him a goodnight!

This man can not DO anything for/to me anymore. We are not friends (don't think he has any) so why are you reporting in to me.

Save it for the next chick that may be impressed by the progress you've made to 'look' like a normal, functioning ADULT!

I KNOW IT AIN'T TRUE!

 

[twinkletoes17]

My ex is always calling me, yet he's the one who dumped me!! I can honestly tell you I didn't do anything wrong. I was packing, getting ready to go home for the summer, and out of the blue he told me he didn't want to see me anymore. We'd been going out for 2 years, and within that time I endured physical, emotional, and verbal abuse from him. Therefore, I didn't even argue the fact that he didn't want to see me anymore. I'd been wanting to leave him for the longest time, since our last fight which was about 2 months prior, so it made it a little easier on me. I still cried, for like 2 or 3 days, but I most certainly moved on. Then the phone calls and emails started. I still get them till this day, and he dumped me in June. "Baby I've changed. I'm doing everything you wanted me to do." It's 2 years too late for that isn't it. I'm talking to someone else, I don't have time for my ex

We're all strong black women, we don't need losers squirming their ways back on us. They're called losers for a reason.

 

[jerseygurl]

Thank God. This post came right on time for me.

Just two days ago, I had to walk away from an emotionally abusive, manipulative, selfish guy.

I only knew him 3 months but it seemed he did such a fine job at making me feel bad and down on myself. Not through curising, but just criticisms and disregarding my feelings. Honestly, I felt intimidated (and that is just not me when it comes to men). I felt all I could do was walk away.

BUT, this sucka got $300 from me. ( I know, I Know..stupid of me. But he came with such a sad story and I have sucha soft heart). It was nothing to hand it over to him feeling like he would return it.

Now that I have walked away, do I stay away and consider it a $300 lesson learned? Or do I try to get my money and risk being manipulated again by contacting him?

Maybe he won't try to get at me again since he owe me money

Chile same thing happened to me only that dude lives in Europe. I paid my own airfare to go see him, bought him an expensive watch what did I get? A big fat NOTHING.

And on top of that I lent him $600 did he return it, NOOOO. Instead I got heaped with insults and he stopped calling. This was last year, I tried every means I could short of actually going there to get it but no dice. I was already fed up with his attitude, so I decided to move on. Here come dude calling at night and crying that he's sorry, he still wants to marry me, etc. Now notice ladies not one mention of MY MONEY. I went through mental abuse with this guy and now looking back and finding LHCF, I know that he is fits the bill of a possesive/abusive guy.

Fast forward to this year, he calls again NOW he wants me to visit him and HE will pay. And you what the kicker is, I'll get MY money WHEN I go over there. At that point I just laughed and told him he wasn't serious and finally realizing I wasn't buying his nonsense dude hung up on me.

Long post I know but I had to chime in and say LET IT GO, GIRL!!! If you call him you are looking for more insults to be dumped on you. Move on and count that as an investment to get rid of him like was said before.

 

[Covergirl5906]

yes they ALWAYS try to come back then some of them have the nerve to not even come correct....I can only laugh... seriously

 

[Hot40]

They come back when they realize how great your where to them and for them.
If you still have the same friends, word gets around she is doing good, looking good, just moving forward (they want A piece of your happiness)

I have an ex -- broke up in 89 or 90 and makes a point of asking friends about me.
He and I were in the same party last year. I avoided him like a bad disease.
This fool spent the entire night watching me across the room.
The next day his best friend comes by my mothers house, asked why I did not
come over and speak. Oh where you guys there??I did not know???
Was he there??? Did not know??? He must have gained a lot of weight (did know it was him) LMAO My husband came over and spoke??? Did not know??? (N---g Please)

These men have egos soooo big -- got the break that mess
Some men just want to Conquer you not love you.
Better learn which is which

 

[classi123]

Nope. It's a set up. He would dump you so hard you'll still be standding in the same spot with your mouth hanging open three days later
If he's changed, Praise God. Go be changed somewhere else

Not all guys are the same some make mistakes and learn from them.

 

[classi123]

i dont know why it tends to happen this way.
But, if the looser REALLY changed his way and really regrets all the ways he acted, if he realized with his heart and soul the things he should have a long time ago, would any ladies on here take the man back?

Im a very understanding person, I guess from being the reciever of heartaches and the giver. So I would want someone to give me a second chance, but dont be foolish!! Be very cautious, u can talk to some1 new and they can probably do worse damage then an old boo, thats just the chance u take with love, just dont be anyones fool.

 

[misskris816]

Some men just want to Conquer you not love you.
Better learn which is which

Love it! Amen.

 

[Covergirl5906]

Oh it never fails. They leave you in the dumps and don't want nothing to do with you. But once you bounce back, start feeling better about yourself and gotten over them, here they come. It's truly disgusting to me. I had that happen to me twice. I don't go back because I think about the reason why we broke up in the first place or should I say that I keep thinking about how he dumped me and kept going.

yup...it's like they have a sixth sense or something. They never seem to pop up until you have moved on and are doing well. I just remember all the dumbness they did and keep it moving.

Nope. It's a set up. He would dump you so hard you'll still be standding in the same spot with your mouth hanging open three days later
If he's changed, Praise God. Go be changed somewhere else

exactly... most of the time they aren't really serious anyway...they might be in need of a little ego boost at the moment and just want to see if they can get you back...that's it! If they didn't care about you enough to treat you right b4, why all of a sudden do they now I'm not one to fall for the "they've changed" thing either..Folks RARELY TRULY change...people are who they are ...It's only a matter of time b4 they start their mess again. Some women really need to wake up and see things for what they are.

 

[Ms_Delikate]

Boy, I wish I could find him and re-dump him Y'all just don't understand how good it feels

OMG.....You are killing me...I love it. I am so glad I am reading this thread cause I am going through the same thing right now and it makes me feel sooo good to have my ex begging and me being able to shoot down all of his shyt each and every time. I love it!!